Rules:Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing Heart of Mr Right

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Summary: The author's marriage failed, so how good can it be?
Review: This book is pretty ridiculous. I got a kick reading it. Sure it's manipulative and conniving - they teach you how to "trick" a person, but the tricks themselves don't work. In fact, it dooms the relationship to failure.

Sure, if you're Catherine Zeta-Jones or Jennifer Aniston, you can play hard to get and get them chasing after you. But if you're a regular mortal, you can trick a person to chase after you for a (very) short time, (you can do that just by refusing to post a photo or lying on your online dating profile), but then you're going to get a backlash as never before when the "getting to know each other" comes.

What it means is, by following the rules, you'll be lonely - and even if you're cool enough to bag a man DESPITE the rules, the rules make sure you never let them know the "real you" and you'll be lonely in a relationship.

Don't take it seriously. If you have trouble finding the right guy, it's because it's never easy. Just work on yourself in the meantime (take dance classes beat the men in XBox Online games, become cultured and sophisticated, and fashionable) and your chances of a real relationship will vastly improve.

After all, the author herself is having relationship problems, so who is she to give hypocritical advice? I mean, if your relationship fails, it doesn't bother her. She made millions of $$$ on her fake advice.

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Summary: You figure it out.
Review: I once knew a girl who wanted a husband so bad she would have married Godzilla--if he'd asked. Boy, did that turn me off! On the other hand, I knew a girl who played so hard to get that I wanted her more than anyone else in the world--until I got her. Now I think that if there was one rule on how to get the right one, the word would have gotten around by now, and we'd all be living happily ever after. You figure it out.

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Summary: Ruined my LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Review: By following these godforsaken rules I lost the love of my life. I'm not sure what I was thinking when I tried this book, but I'd like to warn others... Be yourself, don't follow this book under any circumstances. EVER!!!!!! The author's of this book should be jailed. ZERO STARS! Why isn't that an option?

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Summary: How nice girls can snag the alpha male jerk
Review: This won't work on most "nice" guys in my opinion because they are too intimidated by women, but it will work on the clueless alpha male "hunter" type.

I married a natural rules girl. She was well-schooled in the "rules" because she was a much-coveted cheerleader in high school. She did not have to read a book to learn the rules. She had men wrapped around her finger, and, believe it or not, even drove one so crazy in love with her he committed suicide (he obviously had other problems). She married the best alpha male she could find, then another, and was getting ready to marry a third when she decided what she really wanted after all was a "nice" guy just like her dad.

Enter pitiful "nice" decent guy me who was introduced to her by her married sister who happened to know me. I was good-looking, intelligent, successful, and lacking self-esteem. When I summoned the enormous courage to even talk to a woman, the slightest disinterest on her part would send me away for fear of rejection. A unreturned phone call was all it took to instantly end any pursuit in me.

My future wife pursued me, breaking all her former "rules." It worked, I was in heaven because the beautiful woman of my dreams was pursuing me! I was in love, soon married. I was the wonderful nice guy she wanted - her own dad said I was so "nice" she didn't deserve me. She soon made me miserable with her manipulating, selfish ways. The more manipulating she became, the more I wanted to please her at the expense of my own sanity. At bottom, my lack of self-esteem was envisioning methods to end my pain for good. When she started becoming verbally abusive, I cheated on her, only to compound my misery. Luckily, I finally discovered that true love comes yourself and not anyone else (one of the premises of this book). Once you love yourself, you don't take any crap from the opposite sex.

I devoured all the books like this I could find on ways to manipulate the opposite sex. The techniques pretty much work on either sex, even if the underlying reasons they work are different. The book gets only four stars because while it covers all the bases, there are other books that present more devious, but much more effective methods of psychological manipulation out there. I figured revenge would be sweet, and since she still had her good looks, she was salvagable as a wife.

Now she's well-aware that unless she pleases me, I'll walk. I'd just as soon be by myself than with her, and there are plenty of beautiful, nice women out there and in other countries who would love to have a guy like me. She has more training to endure. She is slowly learning that her niceness to me is rewarded by about 1/2 as much niceness back to her and that any selfishness or tantrums on her part are rewarded by devious but effective psychological manipulation. To my initial amazement, she took it well.

