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Summary: WARNING!!
Review: I would like to warn ladies from this recipe for disaster..
playing such harsh, unfair games only pushes smart men away,
it doesn't take long for someone to realize that a woman is playing games, and so he saves face and becomes resentful and stubborn and eventually he leaves.
If you try these rules on someone you admire, i can garantee that he will eventually get resentful and angry and leave.
these rules are against the spiritual law that says "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
how do you expect someone to care and give you love and affection when you deprive him of these same things?!!
even if a man innocently did give you love and affection at the begining out of admiration, later on when he discoves that you play games!! he will feel deceived and give you hell for it.
No one likes to feel that he's been fooled from someone who plays games on him. and trust me it doesnt take a smart man to realize that a woman who does the rules is playing games...I really hope that the women who wrote this book, would one day have the decency to come out and admit their wrong.
as someone who out of experience realised the false claims of this book, i m here to warn you.
If you want love and affection from a decent man give it...thats the rule...
P.S. to be honest i have to admit that the rules did bring me some men, you know who, the old fashioned, pride less manipulative horrible men, and it sure made me loose the well educated tender natured lovely handsome men...
I hope this review can save you ladies reading it,
I hope so before its too late....
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Summary: My version of the Rules
Review: Could this age-old notion work? Is it best to be aloof.................to be mysterious?
Of course, we need to establish meaningful relationships based on honesty and trust, however on Venus, we dig into things. We uncover a lot. We explain everything. But when visiting Mars, there is a lot to be said for not letting it all out at once. This is not a recommendation to play games. In fact, it's the antithesis of playing games. You can stick to your motives........get your heart's desire, and be happy if you just RELAX. It's about trusting that you deserve what you DO like and that if the man in question is meant to be, he will deliver it on his own. If he is worthy of you, you will NOT need to push and belabor and give it all away. We may be clouding the perfect glass ball that is before us. Just watch a man. Let him act on his own. Observe and be patient. Just watch and see what he's capable on his own.
Yes, he may need encouragement and reassurance and being candid is not a bad thing. The problem is when you hand him the answers on a silver platter. When you feed him the lines you want to hear and he delivers them back perfectly!! Or is that perfect? You have undoubtedly either A) just heard him say something that you wanted to hear, but not what he really meant or felt, thereby hurting you in the long run because, frankly ladies, he NEEDS to want you on his own terms. OR B) he will not respond to you the way you liked, leaving you only more wrapped up and hurt. Infuriated perhaps. It will blind you to what he IS doing that may be wonderfully special in his own way. Or blinding you, more dangerously, from what he is NOT doing. That is cause for concern.
Sit back.......read his signs. If it comes naturally from him, it will feel all the better.
Often women try to impose their thoughts and feelings on someone to PUSH them and see what they really feel. If they're feeling anything of value, there will be no need to push. And no, not all men are super confident and outgoing......and if he doesn't call you the day after he met you, it doesn't mean that he did not like you or is not really serious. Men may not come in the cookie cutter shapes you'd hoped for. And that doesn't mean they aren't real men. He may do it in his own time and in his own way, and that is just as honorable. However, we often try to control this by forcing ourselves on them to tame our own insecurities ........... This is the hardest part. Being aloof and mysterious does not mean not being able to show him you like him. It does not mean acting sheepish or spineless........It's empowering. It means that you trust and love yourself so much that you will wait to see his natural reaction and have the strength of character to accept whatever the outcome.
If you want to call him, definitely do! If you want to tell him you like him, definitely do! Follow your heart always and being candid is gold. However, don't do so to rush to that state of acceptance. Just be honest with yourself as to why you're doing it. Are you insecure that he may not call you so you want to beat him to the punchline and make up some excuse to call.........manipulating the situation so that maybe a date can come out of it. That's not from the heart. That's not candid. That's despair.
Would we rather lasso them in to secure their attention, regardless of whether they just feel bound to giving it, or would we rather relish in the comfort and peace of knowing that it came on their own will. This is not 50's advice to never call a man or make your move. But do so only with pure intentions. The former will be met with excitement. It shows self-love and assuredness. Confidence and passion. If you act and you are rejected, then you must accept it. But you'll know that you followed your heart and if it did not lead you far, then that path was not meant for you. The latter will be met with resistance. It shows urgency, despair, distrust in yourself. Have you merely beguiled this man into your arms. You will not have the peace of mind, knowing that he is where he wants to be. Or at least, that he's there for the reasons you would like him to be there.
