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Summary: Wonderful, well worth the time and money!
Review: This is an important book for EVERYONE to read. I was raised by two very abusive people and often worry I will be one too. This book helped me to see things I may do that are abusive. It also helped me to realize that the person I love does NOT have a split personality but IS verbally abusive. (We all justify it somehow!) It also gave insight into how I should respond so that the abuse will stop or I will move on to a healthier relationship!
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Summary: Recomended reading for all!
Review: What an eye opening experience this book was for me. It made me realize I was not the one with the problem. I was being controlled by power over reality not mutuality and respect. My only negetive comment about the book is the author assumes verbal abuse is a men`s issue.....This is so very untrue.Many of us male and female grow up in power over homes only to choose mates in that likeness!Everyone should read this book to gain knowledge of this type of abuse!
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Summary: Chunk this book and start acting like a lady
Review: Ms. Evans makes an observation that the verbally abusive relationship lacks characteristics of mutuality and respect. This being true, I submit that a woman in such relationship is engaging in disrespectful behavior. Be it premarital sex, doing more than one's share of chores, serving to please the man, enabling his bad behavior, allowing the abuse, a man will treat a woman the way she "asks" to be treated. In the perpetrator-victim-rescuer triangle, Ms Evans will serve as your favorite rescuer if you wish to stay stuck. Otherwise... chunk this book, start acting like a lady, serve God and God alone, and your man may very well surprise you. Maria S. Atlanta, GA
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Summary: Excellent book! Extremely helpful
Review: This book described my current relationship. It provided me with the information I need to move forward with my life. Anyone who thinks they may be in a verbally abusive relationship MUST read this book. I could not put the book down, and finished reading it in 4 hours.
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Summary: I'M NOT CRAZY OR DEAF!!!!
Review: I bought this book because I thought I might be exhibiting some of the behavior in this book. I thought if my husband read it he would have a better understanding of me. When I read the book, I realized that I was the one being verbally abused. I was beginning to think I was crazy or deaf because I never remembered conversations the same way my husband did. I now see all the controlling, demeaning, abusive behavior I have put up with for many years. Everyone in a relationship should read this book.
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Summary: Thank you Patricia!
Review: I read this book from cover to cover within 48 hours. I read it in the car and at red lights, I read it doing my make-up......I couldn't put it down. How could it be possible that someone I had never met, could know my life? It is very confronting, yet sooo liberating to finally realise (very necessarily) that what is happening is not right. If you feel like you're going crazy, you can't get out or are continually doubting your own perception of your relationship then, you HAVE to read this. It isn't meant to be this painful. Never again will I allow my feelings or perception to be discounted. And; nor should you.
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Summary: Author needs to wake up and smell the coffee.
Review: The author needs to wake up and smell the coffee. In her (laudable) desire to help women suffering from verbal and physical abuse, she has presented a very one-sided picture. I have seldom read a recovery/psychology book that was so narrow minded in my life, and I have read scores! The author does a tremedous dis-service to men by ignoring important information regarding women in her apparent desire to bash men.Take my example: After three years in an abusive relationship (and yes, after a couple of years I started fighting back, quite inefectively I might add) our counselor suggested we read the book. We did. Since the book is so unbalanced and trite in some of its conclusions, my "poor abused wife" uses the book as a weapon against me! Why? Because of the author's trite conclusions about men. In short, there is a lot of good information in this book, but the presentation is sooooooooo unbalanced that it makes me ill. It is a sorry, sorry day that this anti-man hatchet job was published in the name of "good."
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Summary: An Eye Opening Experience
Review: This book is a blessing from God. For so long I thought I was doing and saying everything wrong because I could never please my husband. Now I know that others have been through the same things and they ARE NOT crazy EITHER. This book is a MUST for anyone (man or woman) who thinks something maybe wrong in the relationship; someone who has their feelings hurt alot or feels confused. It all will come together and make sense after reading this book. Be prepared to suffer some hurt. You will find out things about yourself and your partner that you don't expect. But it helps you cope or get out.
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Summary: Every therapist and every woman and most men should read it.
Review: The best single book on learning to recognize disrespectful and even dangerous behavior toward you. Written for women, but I recommend it to men all the time. Jacqui Bishop, coauthor, How to Love Yourself When You Don't Know How: Healing All Your Inner Children
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Summary: It's for men too.
Review: I was totally shocked at how accurate a picture was painted of my ex-girlfriend of 6 years. Because I was asked to consider my behaviour (and did), does not mean I exhibited that behaviour. I learned that the game was to keep me destabilized. I became destabilized, and stable again after reading this book. I came to find the reason. And it wasn't me. There is a life after breaking up.
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