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Summary: This is just terrible.
Review: I suffered a break up exactly one week ago and was in the bookstore searching for some solace. I looked through this book and I am sorry to say it made me feel worse than I do right now, if that's even possible.
The book does an excellent job relating to how you feel after a terrible breakup--after the first week of course, I am pretty miserable--but besides that, the strategies offered are really awful and could possibly set you back. Among the bad ideas throughout the book:
(1) Call your ex. Excuse me?? I need to make a clean break here and get on with my life, not risk the possibility of being re-rejected or offered some false hopes.
(2) Go out and have sex. It should be self-explanatory why this one is not helpful.
(3) Have an "implosion" ceremony, where you take out ALL the remaining mementos of your ex (that you should have carefully saved, according to these authors), and surround yourself with them while you watch old home videos and/or listen to the songs you had together. Spend the entire day in mourning and don't do anything to improve your mood. Follow this day with a celebration of the ending of the relationship.
(4) An extensive checklist in the beginning of the book that labels your symptoms as "compulsive," "hysterical," "depressive" and other words that make you feel like you've really lost your mind.
Perhaps this book could be helpful, but ideas like these should best be carried out with the supervision of a therapist.
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Summary: A must have to help ease the pain of breaking up
Review: Letting Go is one of the best self help books on the market today. It takes you through all of the steps of the sadness you feel when you are rejected by someone you love. It justifies all of the emotions that you really do feel, and it makes you realize that you are human and that you are not crazy. I would suggest this book to anyone who is going through the loss of a loved one through a breakup, it will really help them overcome the monotany of the feelings of sadness and rejection
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Summary: I "Let Go" Thanks To This Book!
Review: Loved it! Loved it! Loved it! This book made all the difference in the world when it came to helping me get over my Ex. Great exercises. Many of which have stuck with me all of these years (about 7 now!). I actually have used them to get over other "harmful" situations in my life since. This is one of four books that really changed my life. The others are: How To Survive The Loss Of A Love; Surviving, Healing & Growing (The companion workbook to How To Survive The Loss Of a Love); and The Breakup Diary (a guided journal with leading paragraphs that help you get rid of the negative and start thinking positive). If you're having trouble letting go...you have to get this book!
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Summary: Must have worked cause......
Review: My husband and I were being stalked by his ex-wife. He left her cruelly years ago and she just couldn't get over her obsession with him. As a result, she tried everything to destroy him and even tried using me as her catalyst. In frustration and pity, I sent her this book with complete good intention asking her to realize her behavior and telling her she truly needs to seek help. Although, she didn't admit to accepting the book initially, I truly believe she read at least some of it. Her behavior changed drastically. I see so much self-esteem in her now and she is finally taking an interest in her own life. She finally picked herself up off the ground and seems to really be happy with who she is today. I believe the book truly helped.
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Summary: VERY ACCURATE BUT EXTREMELY SIMPLE
Review: This book deals with the most practical points of view one can observe from a broken heart state of mind. However, just this psicologist can believe you can have relief in 12 weeks. That is the most ridiculous, simplistic and childish ( also mercantile oriented ) I have noticed from this book. The way he passes from stage to stage is just too fast, too unreal.
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Summary: A major disappointment
Review: This book focused more on how to handle a new relationship once you've gotten over a relationship than how to recover from a break up. Though the book did offer a few useful tips on how to handle the early crisis days, it was a disappointment to discover that the authors were more focused on new relationships. I have read much better books on coping with the pain of lost love, and I wouldn't recommend this book to anyone trying to overcome one.
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Summary: Good Advice, with One Caveat
Review: This book has excellent advice, however I think that in this age of AIDS and other sexually-transmitted diseases, it is not advisable to follow the "it's okay to have sex with somebody just because they're there and they're nice" suggestion on page 63 -- the broken-hearted has enough emotional troubles to deal with -- without getting a possibly fatal, or incurable, STD to add to their problems.The feelings of the other 'nice' person who could be falling in love with the newly broken-hearted person is also not considered. Advice like this would not be fair to the new person and may break their heart in turn. After all, they don't know they are being used for sex because "they are there and they're nice." Promiscuity really shouldn't be promoted to people as one of the cure-alls for a broken heart.
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Summary: Not a good Buy
Review: This book is not the best choice for such a delicate matter. I had nowhere to turn, and somebody passed this on to me. They had 'read' it, but hadn't 'used' it (BIG difference). The beginning of the book was very good. It was VALIDATING to read about just how much other guys (and gals) like me, feel the way I do. It was also inspiring to know that 'guys like me' who aren't supposed to get their hearts broken (you know... studs :-)), are the most prone to suicide. Whether this is true or not... didn't matter. the point is I was validated for feeling aweful and feeling ashamed of myself on top of that. The book really takes a dive after about chapter two. The techniques here are out of date, old-fashioned, and hurtful to both parties. I never did get 'over' the person involved; not with this book anyway. Try out 'how to survive the loss of a love' instead by Bloomfield: Much better stuff.
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Summary: This book saved my life
Review: This book saved my life when I broke up with my ex-husband. I had just had a baby, bought a home and found out my husband was cheating all in the same month. This book was my lifeline. I followed the program and kept it by my bed during that dark time. Now, I am rereading it because I did not realize at the time the depth of the information in this wonderful book. I just broke up with another man 10 years later and though it was not as tramautic, the advice about getting out in the dating scene and meeting people is just wonderful. I keep peeling new layers in this book and being amazed at the wisdom and caring of its authors. This book just makes me feel good about myself and life in general. I give copies to all my frinds and tell them this book is a lifesaver.
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Summary: Very good insight to how you may be feeling.
Review: This book talks about the stages to getting through a break-up. It's been helpful to me in the way that it reinforces that I'm not crazy by talking about the phases you go through after a break-up. It talks about the "tan van" syndrome where every car that goes by that looks like the x's, you turn your head to see if it's them even if it's in an area of town you know they wouldn't be in. I find myself doing that! Or being in places that you went to with the x, even if it was only once, you think of them and what it was you did together there or that whole day even. All of those things are normal, even though they're not the healthiest thoughts, they ARE normal. That makes me feel a whole lot less nuts.
There are also coping mechanisms in this book that I'm trying to use. Although there are some funny and even odd suggestions in a couple parts of the book that I shook my head at, such as suggesting that "you don't need to love someone or even like them to have a sexual relationship right now, after all, why deprive yourself of something you could enjoy so much?" I disagree with that but to each their own I guess. Otherwise the book is quite helpful.
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