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Summary: People are people, not their diagnosis
Review: I had to work hard to finish this book. There were times when the author would say "If you are borderline....." and then go on to attempt to explain some dynamic of the disorder. No one IS borderline! There are many people who have been given a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder but on one IS borderline. People are people, not their diagnosis. I feel this is one of the many fatal flaws of this book. Especially with diagnosis such as BPD it is very important for clinicians to help people realize that they are not their diagnosis. I am appalled that an apparently well trained and highly experienced clinician would make such a major blunder.It is very clear that the author has a strong passion for his work; however I also feel that he has highly romanticized the people he works with. The book is also full of sweeping generalizations. The only real treatment model he discusses is long-term therapy with as needed hospital admissions that last several days to weeks. In the reality of managed care, these models of treatment are finically available to only a select few. By putting this out as the only model of hope the author sets up an expectation that this is the only path towards healing. This is far from the truth. There are many roads to healing. There were a handful of points that helped me gain some new insights; however they were too far and few between. While I will not get rid of this book, it will not be one I put on the bookshelf in my office. I would not want to imply to anyone that I recommend this book. I especially would not a person who I am working with to assume that since it was on my book shelf that it was something I might recommend they read.
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Summary: The Best Book For Understanding BPD
Review: I have BPD and I found that this book explained it really well. Both people that have and don't have it could relate or empathize in some way. It follows the story of Sarah, a compilation of a bunch of Dr.Moskovitz's BPD client's experiences into one book that makes you both genuinely feel what it is like to live with BPD and helps you to understand it a much better.
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Summary: Must Have Book If you have or know someone with BPD
Review: I have BPD and this book is the best book I have read yet. It explains just what I have been feeling but could not explain myself. It is easy to read and understand without a lot of jibberish. It is a Must Buy!! I would rate this book much higher than a 5 star if I could!! It really helped. In fact I highlighted parts and take it to my therapist and we go over it together. I just can't say enough about how much this book has helped me
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Summary: Thank Goodness! A relief for a BPD woman.
Review: I have to say, I was diagnosed with BPD 3 years ago, and in that time I have tried to find any information I could, but when I read this book, I found a true safe haven. Dr. Moskovitz truly understands the BPD mind. Since I live in Florida, I actually considered contacting him to see if he would treat me, because the therapists where I live do not seem to understand BPD even as well as I do. This is a great easy read for anyone with BPD or someone who loves a person with BPD.
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Summary: Excellent! Insightful!
Review: I just finished reading Lost in the Mirror. I gained a tremendous amount of understanding of my own disorder and a lot of peace of mind. If you suffer from BPD, you may feel that the author had been looking over your shoulder during the writing process. I would recommend this book to anyone struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder.
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Summary: Couldn't put it down-- at last, some insight!
Review: I live with the person that this book describes.
For six years of marriage I have been alternately perplexed and frustrated, angry
and confused. Reading this book has allowed
me to appreciate my wife's special needs. At last I feel that we communicate. At last
I have learned that her _words_ are not the
same as what she really _means_, and I listen
for the emotion as well as the content.
This book helped a lot. It is easy to read
(although sometimes a bit troubling), and
well worth the cost. Now I'm buying copies
for relatives and our family doctor.
Rating: 
Summary: good resource
Review: I read this book after being 'officially' diagnosed with BPD. I found it extremely easy to read with short chapters and good examples of real people. I didn't like the rather simplistic approach to medications and treatment options and the assumption that recovery without a professional is impossible. I think a bit more about how to help oneself in recovery would have been very nice. I recommend it for Borderlines as well as significant others and loved ones of Borderlines.
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Summary: I Love This Book -- It's About Me!
Review: I read this book avidly, and it made me think of my own life. I've written about the subject of borderline personalities extensively and consider myself an authority. Why? Because I suffer from it. The way I deal with my disorder is to rant and rave about my ex-spouse-it's easier to accuse her of having a borderline personality than to deal with my own issues. I've been publishing a lot about the topic on my own website, though most people have told me that I have no evidence for my claims.
You see, I have been hurt. Badly hurt. I was abused as a young child, and it helped make me into the emotionally and physically abusive person that I am today. When I was married, I could use my spouse as my psychological screen, my punching bag. When she didn't want to play that role anymore, I lost out bigtime. Boy, I now wish I'd gone into therapy earlier. Are you intrigued? Visit me on the web under my name.
Rating: 
Summary: Abused Confused Fearful Anxiety Ridden Depressed Destructive
Review: I recommend this book for anyone dealing with a loved one with identity issues, self-esteem issues, mood disorders, any type of addiction, reoccurring unresolved anger, troubling relationship, boundary and trust issues. Excellent compliments to this book are: The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen; The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert Pressman; Emotional Blackmail: When People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier; Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable and Volatile Relationship by Christine Ann Lawson; Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss and James Masterson; Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man by Scott Wetzler; Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin and Lidija Rangelovska (Editor); Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown; Treating Attachment Disorders: From Theory to Therapy by Karl Heinz Brisch and Kenneth Kronenberg; Toxic Coworkers: How to Deal with Dysfunctional People on the Job by Alan Cavaiola and Neil Lavender. And if you want to pursue the subject even further, you may be interested in reading The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective On Marital Treatment; Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility by Jim Fay and Foster Cline.
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Summary: Beneficial but Annoying/Simply A Starting Point
Review: I think the information in this book is extremely helpful, although I was annoyed by the author's attempt at romanticized prose. He should stick to writing as a doctor and not Lord Byron.
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