If you trust yourself, all the answers will fall into your lap. Men can be quite simple and marvelous creatures if we let them be. Generally full of good-will, but don't ruffle them up for sheer drama, or intrigue, out of despair. Just watch and listen w/out imposing your own agenda. If you feel you are pushing and rushing.....or, even annoying yourself, chances are that you are having that effect on him as well. Being upfront and honest will be happily met if it is coming from your center of peace. It will only strengthen your message. A weak, hesitant, rushed, uncomfortable push will lead no where.
It's not about changing your personality and style. Your independence and strength are uniquely wonderful qualities. Just don't let a relationship consume you.......pressure you...... You can be THAT person without suffocating the other person. We often push out of insecurity, fear, loneliness and frustration. It's been said that sometimes the delivery is more important than the actual message. Also been said that patience is a virtue. Put the two together and slow down. My wise girlfriends have shared this with me. They may have other weaknesses, but this is a strength of theirs that is helping me overcome a weakness of mine. For that I am grateful.
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Summary: Sick book
Review: I firmly believe that Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider don't like men. Some things it said were valid, like live your own life, etc.
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Summary: These reviewers need to stop and think
Review: I think that most of the nay-saying reviewers "protest too much"! There's something very strange about how vile the reviews are for such a "fluffy" book. Nobody HAS to do the rules--it's an aid for people who really want to get married and don't know how to get there. If you have another way, fine. That's great if it works for you. But most of these reviews are VENOMOUS (I mean, if it's so meaningless, why talk about it?) This book is for people who WANT to get married!! Most of the reviewers seem to think that "trying to get a husband" is the underlying evil of the book (!) But that's just what SOME people want! If a person wants a loving husband, this book is wonderfully helpful. If you want to go about things your own way, then go do it! But quit knocking a book that has helped a lot of people find what they're looking for.
I've had success with it--I just learned to tweak a few things and attracted a husband who adores me for who I am--and knows all of my crazy quirks too!!
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Summary: Some reviewers are missing the point
Review: Having read all of the customer reviews for this book, it is my opinion that most of the critical reviewers are missing the aim of the Rules completely. Put simply, the Rules are just a tried and tested means of separating those who are REALLY interested in you, from those that are not. Why waste time on someone who isn't all that keen on you? The Rules just filter them out from the outset. It's as uncomplicated as that.
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Summary: Pity
Review: Here is a wacky book that assumes love relation is about practicing rules of manipulation. It encourages (women) to pretend what they are not to get men to marry them. Amid dozens of near stupid* (see notation below) and odd rules, two authors presented a lot of illogical reasoning to convince readers that all men need this sort of manipulation to be happy with their women. Over and over the authors emphasized it is not manipulating your men but actually helping them... your relatinship becomes miserable when breaking the Rules....if the Rules screw up your emotional life, do not consult with your therapists....On the contrary, two self-claimed-expert authors advertised their consultation fee on their web site for $200 initial fee plus $75 per 45-minute session afterwards or discounted package: $800 per 6 x 45-minute sessions and $1000 per 8 x 45-minute sessions...Wow, easy money from readers who swallowed the poison. This book is so strangely influential to the dating scene that I had to leave this review to have my opinion heard. In relationship, you get what you pay for. To each his/her own kind. There are certain men enjoy playing hunting games. There are certain men who can't identify or resist manipulation. There are certain men who only want what they can't get. These men who would most likely comply with the Rules are suggested to be the Mr. Right. The book makes effort to assure its readers that these are the right men for the "Rules Girls". What about the rest of regular types of men who are busy and matured enough not to play games and just want to find nice women to get married with? They probably won't survive or give a dame about complying with the Rules. From men's point of view: there is a boundary between women's playing hard-to-get games and being rude or plain stupid. It's likely that women who play The Rules cut themselves off from those Mr. Right who prefer not to marrying to irrational spouses. It is a pity that some pretty women whom I was originally attracted to or had crush on still played the Rules and turned me off eventually. What they did not realize was: "The more they played the Rules, the more they revealed their low self-esteem and under-developped intellect and the less attractive they became to me". The Rules just does not work for a guy like me who only wants to find a loving and compatible spouse to marry with.... In a way, I should be glad about this book because it kept me from falling for those attrative women who were pitiful enough to buy in those stupid rules and stubborn enough to believe it was good for them. I may not marry the most intelligent woman but I really want my children genetically smarter than these rules. _______________________________________________________________
Note: Do not answer to a baby's crying for hunger until the fourth time. What's the emotional similarity between a man's calling for a woman's affection and a baby's crying for hunger? Both are needy desires. All men were once babies. Human desire wears out gradually when passion is not properly returned. The stomach digests itself in long-lasting starvation and will no longer accept regular food without proper treatment. But, according to the Rules, this baby will love you more if you don't feed him often and no more than once every four cries. Is there any word other than stupid* to call this? It is a pity that this book draws many followers from the ignorant.
