Keeping The Love You Find

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Summary: All anyone needs to improve there chances....
Review: I found this book to be extremely insightful...the best I have read...I strongly recommend it for anyone who is serious about improving their chances for happiness in a relationship and is willing to work towards that goal.It is a wonderful guideline I think it is worth the time involved in the exercises and reading.It allows for realization of one's self and needs...Excellent book...I think that Harville Hendrix must be a remarkable therapist.

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Summary: Gay and Lesbian singles will find this book useful too!
Review: I have been trained to do IMAGO therapy for both couples and singles. I have found this model and his work to be PEOPLE oriented, *not* male female--which makes this book user friendly for lesbians and gays on relationships. I also used much of his work for my book, "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives" using gay examples to illustrate how these communication exercises and models can be useful to gay men. I highly recommend this book!

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Summary: A must read for all singles!
Review: I have read a few self-help books, but this is the first one I would highly recommend. I have already been telling everyone I know about it, in fact! This isn't a quick fix book with simplified explanations, which is why I appreciated it and enjoyed it so much. However, you can only take away from this book, what you put into it. If you do all the exercises and carefully read the chapters and think about how they relate to your life, you will understand yourself and others around you much better. I plan to read this book again and encourage everyone to read it, as well.

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Summary: A useful guide, with a couple of worrying aspects
Review: Keeping the Love You Find is a useful guide to relationships which overturns many commonly held precepts about how choose someone to marry. It advises choosing a partner on the basis of your attraction to them, which means you'll choose someone with similiar qualities to your caretakers and then have a chance to heal the hurts of the past with them. However, this seems quite a problematic method because it leaves out any mention of things like the necessity of choosing someone with values similiar to yours? Is that not still important? And the most worrying aspect is that Hendrix glosses over violence towards women with the old "she provoked it" excuse. Women in relationships where they are being battered, it seems, should stay in the relationship and accept that they're equally to blame for being bashed. This dangerous nonsense flies in the face of the reality of domestic violence and flaws what could otherwise be a useful guide.

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Summary: The Best Self-Help Book I've Ever Read
Review: Over the past five years, I have reread KTLYF and redone all the exercises several times (I'm midway through the fourth now). Each time, I learn more about myself and my relationships. Each time, I am enlightened by some new insight or gratified to see my hypotheses validated. KTLYF applies real, complex psychology principles in a way that lay people can understand. It's not easy. You are asked to do exercises to uncover yourself. If you don't do the exercises, the book will be of little value. The fastest I've ever been through the process has been a month of working on it several hours a day. But every minute is worth the time and the effort. I can see why I've made the choices I've made; I can see that they actually make sense; I don't need to beat myself up for making them. I am aware. And that awareness is a giant step toward healing and finding the type of love I seek. This is the best self-help book I've ever read.

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Summary: Deep, tells us what goals to meet to make love work.
Review: The goal of our adult relationship is heal our childhood wounds. That means to give and get what we didn't get as a child, such as comfort, time, understanding etc. When you determine what you and your partner didn't get as children, you can put forth the effort to provide it and in doing so they will meet your unmet needs as well.

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Summary: Buy this book but avoid the Imago workshops
Review: The imago exercises in this book are good and have helped my wife and I with communication skills. The Imago bandwagon started by this author does have some loose wheels however that couples need to be aware of. Most of the Imago books put in a plug for the traveling mago workshops. My wife and I recently attended one workshop run by the Imago therapist Rick Brown. Unfortunately, all the references provide for us prior to the workshop turned out to be fellow Imago therapists with an interest in our money. The majority of the actual PRACTICE consisted of listening to the workshop director's own boring life stories and watching some randomly selected nervous couple stumble through the same execise over and over. Although we made our dissatisfaction clearly known, our concerns were dismissed outright (although our money was kept). Harville Hendrix may have started Imago out as a good THEORY but the PRACTICE of some Imago therapists has lowered the bar significantly. Unfortunately, there is no grievance process for customers of Imago products and even discussing problems with the Dean of the Faculty at the Imago International Institute is a complete waste of time. So BE CAREFUL what you pay for and whether the reviews of Imago workshops that you read are those of customers or Imago therapists!

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Summary: Simply put a step by step way out of Toxic Co-dependency
Review: This book examines our subconscious hidden agenda in relationships. It helps one to peel away, step by step, parental issues that keep us trapped in patterns of interpretations as to what love is. There are writing exercises which help one to recognize one's Imago and helps one to break through these pattterns. I highly recommend this book. It is truly a masterpiece of information and guidance for us all. Gail Fo

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Summary: I can't say enough good things
Review: This book has been very helpful to my partner and I. It truly made a difference. In fact, we believe that the book was much more helpful than the therapist that recommended the book. While we used the book as a couple, I strongly recommended it to singles who want to understand themselves better. The exercises are key. If you want things to change for the better -- give this book a try. As for my partner and I, we used this book over a year ago and happily the effects have been lasting. Why am taking the time to write this? Because it sucks to be confused and unhappy and I've been there -- so if this helps anyone take a step in the right direction, I've done a good deed.

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Summary: Keeping the Love you Find
Review: This book has helped me change the way I view relationships. It helped me to stop placing blame on the other person and take a good look at myself. This has brought understanding and acceptance of my divorce. I wish I would have had this book before I got married but I probably would have never read it. I have never read a self help book in my life. It would have helped me to grow and better understand myself and my future partners I select. You must do the exercises slowly to get the full benefit. I will reread this book again in order to absorb all the information.