I'm certainly much happier, and more successful than ever, and she is starting to see the benefits of keeping her man happy. Dare I say she even shows signs of being turned on by the new arrangement and maybe now that she knows sex is not a weapon against me, she can simply enjoy it. Who knows, maybe, in time, she'll even gain my love again, if she's lucky.

Unlike other male reviewers, I have no problem with "nice" girls using these techniques to attract alpha males to avoid getting hurt - just be careful what you wish for, you'll need to manipulate him for as long as you keep him.

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Summary: Not Antifeminist in the Least Bit
Review: Many think that these rules are antifeminist and set women back 50 years. In actuality, the opposite is true. Despite the progress women have made in society, people instictively think that when a man pursues a woman, he is taking on more responsibility. However, when a woman actively seeks a man, people think she is doing so to shirk responsiblity. Asking men out is often a sign of dependence, not independence.
When a woman happily goes about her life, takes care of herself, and lets the men come to her, she is showing that she can do just fine without a man. This is the kind of woman a healthy man wants. If a woman is able to live without him, but chooses not to, he thinks to himself, "I must be something special".

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Summary: Would give ZERO stars
Review: My sister told me one day after intense probing about these "rules" sorry but if you wanna land ME you have to be a cool chick the rules are great if you want to be ugly on the inside.... You wont get a "rock" or so much as a crust of bread out of me using these sleazy techniques....Id rather die alone than be stuck in a relationship with a heartless harpy!

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Summary: Interesting Read, But Beware
Review: The book does have some good points - the first one being having self-confidence, self-esteem and appreciating one's uniqueness. After all, other people will treat you the way you treat yourself and even if someone gives you a compliment, but you consider yourself to be undeserving and unworthy, if you don't really like yourself, it may be hard to believe that anyone else would like you either. But it is a question of genuinely assessing your assets and your value, rather than just walking around with your nose up. For a happy and lasting relationship - the appreciation has to be mutual. If the relationship is not based on integrity and trust, it ain't going to last. Tricking someone into a relationship won't lead to lasting happiness.

I did give this book three stars because I think it's useful being aware and knowing different tricks, even if you're never going to use them, or if you're using them and then one day discover that even though you "captured" someone, you're not feeing that good about yourself or about your relationship.

I got this book some 7 years ago, when I was already in a relationship with a person who perfectly qualified for these techniques (he did deserve them as he was practicing something along the same lines himself). Instead of getting out of the relationship (which I did anyway afterwards), I tried some of these techniques and they worked instantly. I was amazed. The only problem was that it took too much work playing the games - so I stopped after a week.

I chose another method later on - based on what I truly desired in my heart. I assessed where I want to go with my life, what are my preferences in life and what kind of a person would best fit into my life as a life-long companion, with common interests and qualities. Then I asked the Higher Power to bring into my life the person that is best suited for me and let go. I didn't go chasing anyone. I trusted that the person with whom I could have the most mutually beneficial and rewarding relationship will cross my path and shortly afterwards he did. All relationships need some work, but at least the work both of us invested in this relatinship was based on mutual growth and support, not on playing manipulative games. Both of us do know a good deal of seduction tricks, but when we use them with each other it's to spice up and deepen the relationship, not to trick another. Without mutual integrity, respect, appreciation and genuine sharing - no relationship will go far.



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Summary: Personality disorders
Review: The concepts behind The Rules explain why more than 50% of marriages in America are failure. The authors apparently mistook being rude as being interesting, and playing hard-to-get as being snobbish. Unfortunately, they did summon a flock of followers. Sad but true, women who suffer from personality disorders tend to buy in these Rules concepts. See more in the following link.

http://www.nomarriage.com/disorders.html

Overall, this book misleads women into thinking Mr. Right should be submissive and obsessive to them. In reality, quality men aren't like that. Successful men and women are too busy and occupied to deal with the immaturity in these rules. Playing hard to get is an art of seduction. Seduction techique varies depending on the individuals. It is far from prudent to name a set of rules for all. I recommend to bypass this illy written book.