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Summary: excellent!
Review: this book is great despite the negatives i've been reading about it. first of all it saves you alot of time and i dont see it as a way of finding a mate its a way of life. it helps you focus on what you are doing and not waste time on relationships. also it prevents you from getting hurt needlessly. it eliminates the bad type of man you don't want to get with...whereas if you pursued someone you might not be sure if they liked you. this book is a great guide especially for those who are clueless about what to do and keep getting conflicting information about dating. it eliminates people who play games as well or who are just looking for sex. for me its just basic protection. authors did a great job!!
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Summary: How to catch *certain* men, but not others
Review: I'm very glad The Rules came out.After finding "The Rules" I gained an insight into the game that *certain* types of men expected me to play, and were themselves playing. However as I was trying to do the Rules, I realized that "The Rules" just don't work on some people, and that doesn't make it a bad relationship or a bad situation -- it just means that these people don't follow the same male/female roles. I agree with Dr. Tracy Cabot, and the previous reviewer who mentioned Kiersey/Myers-Briggs persoality typing, in that "The Rules" fail to take into account individual sensitivity. In short, it's a good description of some people... but not of others. Despite its flaws, I find "The Rules" is a good guide for survival out in the dating world. I can see how this book has its merits. It is a very useful guide to how to set your own limits, and not get taken advantage of. I don't think it has universal applicability, and I think you need to exercise some critical thinking about each rule. The basic spirit of "The Rules" is don't get with anyone who doesn't already like *you*, don't make yourself totally available with your time, make them do their share of the work, and don't let them - too early in the game - think they've 'won you' before you've actually set up a committed relationship. This is great advice for *anyone*. This is especially great advice for those "nice guys" out there who can't get women to like them as anything more than friends. Basically the message is... "don't let them win the race before they've actually crossed the finish line." Don't give your all to someone who hasn't given their all. The bit about a "romantic gift" I have issue with because everyone's idea of romantic is different. I always hated it when guys got me a single red rose or something stereotyped because it showed they didn't know what I really liked. On the other hand, the most romantic gifts I've gotten were: from one, books about cats and psychology (interests of mine); from another, a stuffed Linux penguin, a computer game and a science fiction magazine. The *letter* of The Rules however is what I had the most issue with. It assumes all people are basically the same. In my experience, the sweetest, most wonderful men in my life were the shy and emotionally available ones who had made themselves available for friendship, but had not approached me in a 'Dating' style format as is outlined in "The Rules". According to "The Rules" I should ditch these men because they didn't make the first move. "Romantic" is also in the eye of the beholder. For those of you versed in Kiersey/Myers-Briggs terminology, I agree with the guy way back, who commented that "The Rules" may apply to ESFJ women trying to snare ESTJ or ESTP men - these are the extraverted, sensate, everyday people that constitute 90% of us, from construction workers to corporate lawyers. I agree there. I'm an INTP/INFP, and also an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and have in recent years exclusively dated people like me - i.e., my fellow geeks. Favorite meeting places for me, and the people I like to date, are generally not going to be the "meat-market" venues suggested by The Rules. Actually I tried to do that scene for years, and found I was meeting -- sensate, extraverted guys I had nothing in common with, both as a bookworm and as an introvert. In short --
If your dating style is to go after alpa-male types, and go to meat-market venues, then yes, follow The Rules and follow ALL of them. This is an EXCELLENT guide as to how to date alpha male corporate lawyer types while avoiding the players who invariably know at least half of the rules (but will bail if you play ALL of them). A good book to pair this with would be "Men who can't love". If you like those shy, intellectual kind of guys, or guys with a more developed feminine side, and you don't go to meat-markets --
AVOID this book. Better guides to dating would be: "Intellectual Foreplay" by Eve Eschner Hogan and Steven Hogan "The Highly Sensitive Person in Love" by Dr. Elaine Aron
"if The Buddha Dated" by Charlotte Kasl.
"How to love a Nice Guy" by Judy Kuriansky. "The Rules" works for 90% of men. If that's what you go for - then by all means. I have a friend I desparately wish would read this book, because she keeps getting taken in by exactly the kind of guys who need "The Rules" done on them. HOWEVER - if you are interested in that other 10%, generally a quieter, more sensitive and cerebral kind of person -- don't be afraid to admit that.
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Summary: Buy the book...it works!!
Review: Hey ladies, Use the techniques in this book change it to fit your life. It really works...I have been married to my Rules man since 1999. We met in 1998!! Right about the time I read this book and I used him as a trial run for the methods used in this book...we were JUST friends...well guess what!! We still are JUST friends...Just BEST friends!!! Good luck to you!!!
