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Summary: Worth a Read & Worth a Try
Review: I'm a 35 y/o professional, never-married woman, and self-labeled feminist. At the behest of my best friend, who said I desperately needed to change my approach, I purchased and read this book. I admit I was skeptical, but it described me and my history to a T (everyone wonders why I'm not married; I hear all the time what a "great catch" I am and why any man would/should want me; I have more male friends than any woman I know; but the men I've truly loved have never returned my feelings--at least not to the degree I wanted). So I decided to give it a chance. The cut-to-the-chase, no-room-for-excuses style is short and to the point. The hard-hitting, nobody-said-it-would-be-easy advice makes practical sense in a way it never did before when it was clothed in the morality and taboo of my youth. I routinely work 50-60 hours per week, and I found time to read this book from cover to cover within 3 days. I am repenting my heretofore ineffective ways, and I am wholeheartedly committed to living my life as a "Rules Girl." Step One: "Be a Creature Unlike Any Other." So, before I step out on the dating circuit again, I'm redesigning myself to become the person I truly want to be. I'm cleaning up my act before I take it out on the road: Improving my diet, increasing my exercise, dropping some weight, cleaning up the clutter in my house and my life -- in short, taking care of Me. When I'm ready to get out there again, I'm going to follow "the Rules" to the letter and see what happens. I'm heartened and hopeful about my future in a way I haven't been in years. I recommend the book not for any results it may help me obtain in the relationship realm -- I haven't even had a date since I read it -- but for the changes it has caused me to demand of myself. With the sense of empowerment I feel now, I can't help but have good results in the long run...
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Summary: It teaches a woman how to not get hurt...
Review: At first, I was skeptical. I don't want to manipulate men in order to get what I want... but I'm tired of being dumped and getting mixed up with everyone who ends up being wrong for me. I read this book to help me stop getting hurt.This book addresses that very clearly. I have to change some of my ideas on modern-day dating. being totally honest and upfront about everything "too" quickly isn't healthy. Take Care of myself and develop myself has to happen.. and being Selfish about giving my Heart away. It's a precious commodity and shouldn't be tossed at the first bidder. I tried the Rules when I went dancing with a girlfriend of mine. The guy I attracted did everything this book said he would do. I waited for him to approach me and was reserved with my interest. And I feel empowered,, not helpless .. wow..Amazing ...! Thanks so much for enlightening all of us about these areas.
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Summary: I was reading....
Review: well, I was reading some of the reviews, 18 of them. All the confusion makes me actually scared of the book! It was either, "the book is totally the best" or "this book is trash!" I finnally found one that made me feel better about myself & this person made me feel less tense about marriage & dating. I guess the only true people I can rely on are myself & my mother. My mother is probably like the rules & I am just hoping along the rocks & not getting hurt since I have never dated. I am sure I have taken the wrong start of a certian road called "figuring guys out", but that doesn't make me want to fall to the ground & cry. I realize there are many types of people out there: they can get hurt easily, or are hardly hurt by men.....Please don't take all the rules seriously since some of them are silly & I bet some are good too! so whatever you want to do...buy the book or read reviews, take with you on your journey your mind.
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Summary: Best wake up call to dating in the 90s
Review: Excellent, practical advice that makes perfect sense (about everything you couldn't seem to figure out)
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Summary: HMMMM . . .
Review: Ok- I really don't think book is a wise investment. I bought it for my (guy) friend as a birthday joke- I wrote: I hope this book helps you get EVERYTHING you want! hehehe. but anyway- when I brought it home from the bookstore (p.s.- i felt absolutley rididculous actually BUYING it!)- I started to read through it a little- just out of curiosity. ok- I admit it- I couldn't put it down- not because it was GOOD by any means- so just darn AMUSING. Its funny how LAME it is! and the book keeps defending itself the entire way through! I found it quite annoying to read. oh also- um... the book suggests you DON'T discuss The Rules with your therapsit. hey- wonder why??!? alrght- well anyway- no man will fall in love with you because "You make him feel longing". thats just silly. the only good point I got out of it was to always end phone conversations first. This leaves him wanting more. ok- that might actually have some underlying truth to it- but the rest of the book is trash. I mean- I could revise the book in about 10 pages!!! the rest is just nonsense stories about people (fictional, I'm sure) who DIDN'T keep the rules- and oh my gosh! Didn't snag the man of their dreams. uh huh.
