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Summary: a good guide...to keep women like these away from you
Review: I'll have to say that this book was very handy in my dating life...however, not for the way the authors intended. When I notice that a potential partner starts acting according to The Rules (i.e. never returning calls; insisting on lavish treatment; "acting" confident or involved in something I'm interested in, yet knows nothing about it; etc.), I never call back. Ever. For example, on one occasion I saw a copy of "The Rules" in a date's domicile (I know I know, she broke a rule, but I was picking her up for a dinner date.) It hit me. She never returned messages (which I thought was rude) and acted rather aloof and "not herself." Because I was getting faked out, I faked a stomach cramp, went home, and never called her again. She kept calling my house for a while...thank goodness for Caller ID. She eventually gave up. She got to see how *we* like it. Perhaps I did her the greatest good to see how living by "the Law" cannot bring about the fruits of genuine "dating grace." Seriously, life is too short to waste on people that need to follow a presubscribed list of "rules and regulations" to have a relationship. Any healthy relationship is predicated on honesty, trust, a desire to "not go too quickly" or get hurt, &c. If you're feeling lonely, unfulfilled, and self-conscious, do something healthy for yourself. Workout. Read. Take a class. Join a group. Attend church. Do *SOMETHING* to increase your self-worth...THEN begin dating. This is a harder and longer path...but it's got a better success rate than simply faking it. Following two faux-therapists' half-truths isn't a proper surrogate.
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Summary: I really like the book. 10
Review: I'd like to say that the Rules is a great book for women. Women tend to obssess over men and this book helps you to focus on yourself instead of him. If you read the rules, they seem manipulative and anti-feminist, but when you actually do them, they help a woman to put herself first in her life. Yeah, yeah, you're saying, "Well, she should do that anyway". Yes, that's true, but so many women are good at their jobs, and independent in so many ways, but when it comes to men, they melt. They forget about their friends, and start waiting for HIM to call (if she likes him).I've been doing the Rules for one year. I am currently dating 3 men. They all know about each other, I don't lie. But it helps me to take the relationship slower. I wait to have sex, (currently not sleeping with anyone), but I'm getting to know all of them. I'm enjoying men for the first time, as friends, and don't feel the pressure of dating only one guy, telling him everything about my life, and telling him how much I like him. I'm still very much myself, but I don't constantly focus on how much I like him, I don't obsess over any of them, I'm happy when I see them because I don't have major expectations of them. I enjoy their company and who knows, I may really care for one of them. But there is no rush. They enjoy my company and tell me often. I'm having the time of my life. I feel no pressure when I am out with them, I am much more myself. I don't feel like I have to perform, and I don't have to have sex with anyone unless I feel I am ready. They have so much more respect for how I feel. They treat me so kindly as I do them. I don't feel angry toward them. When I wasn't doing the rules, I would expect them to be calling me everyday, and if I had sex with them I would feel totally used if they didn't tell me they loved me. Sue me. That's how I was, and I'll tell you, I know a whole lot of other women like that. The Rules are great,and they are very feminist. You must do them to get the benefits. If you only read them, you will never understand how it changes your behavior and your perspective toward men. You will only ridicule them as so many people do. Good luck and I thank those two wonderful women for helping so many kind, nice, sensitive women who only want the best for themselves and others.
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Summary: Great Book! Simplistic but very helpful!
Review: I read this book a few years ago and I can honestly say it helped me tremendously. I'm a smart, take-charge type of woman but I was really letting guys walk all over me. As soon as I started following this book, I began to have much better relationships with men and now I am engaged. It's funny because my fiance describes ex-girlfriends of his who were pretty but "too eager" or whatever and they sound like the girl I was before figuring things out and reading the Rules. I really recommend it for any girl on the dating scene.
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Summary: Interesting Rules
Review: I'm a male who picked this up just to gain some insight into woman and dating. I must admit this book is hilarious and from the aspect of comic relief alone this book is a must read. As I look back it occurs to me the best relationships I've been in the women broke all the rules. On the other hand the woman that employed the rules didn't get a date with me or certainly didn't get 2nd, 3rd dates, etc, so I don't know how these rules can possibly lead to marriage since they seem to kill your chances of getting 2nd, 3rd or 4th dates. I do recommend this book for men who are often confused about the mixed messages we receive from women; it's probably because of this book or a similar one. If you're gonna play it's only fair to know "the rules" of the game.
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Summary: Rules...for men..To recognize and avoid such game players!
