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Summary: Help to Understanding
Review: Having recently been diagnosed with BPD, I ran out to find information about it. This was the first book I came across. I began reading it and for the first time I started to really understand myself. I found so many answers to questions I wasn't even aware that I had. This book took me on a journey of self-discovery and understanding from which I have emerged much better equipped to deal with the challenges that BPD brings to my life. Wonderful and informative without being boring or condescending. I recommend this to all people with BPD and their friends and families.
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Summary: A bit extreme in its discussion.
Review: I am a "high-functioning" BPD; nowhere did I even find the term in this book! I am a victim of neglect, which can be more devastating than abuse, as its cause and results are so nebulous and hard to pin down; I did not find anything about neglect in this book.What I was looking for was a real discussion of how a person with BPD actually feels from day to day; why do the "paranoias" set in, and how do they differ from actual, delusional paranoia? What I got was an interesting case study of a person with extreme BPD: lost time, multiple suicide attempts, etc. Though I accept that is part of the picture of BPD, it is NOT me . . . I did find the book somewhat helpful, but am reading the Stop Walking on Eggshells book which is designed for family member of BPDs and already finding it more practical.
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Summary: Fantastic, Gentle, Caring, and Informative
Review: I am the webowner of "Borderline Personality Disorder Today".
Finally I got a copy of Dr. Moskovitz's book "Lost in the Mirror," I sat down and cried shortly into the first chapter. It was the very first time that someone understood me and not only that, it was as if the author had his arm around me through the entire book. Lost in the Mirror is so beautifully and gently written and it was also the first time that I realized that I was not miserable because I was a bad person which is what I had always thought. The magic of "Lost in the Mirror" is the mixture of the tremendous clinical experience and knowledge the author has (he is up to date with the research), with his very gentle, warm and caring personality. I have heard from many family members how helpful this book has been for them. Dr. Moskovitz brings you right up to date with his second edition in regards to treatment. He discusses the latest about psychotropic medication, EMDR and DBT. It is important to know that the BPD is treatable and that you can get better.
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Summary: Excellent - In a League of it's Own
Review: I am the webowner of "Borderline Personality Disorder Today." This excellent book is especially written for people with BPD. Gently and beautifully written to assist the borderline and their families to understand this painful illness and some etiology of this disorder. The book is written in such a way as if the author has his arms around you all through the book. There is no other book written about the borderline personality disorder like this as the author validates the borderlines experiences and comforts as well. He helps borderlines to understand themselves.
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Summary: Fantastic Book
Review: I am the webowner of the Mental Health Sanctuary and was delighted to read the updated version of this book. This book was intrumental in helping me to understand my wife and myself as well, as the two of us have this disorder. There is a special section for people involved with those who have the BPD. I was very glad to see the new edition come out as I believe it will clear up a lot of misunderstandings about treating this disorder. Since his first edition, new information has come out regarding treatment and Dr. Moskovitz brings you up to date. Dr. Moskovitz brings up the importance of medication in treating the BPD which many books do not touch on.
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Summary: too generalized
Review: I didn't find this book very helpful. It was too generalized.
Although the story of dreams which intercuts in between chapters is beautiful-highlights things well. A much better book is Christine Ann Lawson's "Understanding the Borderline Mother Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpreditable, and Volatile Relationship."
Even though this may not sound like a very helpful title to borderlines seeking help, so far this is the best book I have read on the subject. I do believe borderline mothers will find helpful to recognizing their own parential behaviors. The book breaks down borderlines into four categories:the waif, the hermit, the queen, and the witch. But mainly it is an excellent book for breaking down the border character in a very concise way.
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Summary: This Book Is a Gift to the World
Review: I discovered LOST IN THE MIRROR three weeks ago. For the first time in my life I am reading someone else's words about borderline and exclaiming, 'Yes, that is what I've had to deal with all these years!' Had I known about this book in 1998, I might not have overdosed for the third time. After seventeen years of therapy I now live a healthy life. Still, LOST IN THE MIRROR has things to teach me. Through it, I'm developing a deeper understanding of how and why I respond and react to intimate relationships with all-or-nothing thinking. I am learning about dissociation. To anyone living with borderline personality disorder, and their families and friends, please know that there is a way out. LOST IN THE MIRROR can help you find it. ...
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Summary: Putting feelings into words
Review: I found this book extremely helpful. This is the first book I could truly relate to on this subject. It was written in a format that was easy to understand, and is helpful for people who have not experienced this disorder. A must for family and friends of borderlines.
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Summary: NOT A GOOD BOOK FOR BORDERLINES!
Review: I found this book, especially it's description of self-injury, to be EXTREMELY trigering. I couldn't help but take some of the examples in the book and put them to use. Although the book does provide some insight into the condition, this book is much more appropriate for families and friends of those with the condition than for the patient herself.
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Summary: People are people, not their diagnosis
Review: I had to work hard to finish this book. There were times when the author would say "If you are borderline....." and then go on to attempt to explain some dynamic of the disorder. No one IS borderline! There are many people who have been given a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder but on one IS borderline. People are people, not their diagnosis. I feel this is one of the many fatal flaws of this book. Especially with diagnosis such as BPD it is very important for clinicians to help people realize that they are not their diagnosis. I am appalled that an apparently well trained and highly experienced clinician would make such a major blunder. It is very clear that the author has a strong passion for his work; however I also feel that he has highly romanticized the people he works with. The book is also full of sweeping generalizations. The only real treatment model he discusses is long-term therapy with as needed hospital admissions that last several days to weeks. In the reality of managed care, these models of treatment are finically available to only a select few. By putting this out as the only model of hope the author sets up an expectation that this is the only path towards healing. This is far from the truth. There are many roads to healing. There were a handful of points that helped me gain some new insights; however they were too far and few between. While I will not get rid of this book, it will not be one I put on the bookshelf in my office. I would not want to imply to anyone that I recommend this book. I especially would not a person who I am working with to assume that since it was on my book shelf that it was something I might recommend they read.
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