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Summary: Great advice if it's a macho type you're after
Review: If you try following the rules, like I did, you're bound to end up with an immature and unsophisticated macho type. If you learn to have you own sense of self-worth (hint: it will NOT come from some needy, desperate book like this one) and have the maturity to have an open and intimate relationship, you will either find the right man for you, or just be alone. Better to be alone than in bad company! If you cannot open your heart to your lover you will have a very shallow relationship (some people are satisfied with this, I guess...). If you're so desperate that you have the tendency to declare undying love for a man after the second date, I recommend a psychiatrist.
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Summary: A damaging book!
Review: Why in the world would you do things that nearly all men don't like??? How would you like it if he very rarely returned your phone calls? How would you like it if he seemed disinterested in you? Treat him the way you would like to be treated. Also, most men are like kids wanting a particular toy. If he can't have it, he will want it even more. It doesn't mean he will treaure it. DO THE THINGS MEN LIKE; NOT THE THINGS WOMEN THINK MEN LIKE. Read "How To Find And Marry The Man Of Your Choice." This is what will work on men! Perry Rose, author of "I Love You...Will You Marry Me?!"
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Summary: Do NOT Buy this book - buy Women Who Run With the Wolves
Review: "The Rules" is an irresponsible bunch of superficial dribble. It targets frustrated women who are looking for an immediate solution to their loneliness. It only distracts women from doing the much needed and necessary work of digging through the closests of their souls and dragging out all of their dirty laundry for examination. There are no quick fixes for emotional scars or insecurity. You have to examine your faults - accept them while realizing EVERYBODY has faults, even Supermodels - attempt to correct those faults you can't live with while realizing it takes time to replace bad learned behavior with good habits - be gentle with yourself and realize your own self worth and value. Refuse to settle for anyone who treats you badly. You will never have to make excuses for the true love of you life because he will never intentionally hurt you. Any guy who tramples on your emotions is not worth having. If you see a series of red flags - bolt for the door without stopping! Refuse to settle for Mr. Almost-Right-But-Wrong, he will only end up making your life miserable. When you reach that place where you truly believe you would rather spend the rest of your life alone then to spend one night with Mr. Wrong...that's when you'll find true love. If you are looking for a seriously helpful and soul nurturing book read "Women Who Run With the Wolves"...
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Summary: Best advice I've ever taken
Review: I was skeptical, but read it. Re-read it. Decided to give it a try. I was ready for a good man, not a little boy. I admit, following the rules took all the self constraint I could muster, but the benefits were unquestionable. I am married to a great guy who vowed never to re-marry, and was considered a love-em-leave-em kind of person. From the first night we met, I followed the rules. It was very hard to follow th recommendations at first, but after awhile, as I saw THEY WORKED!, I began to enjoy being chased. And cherished. This book was a lifechanger for me.
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Summary: Nothing to do with Self Respect
Review: This book is sad, and the reviews of the book, sadder still. The Rules advise us to *appear* lively, independent, happy, and full of self-respect, but never do they encourage actually *being* so. This is truly sad. Many of the more basic rules would still apply, if we were to follow the second route and truly make our lives so full that we were not waiting for a man to ask us out for a date on a Friday night (for instance, the advice that we should go ahead and make plans for the weekend if a man hasn't called by mid-week). But the book betrays the idea of self-respect, by making the *appearance* of independence more important than the independence itself. The authors' words in this book reak of weakness and desperation. Infinitely more helpful would be a book that advised us not to base our lives around the opinions of men at all. But instead, it advocates a veneer of inner strength, for the sole purpose of winning men's approval. How low can American women's collective sense of self-worth plummet? I am shocked that a book that implies that abusive relationships are the fault of the woman (yes, that is the direct implication of the statement that "Rules marriages" will never end in abuse) could gain such acceptance. Many reviews suggest overlooking the more ridiculous parts of the book. But this book cannot be salvaged at all, despite certain amounts of truth, because it is premised on a false self-esteem.
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