Review: Though this book is rather dated, I read this, and realize now why one author was divorced...it's hard to keep up the games and deceit..for long, after the honeymoon is over, and the two are really discovering who the other is, in a 24/7 relationship. Instead of having a best friend..emphasis on "friend" as in loyal knowing and respectful friend, and lover, one is encouraged to follow these silly rules and have a man fall in love with a manipulative woman, smoke and mirrors, a caricature, who briefly captures his heart, only to lose his heart and respect down the line when the deceitful charade falls apart in time....pathetic...for the author, as well as for the women who follow her flawed advice, and watch her man later fall out of love for her when he learns the rules as well. A "rules" girl is not a long term partner...if a man desires a loving and honest, "down to earth partner, rather than a manipulative partner. And that's not to say some men won't be attracted to such a woman...at first....there are some good commonsense ideas in here amidst the drivel.. It enhances some aspects of self esteem for the woman in a round about way, and there are many far better, more honest ways to work on that if it needs some enhancement. I heartily recommend men to read this book, just to recognize "players" who "play" with, and initially "capture" his heart and emotions, by using The Rules. Thus a smart man can avoid wasting another date with such game players, and find a woman who lets him know her, and really appreciate and love her for who she really is, in a growing, caring sharing relationship...Then, perhaps, we'll have more solid living marriages/relationships based on honesty truthfulness, with resultant love, warmth and fidelity.
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Summary: IT WORKS
Review: This book is NOT anti-feminist, it is really feminist. It is about feeling good about yourself, having your own life, maintaining a positive self-image, and knowing when to move on.
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Summary: This is some really creepy stuff
Review: Do women with IQs above 35 actually believe this drivel? How does lying and manipulating one's way through the dating process create a lasting and secure relationship? The only part of the Rules phenomenon that I liked was taken care of by the Department of Schadenfreude: co-author Ellen Fein's husband left her, citing abandonment. Beautiful.
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Summary: If you're happy alone, then men will wonder why and want you
Review: The Rules, in my humble opinion, is a delightful, outstanding gift from God(dess). It's a regimented set of rules for women who think they need a man to bring them happiness. It's a gift for those women and also for their friends who have to drop what they're doing and talk their girlfriend out of crying fits over the latest guy who broke their heart. Look at Rule #1, it's not "Women, always lie to him, don't call him, don't feed him after midnight", it's "Be a Creature Unlike Any Other." In other words, be yourself and be confident and proud with that self. How many women have trouble even completing that step? How many of us have sat at home hoping, praying that he'd call and getting devastated when he doesn't? If we had a grip on Rule #1, we wouldn't go through that drama and pain. We'd know that we're worth more than a man who can't call us and that someday, the man who remembers our number will find us. Until then, we're fine enjoying our own company and the company of our girlfriends. Bottom line is, your life should not revolve around a man. Have something else to do, men don't like clingy women and you shouldn't want to be clingy. Don't tell him everything on the first date. Would you tell the HR person that you need a week off to visit your sick brother at the job interview? Nope, you'd wait until you were hired! Why do people get so upset when these authors give the same advice on dating relationships? I have one minor quibble with the book. The authors suggest that men prefer long hair. I don't think that matters. (Halle Berry, anyone?) Bottom line, volunteer somewhere, read a book, go for a walk, do anything except wait around for a man. Most of us have been through heartbreak and this book is a good place to start if you'd like to avoid it.
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Summary: it's about getting a life
Review: i loved the lesson i learned from this book. yes, some of the rules are extememly hokey, but look at the overall gist. if you follow the rules and learn to think you are a "creature unlike any other," walking into a room like you own it, excercising, taking care of your body and appearance, making yourself go out even when you dont want to, etc. all these things will change you and you will wind up not having to pretend to be busy when he calls-- you will be busy because you have your own life not based around a man!
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Summary: Great for people who love and give "too much"
Review: I wouldn't follow the rules to the letter, but when you feel yourself giving more to a relationship then you're getting, this is a good reference that forces you to slow down. Step away from the relationship, spend some time taking care of yourself instead of being so wrapped up in him. Allow him time to realize the gem you are, if you're calling 2 or 3 times a day just to "say hi" and you become clingy, even mildly so, it can be a big turnoff. I recommend this book, just don't take it too seriously, there is no way I can stick to the 10 minute phone call rule when we're having a great conversation, and I see no need to do so. On the other hand, I agree about not calling guys, I can't tell you how many times I've called, they were busy, and my feelings were hurt. It does feel much better when they call me, and yes I do return their phone calls, I think it's just plain rude not to. Like any advice, apply the parts that fit with your personality and your life and leave the rest behind.
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