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Summary: THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH!
Review: Well all I can say is this is the best book along with part 2! I have tried being nice, thoughtful and wonderful and all it's gotten me was years of heartache. I have just began reading both these books and I am TOATLLY REPROGRAMMED! following the advice of these books has offered me alot of MALE FRIENDS !and I choose who I want to give my time too :) and my time is not only spent with just one, which makes me BETTER at this :) Don't be a SKEPTIC try this and you'll see for yourself!
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Summary: okay
Review: Well it doesn't start out so bad, I thought that some of the advice is actually common sense, but when you go further into the book then it starts to get ridiculous. Sometimes it seems as if the women imply that one should give the facade of having a life even if you don't. Well I actually have a life. And some of the advice makes sense i.e. "don't open up too fast, don't mention marriage on the first date, dress nice & look attractive." It sounds pretty good, but its common sense. A lot of it seems manipulative & just silly i.e. "don't see him more than once or twice a week, don't accept a sat. night date after wed., don't discuss the rules with your therapist." Not everyone finds love by going through the rules, if you've got common sense and a good head on your shoulders, then you'll do fine without the rules. The authors also imply that if you don't follow the rules then you won't end up married or in a committed relationship. Halfway through it feels as if the authors were trying to manipulate the reader by giving advice like "don't discuss the rules with your family, friends, and therapist." Ideas are meant to be challenged, and if they were so sure on their Rules then they wouldn't feel threatened if the reader told her loved ones. Besides family & friends are there to help not hurt and give advice. They act as if by using the rules you'll end up with a man. Nothing is 100% guaranteed, I don't care how good it sounds. You might end up being pursued by the wrong guy, hey its happened. Bad boys love a challenge too, and playing hard to get might actually end up hurting you. Guys might think that your just trying to be polite when you talk to them and move on. The authors need to get real. I know plenty of people that used their common sense & were smart in dating and are married without following the rules. BTW, I don't like to follow advice from authors that have no success in relationships. I read in a newspaper article that one of them got a divorce, not exactly the type of person that's qualified to give advice on relationships. Nothing personal, I'd just rather get advice from an author that has succeeded in that area. Save your money ladies, and check it out from your library first.
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Summary: Book of games for the modern woman to be a high school tease
Review: This book explains why one of my ex-girlfriends sunk my boat, my ex-wife #1 emptied 200 gallons of heating oil in my basement, rendering my house un-livable for 9 months Ex-wife #2 crashed my car through a 7-11, (who said that women are better drivers) and wife #3 made false claims of spousal abuse and served me with an order of protection on me. It also explains why wife #3 was shocked when I served her divorce papers the same week. It explains why my ex-wife #4 burned my living room with candles. These were all attempts, on the female's part to force me to prove my persistent and genuine LOVE for her. How narcissistic can you get without a prescription, it's beyond me! Now I love all of them; I love them away from me. Life is too short for dangerous games. It seems so strange that all over the world people stay married forever and here in the US married life is like the Jerry Springer show. I thank the authors for writing this book for explaining my wives childish behavior and giving me closure. If you want a happy life with a man, treat him the way you would treat your father, that is if your mother didn't chase your father away as well. I am now 45 and I have no desire to be with any female for any reason, and I found out that the women that played these games are desperate for any man. Maybe I should bulldoze their houses to force them to prove their persistent and genuine LOVE for ME!
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Summary: A Girl's Best Friend
Review: Diamonds are not a girl's best friend -- this book is. Like Cleopatra, some women are just born knowing what to do to attract men. But what about the rest of us? Have any of you ever found that it was the men you were not very interested in who were most interested in you? That's because, without knowing it, you were doing THE RULES. THE RULES are about respecting yourself, being a creature unlike any other, and being independent. Men aren't attracted to needy, clingy females, nor do they appreciate it when you bend over backwards for them. I know, you'd think they'd like it when you run through hoops for them, but until you're married, don't. THE RULES say the man has to earn the privilege of your company. You never do anything around or with a man that will lead him to disrespect you. Always expect him to respect you. If he doesn't, then it's next! RULES girls don't try to change men. They expect only the best and that's why they get it. If you think THE RULES are old fashioned, then go ahead, experience the heartbreak that comes with breaking them. I just wish this book had been published years ago, because I would have been spared much. This book is so good, I have had to buy more than one copy of this because I keep giving it out to my friends.
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