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Summary: Absolutely useless!!!
Review: I read both this book and its carbon copy, Rekindling Desire by Barry McCarthy, hoping to find some help for my own low-/no-sex marriage, and found absolutely none at all. They did not even begin to address my situation. They deal strictly with sexual techniques and completely avoid the deeper relational and emotional issues that drive couples, like me and my wife, apart. I would not recommend these books to anyone.
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Summary: True insight
Review: I teared up as soon as I read into the first paragraph of the book (and then many times throughout), because it could not have been written any better. I felt the book was speaking for me, and it gave me a relief of knowing that I am not alone, and that somebody understands me.
I think that people who try to apply the advice from this book, and they immediately see positive results, are lucky. I am only hoping that my partner would read the book, and undertand how deeply I have been hurt over the years by being continuously rejected.
Thank you Ms. Davis for this true book!
P.S. The earlier one-star review is totally off the mark. I think it referred to some other book. This book has no discussion of sex techniques whatsoever.
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Summary: It works
Review: I thought the problems were all my husband's because he was the one who was un-interested in sex. I thought everything was fine in our relationship except for our sex life. But when I read this book, I realized it was MY behaviors that caused our problems. I related to so many passages, and was frequently enlightened. I was so quick to blame him, but it was really myself who was to blame. I had never attributed the problems in our reltionship to the problems in the bedroom. Since reading this book, I have made many changes in my behavior and in my actions. My husband has commented several times about the changes I've made, and I can feel all the love and attraction coming back. We made love recently for the first time in months! I truly belive this book has been a vital step in saving my marriage and rekindling the love. THANK YOU Ms. Weiner Davis! I definintely recommend this book to others, and I will also shop for other books by this author.
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Summary: Didn't describe us
Review: I wouldn't recommend this book if you and your spouse are in a good relationship but want to improve your sex life. It is meant for distressed couples, or at least couples where one member is distressed. Neither my husband nor I could relate to the marriages/people described in the book. Weiner-Davis gives a nod to couples like us and suggests that it will be good for us too, but we didn't find much that applied to us. Given that most of the information from couples comes from her counseling experience, the direction is going to be skewed toward what is going on in the homes of unhappy couples. I'd like to hear from couples who are weathering this challenge, looking for and finding solutions without experiencing the high level of distress which shows up in this book. It's probably a pretty good book for the couples it is really intended for. So I gave it 3 stars.
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Summary: Finally, a book that really helps!
Review: If you and your spouse have been fighting about sex, don't go another day without reading this book! It gets at the heart of why couples find themselves saying and doing the same old things and never resolving the differences they feel about sex and emotional intimacy. What a relief it is to finally understand our never-ending battle about sex. My wife and I, married for fourteen years, have spent the last seven debating about our sexual relationship. It's been incredibly frustrating. I plan on following the advice in the book immediately and I will keep my fingers crossed that I can get my wife to read it when I'm done. In regards to the reviewer who said this book was about sexual techniques- WHAT???? I'm not sure what book he was reading, but it definitely wasn't this one. This book is NOT about sexual technique at all. It is primarily about the deep relationship and emotional issues that drive couples apart and what they can do to change things. It would be great if this book were distributed when couples apply for their marriage licenses. It could cut back on the divorce rate.
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Summary: Answers for me...
Review: It's nice to have a book that addresses BOTH sides of the issue. So many other books I've consulted speak only to the partner with the lower desire. It may not be a perfect book, but it gives a more balanced approach than much of the other books that attempt to speak to the disparities in sexual desire. This is a good starting place for a discussion between the partners in a relationship struggling with differences in their needs for physical intimacy.
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Summary: A Great Answer for a Common Problem
Review: Michele,
I just finished reading THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE. It's great and I will find it a helpful tool in my work as Director of Employee Assistance for AutoNation, Republic Services, Inc., Miami Dolphins and ProPlayer Stadium. I have already recommended it to many people. I have great response from people who are reading THE DIVORCE REMEDY. I detected what I think is a typographical error on page 198 in the first
paragraph of Afterglow in THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE. "In fact, research tells us that 69 percent of what couple in healthy marriages argue about is RESOLVABLE". I believe I heard you say UNRESOLVABLE in one of your presentations.
Keep up your good work!
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Summary: Simple to understand
Review: My husband begged me to read this after we had a baby. He was right that we weren't really at the same place just then. The writer doesn't use a lot of psychobabble and the gist is easy to understand and follow. Things won't magically get better overnight, but just recognizing our different needs has made it much better already.
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Summary: I needed it
Review: Thanks for writing this book. I saw a lot of our relationship in the things you have written and over the past six months our sex life has improved dramatically thanks to the knowledge you have shared and the other book we bought, 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets which really made it a lot more fun and interesting for us.
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Summary: Good book
Review: The book provides excellent insight into the low sex drive female. It really does not provide enough helpful information to those of us women who are "over-sexed". i have already tried many of the suggestions given. They have not worked. i will say that this book did help me identity several unhelpful behaviors. but i realize that a man o woman who will not go to counseling and doesn't want to talk about it, will not change with this book.
I also recommend Sex and the perfect lover by Mabel Iam por save a couple of the routine.
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