Rating: Summary: The Nurtured Heart Approach is outstanding! It WORKS!!!!! Review: This remarkable book has already transformed the lives of several families of my acquaintance. As a grandmother, I wish I had had this book when I was raising my own children. After describing the book and the Nurtured Heart Approach to my daughters, they urgently requested copies. They are now using the Nurtured Heart Approach with great success. This book guides parents through the process of learning how to give energy to the positive, in a loving, structured way, so that these remarkable children are able to focus their energies into dynamically constructive channels. As Mr. Glasser remarks, these "challenging" children are among our brightest, and are potentially our future leaders. The Nurtured Heart Approach allows them to develop their talents in a positive way. Thank you, Howard Glasser!
Rating: Summary: Traditional parenting and teaching techniques backfire. Review: It is so easy to accidentally energize negative behaviors...even with the best of intentions. It's a total set-up. The culprit is not the parent or the teacher! The problem is that almost all traditional techniques inadvertently contribute to the challenging child's impression that the adults in their life are much more animated, excited, emotional and interesting when things are going wrong rather than when things are going right. Even many of those adults who consider themselves very positive wind up radiating compatively little energy when things are going right when compared to the level of reaction when the child is off track. How much excitement and how much quality time is typically given when we say "thank you" and "good job" in comparison to the time and energy we deliver when children are not doing what we want? Children are fascinated by bigger reactions and children who are a bit more needy or sensitive or intense are particularly drawn to bigger reactions. Some children literally feel invisable unless they are doing the things they know will get their parent or teacher going. They can count on getting a bigger "payoff" for being disrespectful and irresponsible as compared to the fuss we make over positive versions of respect and responsibility. The secret is in strategically energizing successes instead of accidentally energizing failures. The good news is that this is extremely easy to turn around. Instead of trying to make the child's intensity go away through expensive treatments and the use of medications, the intensity becomes an asset. Children very quickly begin to use their intensity in beautiful ways. It's truly amazing. ADHD children are actually the easiest to "transform" completely to a new and fully successful way of life. This outcome cannot be achieved with normal methods. Even most other books written about challenging children are designed out of conventional molds. Many suggestions further energize negative behaviors and make the situation worse. The Nurtured Heart Approach is designed specifically for difficult children and avoids all the traditional traps. It holds children fully accountable for problem behaviors while pulling the child into a powerful pattern of success. Perhaps best of all is that this approach also helps the average child to flourish beyond all expectations and works just as well in both the home and the classroom. For once, parents and teachers are on the same page and they don't have to use different techniques for every child.
Rating: Summary: Family therapists will find this book valuable Review: As a family therapist, I think this book describes the best approach I have found in helping parents be affective with their difficult child. I believe every therapist would find benefit in learning this model and would find this book to be a valuable resource.
Rating: Summary: A book I am passing on to every parent I know! Review: These techniques are easy, make total sense and get results quickly. My friends and I are using them on kids of all types and are witnessing increased success in all aspects of behavior, social skills, and self esteem. Looking forward to future publications by these authors!
Rating: Summary: Excellent! Review: After reading Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley's excellent book, "Transforming the Difficult Child," I felt a surge of hope for the more problematic children in our world. Finally, someone had discovered how to help parents manage difficult children in a positive, loving way and without medication! Most of the children Glasser and Easley have worked with were taking medication when they arrived at the Nurtured Heart Approach center. These same children are no longer medicated into submission but living bright, successful lives. These children needed a little or a lot more attention than the average child but were being raised with traditional parenting skills that were rendered ineffective because of their ultra-sensitive natures. The parents of these children needed to learn to apply another set of rules to their kids to help them become the wonderful people they were destined to be. The Nurtured Heart Approach is an easy, rational, beautiful and loving method of building on the successes of children while not giving energy to the negative aspects of their character. This is an approach that can be used on difficult or "normal" kids. I have begun applying these principles to my own methods of child rearing. They work quickly and magnificintly! It's brilliant in its simplicity and effectiveness. If you have a difficult child or even if you would like to learn a new positive, ingenious parenting approach, I urge you to read Glasser and Easley's book.
Rating: Summary: Let's Celebrate ADHD! Review: We cannot recommend highly enough the Nurtured Heart Approach to working with children with ADD, ADHD and non-traditional learning styles.
The Nurtured Heart Approach works with the child's natural strengths and provides positive, proactive methods for transforming your child.
This philosophy is the foundation of our own unique approach called Celebrate!ADHD...in which we restore a child's confidence, purpose and joy by focusing on the child's natural gifts, talents and passions. www.celebrateADHD.com
We owe a debt of gratitude to Howie Glasser and urge you to pick up this book and visit his web forums for additional support.
Rating: Summary: Have this book delivered overnight to your door Review: OK, I wrote the preface for this book. I know Howard Glasser well, and have worked with him. I am a child psychologist, and give lectures, do research and help folks all over. For parents, I find this a must have book. For teachers, you need this, too.
Here's the deal. Howard fills the book with simple ideas. They are really good. Most people outside of thearpy field believe therapy must be complicated. Well, maybe. Most of the time the stuff we do is really, really, really simple. The magic is that somebody studied it and tested it. Howard Glasser is a natural. He noticed how little simple things make a big difference. That is great. I love for example strategy he and I call sports casting. Instead of having a fit as an adult when our kids go off, we act like a sportscaster. "Oh, I see you are having a fit. I see you are red in the face. I hear you screaming and holding your breath."
This little tactic sucks out all the accidental attention to bad behavior most of the time. You should watch the face of children who think they are going to play you as Video Game, have the look come over their face: "Oh, this doesn't get the reaction I wanted." The book is filled with practical, helpful gems that build real love and heart in both the child and adult.
Rating: Summary: Excellent Resource Review: This book (as well as the audiobook and video) provides an excellent resource for parents, teachers, and mental health professionals. The authors take a positive, common sense approach to parenting and interacting with kids. The book is an easy read, and the suggestions are easily implemented at home and school. As a parent as well as children's counselor, I use this approach almost exclusively. The Nurtured Heart Approach works, and it feels great to see the kids respond.
Rating: Summary: Thank you, thank you, thank you! Review: Only after a few days of implementing the first few techniques in the book, I have seen a great change in my 6 year old son's behavior. My son has not been diagnosed with ADHD or other disorder; however, he has always been a very intense child. He's very intelligent, but can be difficult in structured settings, such as the classroom. During his first year at school, we received several notes home from the teacher saying he did not pay attention, follow directions, and was very talkative. We were stuck in a negative cycle of punishing him for his behavior in class which in turn caused him to feel terrible about himself which then caused him to act out even more. The book explains that the intense, difficult child feeds on this negative attention and even seeks it out through bad behavior. The techniques in the book teach the parent to flood the child with positive attention. I was a little skeptical at first that just through verbally acknowledging the child's good choices that he would be so cooperative immediately. If you have a child that doesn't seem be responding to normal discipline, try this book.
The only problem I had with the book was in the writing style. I was annoyed by the constant use of metaphors and I wish there had been more real life examples. I felt as though I was being talked down to through these sometimes ridiculous metaphors. The awful writing style can be overlooked because the techiques presented in the book really do work!
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