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Summary: Title
Review: I'm 17 years old and found this book in my parents' bedroom last night. My parents are out of town, so I propped myself up with a pillow and began reading it on their bed. By the time I finished it was four-thirty in the morning, and I wasn't tired. What a book! I'm still a teenager, one who doesn't date, do drugs, have sex, drink, watch porno, etc, and even though this book was intended for men, adult men who have grown up and entered the working force and the world of realtionships and sex, I found it deeply insightful and clear. Dr. Laura lays morality on the table in an effective and entertaining way, and it makes sense, which is the problem with most messages coming from either side, the right or the left. She explains the workings of the male, and female minds and how they are different, and how they are the same, as well as the monumental difference between being male and being a man. She talks about self control and how having it can not only bring you respect, it can bring you true, healthy relationships, and she defines how to be an equal partner in marriage, a real equal partner, not the liberal feminist definition of equal partnership. Five stars, an excellent book for the moral minded, and for the not so moral minded, who want to know what morals are.
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Summary: a primma donna mentality
Review: In this particular book,Dr. Laura wants to argue both sides of the fence. On one hand, many behaviors assumed masculine are stupid, but she wants men to be masculine when she wants her doors held open, her meals paid for, etc. I think it was in the "stupid marriage" chapter where she tells men to avoid 'androgynous' women. Now what basis does she use for saying that there should be masculinity, and femininity? The Torah? Supernatural signs and wonders? No! Her own opinion! Presented as Divine Law, equal to the Ten Commandments. It's an attitude of arrogance, that women think they have a right to dictate masculinity, anymore than when men used to dictate femininity to women. Instead of the subservient woman, we have a new kind of anti-feminist: the woman who can do whatever she wants, but He has to pay my meals.
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Summary: Dr. Laura's Cookie Cutter World
Review: Like many talk radio listeners, I was drawn in by Dr. Laura Schlessinger's refreshingly frank approach to marriage and family therepy. How nice that someone had the courage to stand up to the increasingly victim-centered world in which we live. If Dr. Laura's philosophy stopped there, she would be a national treasure. Instead, on her show and in this book, she reveals herself instead to be a typical right wing anti-feminist, content to reap the benefits of the changing world without acknowledging how much of her career is possible only because of the work of the same feminists she claims to disagree with. Schlessinger claims to be pro-child but her true nature is not pro-child but anti-woman. How else to explain the ridiculous assertion (made on her show) that working motherhood is "always a choice". This may be true for the privledged world of radio personalities, college professors and family therepists, but for many others working is the difference between living on the street and keeping the family alive. Stereotyping working women as materialistic and self-centered is evil. It would be easy to write-off Schlessinger as a typical woman-hater, but the truth as revealed in this book shows that her perspective on men isn't much broader. I read the book without recognizing behavior of any of the many men of my life. In Schlessinger's world, all men like sports and all women like to shop. She has no understanding of the true diversity of life that makes the world so fascinating and priceless. How sad that people think of this silly woman as wise. She is a narrow-minded as they come.
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Summary: An Excellent Educational Tool
Review: Like the book for women, this book is also used as an educational tool in the juvenile facility where I volunteer my time. It is an excellent book for young men to read, and hopefully follow.
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Summary: Stereo typical men stuff
Review: Many of the 10 things didn't apply to me personally, but that wasn't a surprise. However, one of the ten was right on the money & explained why I have made such bad choices in the past w/ choosing a woman. Now that I'm aware of my tendency, it helps me to be more selective & to not fall into the same trap.
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Summary: A good book, but not Dr. Laura's best!
Review: The idea of writing a companion volume to _Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives_ was a good one, and, by and large, Dr. Laura Schlessinger does a fine job of identifying and explaining many of the male character traits that cause problems in men's lives and relationships. However, the book is guilty of some uncharacteristically fuzzy thinking, which allows Dr. Laura to vent against some of her favourite foes--that monolithic block of fanatics known as "The Feminists" (who are a bitter, undifferentiated and irrational crew, in Schlessinger's opinion)--and to excuse men, to some degree, from their irresponsible and self-defeating behavior. According to Schlessinger, one of the main causes of male irresponsibility in contemporary society is gender-role confusion caused by a culture dominated by "feminism," which she seems to equate with a very rigid style of liberal feminism that denies all psychological and biological differences between men and women, and which is fundamentally anti-male. As a feminist, who has taught Women's Studies (another one of Dr. Laura's nemeses), I can vouch authoritatively for the fact that feminism is a much more complex phenomenon than this, and by no means unformly, or predominantly, anti-male. By blaming "the feminists" (equated with "culture") Schlessinger manages, to some degree, to let men "off the hook" for their reprehensible behaviour--although Schlessinger never allows women the same latitude(feminist claims that women have been oppressed by centuries of male dominated culture--as evidenced by mere historical details such as women's deprivation of legal and civil rights relative to men's over the centuries--are, according to Dr. Laura, illegitimate and irrelevant in explaining women's self-defeating behaviours). Dr. Laura's aggressively pro-male stance, ironically enough, leads the reader (at least the female reader) to a sense of despair over "mankind." Her chapter on "Stupid Husbanding," for example, presents such a lengthy litany of male irresponsibility, insensitivity and just plain stupidity that any sane woman would run screaming rather than commit to a relationship with a member of a sex so clearly unsuited to matrimony. Moreover, her biological determinism--maleness is an "animal" trait which must be overcome, but "being a man" is "human," and to be striven towards--is rather insulting to men. Male biology somehow makes men less than human, and huge amounts of effort must be exerted in order for them to achieve human connection and civilized behavior. All this said, the book provides a wealth of detail and insight on men's behavior that will be illuminating to both men and women readers.
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Summary: The most important book I ever read
Review: This book changed my way of thinking which has changed my life. Stupid Ambition and Stupid Sex were controlling me and I was not seeing the true meaning of living life. This book kicked me where I needed it. God Bless DRLAURA!
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Summary: Solid advice
Review: This book covers important things to "keep your eye on" that can "bite" you if you ignore. Not only deserves be read, but re-read every once in awhile.
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Summary: Are you Married? Dont get it
Review: This book seemed more aimed toward a boyfriend girlfriend scenario than a married couple like myself. I like Dr. Laura on the radio and her book is well written, but did not appeared to be aimed at me.
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Summary: Great--the opinion of a man who did some stupid things!
Review: This has a lot of good sense, that unfortunately doesn't seem to be common sense anymore. More men and women need to get the message which this book presents.
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