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Summary: I'm sorry too, but it does work.
Review: The Rules work. I'm really sorry to say because wouldn't it be nice if we all had evolved to a level where this stuff didn't matter? However, the fact remains that biologically we really aren't that different and man really is still the hunter. (Read the Moral Animal if you want a more scientific explanation). Isn't it dreadful? Yet, at the same time theres a lot to be said for just waiting for a guy to make some effort. I agree with the authors that asking a girl out properly a few days in advance really isn't being unreasonable is it? I'm not sure about the don't call back thing (like a lot of other people) but instead of calling I just send a brief text message if it seems appropriate, but not getting on the phone just to chat about nothing in particular. Having said that theres one more thing I'd like to add: the Rules are damn hard to do. They really are. I think that if you do agree with these principles then get a buddy who agrees with you and that way you will support each other. I think that women can just stress and focus too much when they meet someone very special and if by doing something like the Rules helps to alleviate that then thats a good thing. Also, I was interested in this book but I do think that remembering you are special and trusting that someone one day will realise that too and that you don't have to force the issue, chase him or get physical too soon is pretty much the premise and what the Rules tries to do is package that pretty general idea into simple, social instructions that give specifics. This makes it seem very manipulative at times but I think thats just the difficulty of translating concepts into actions that people can understand/follow.I think with the advent of the Rules Corporation or whatever it's called it also seems like a great way to make money! The whole idea of phone consultations and paying [a lot] plus to check up on this stuff is a bit much. Not all of the Rules are applicable in every situation but I do think that if you remember to leave the guy wanting more, trust there is someone for everyone and make sure your life is happy and busy and you are too then you don't really have to know too much more.
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Summary: Pig slop
Review: Why is this pig slop? 1 - If you enter a relationship based on dishonesty, you'll wind up married to someone you don't know. 2 - If a guy knows this is the game, and it's not really you, he will get turned off instantly. 3 - The book tells a woman how to catch a man who enjoys the chase. Wouldn't you rather catch a man who enjoys you? 4 - What kind of manners are based on not returning phone calls? I'm a guy, and I've read it. It's taught me how to avoid girls looking to follow the advice of some untrained pop-gurus. (These are pop gurus that lack the academic or professional background required to be taken seriously.)
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Summary: Sorry that it works, but it does...
Review: I came of age during the women's movement, when the old rules about dating were supposedly set aside. Several decades later, I found The Rules. At the time, I was dating a man who claimed to be a feminist. Well, guess what? "The Male Feminist" turned out to be a typical male. The Rules worked like a charm. The authors are correct- men are completely irrational when it comes to dating. If you insist on clinging to the idea of "being yourself"-assertive,outspoken, egalitarian, etc. you will probably attract men like my "feminist" boyfriend who thought it was only fair that I pay for my half of all dating expenses, even though he earned five times my income.
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Summary: An interesting book
Review: An unusual way to dating. For women. Do I agree? Yes, with certain reservations. It is a book helping women to treat themselves with respect and dignity. A book that will teach them how to put themselves first before any man. To believe in themselves rather than give up on the first man who smiles at them. I would definitely recommend it to all women who forget about their lives and their career after the first date. By Thei Zervaki, a career and business coach
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Summary: The Rules
Review: I don't care what this book says. Any woman who doesn't return my phone calls is getting the boot.
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Summary: Quite an eye opener!
Review: A close female friend of mine recommended "The Rules" to me years ago. I read, I laughed, and I smiled. It was also the inspiration for the book, "From the First Date to the Bedroom ~ The Single Man's Official Guide to Success with Women" Ladies,(gents too)this is a must read! Butch Mazzuca
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Summary: *Please do not take this book seriously!!
Review: If you do read this I hope at least you get a good laugh and do not take it seriously. I found this book at work on a book exchange table. I took the book as a joke the moment I picked it up and would break it out once in a while to laugh with my girlfriends about the ridiculous advice that this so-called woman was offering to other women. Advice such as "don't talk too much," I thought this CANNOT be serious. The manipulations that this book advices is seriously dangerous for any and all womens self-esteem and self respect if taken seriously. I am appalled that a woman in this day and age would be offering and profitting off of such sick advice, hopefully if you do read it you will be too. This book is so incredibly backwards I found it hugely entertaining until I saw it in here and saw the 5 star ratings it was getting, that is terrifying. Please find something else if you want to "get a man."
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