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Summary: I'd love to hear from you.
Review: Thank you for making this book a big hit in many languages
around the world. I'm glad I could help you find the clarity
you were looking for about whether to stay in or leave your
relationship. For my new book I NEED YOUR HELP. Email me
stories of what you find most troublesome in your current
relationship and/or specific things you did that worked to
improve your relationship. Love to hear from you. Will include all the best stuff in
my new book.
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Summary: Clarity
Review: I am a cynical, over-educated kind of person who has read a few self-help books before, including a few "classics", and generally been unimpressed. But this one is completely different. I picked it up in the bookstore and read it right through there in the store. I had been wasting my life (and someone else's) by being on-the-fence for let's say several years. But Mira Kirshenbaum's honest, down-to-earth, and really smart book made me realize that I knew the answer all along. I'm not telling what my decision was, this is an online review after all, not a group therapy session, but I know that it was the right decision. It is a beautiful book, and I would strongly recommend it to anyone facing the excruciating dilemma "too good to leave, too bad to stay"...
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Summary: Seriously Good
Review: This is a seriously good book. At face value, it's a book that get's you off the fence, helping you to make a yes/no decision about your relationship with your "significant other." But it is in fact more than that. Kirshenbaum's poplular, easy to read, though at times over dramatic style, give us an insight into a variety of relationship issues and situations no matter what the nature of the relationship. I found myself annotating, underlining and agreeing too often for comfort.The book helped me make rational sense of what I had come to believe as being more ambiguous than it actually is. The nuts and bolts of good and less good relating are gently, skillfully and at times ruthlessly revealed. Ambiguities and subtle deceits are debunked. That is not to say that all the mystery has been removed or clinically examined. But Ms Kirshenbaum let's you know some cold hard facts that it's 'better you know.' Did I leave or did I stay? I left... and now I look back with, somewhat astonished compassion on the madness that was my previous relationship and the happiness I've experienced over the last 2 years in my current relationship. No regrets.
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Summary: Great book!
Review: This book is very helpful and useful for anyone who is teetering between loving him and wanting to get rid of him. It's such a bizarre situation to be in and this book helps you decide using very smart methods. It's excellent.
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Summary: I was so impressed, I bought copies for all my friends
Review: This book offers true insight into what normally should be relatively simple issues. However, as is our tendency, when we are "in love," we all too often ignore the most obvious of signs. Mira sets it out in a very systematic manner; although she repeatedly cautions the reader that the final decision is the reader's. One reviewer stated that only people who left liked the book. This is simply not true. I've applied Mira's guidelines to 2 relationships--the first, I left allowing me to venture into the second and for which, after some conflicts arose, I decided to stay. The guidelines helped establish the issues both he and I need to work on. I am an attorney. I keep one of my copies in my office readily available for divorce clients. I strongly recommend this book for anyone contemplating change in a relationship whether leaving or staying!
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Summary: Like a paint by number guide
Review: Kirshenbaum's is the first that I have come across that gives you the concreteness that so many of us are seeking. This book is an easy quick read, and will help you make your decision with a great deal of confidence.
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Summary: Worth giving a chance
Review: I have to be honest when I read the title I felt "how can anyone tell me if I should leave or stay". I really thought the book was going to be uninspiring. I was completely wrong. The book has such a unique layout. There are so many real life examples that it is actually comforting to know that so many other people are experiencing the same confusion that I am experiencing. To be honest with you I had made up my mind on step 2 but I found the book so interesting that I continued to read it.
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Summary: Even more confused
Review: I did not like this book. I tried to read it twice. The first time I didn't like it because it seemed to tell me I was ambivalent because I WANTED to be (like I need any more guilt). The second time I read it, I ended up even more unsure than when I started. It brought up a bunch more stuff to think about that I hadn't even considered--which as I said, left me even more confused. Maybe it can be helpful for some people, but it was not helpful to me.
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Summary: This one is actually worth it!
Review: Let me start by saying that I believe most self-help books are nonsense. But this one is different - written by a therapist with experience that is truly worth reading about. The author asks insighful questions and is willing to tell you what her experience has taught her. That's not the same as "giving you the answers", but we know no one can do that. She's willing to 'lay down the odds' on how you should be looking at your relationship. One of the simplist truisms here is that if you're not "working on staying, you ought to be working on leaving." I thought I understood a lot when I picked up this book, but I discovered that what I know is the theory - Kirshenbaum discusses the practice in this book and her insight is worth every penny.
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Summary: Solidify your decision...
Review: This book is exactly what I needed to push myself out of ambivalence. I already knew my answer, however, this book gave me the knowledge to listen to myself and stop doubting my thoughts. I followed the book's advice, made my decision, and, as the book predicted, once the ambivalence is gone, life just gets better.
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