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Summary: Wish I could give it 0 stars!
Review: Awful, just awful- buy The No-Cry Sleep Solution instead!
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Summary: Barbaric practices!!!
Review: This is an awful approach to parenting! Babies cry for a reason and to purposely allow your darling baby to scream and cry so you can "teach " them to fall asleep is down right discusting.Ferber's books should all be burned.
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Summary: This book is not for me
Review: I believe this book gives horrible advice. When a child is forced to CRY IT OUT, to learn to sleep, or stay quiet, what happens is THEIR NEEDS DO NOT STOP, THEY JUST STOP COMMUNICATING THEIR NEEDS, breaking down communication is NEVER a good thing, it causes the bond/trust to be broken with parent and child. i don't understand how the author can think that this is good for children. I just can't, or wont let my child Cry-it-out. There is too much data, and research to prove that this is harmful to a baby/child. Plus I follow the Golden Rule, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If my husband left me alone to Cry-it-out when I was upset --we would be divorced. I don't want to be alone if I were to cry....why would a little baby !!!???
When a baby cries, their cortisol levels skyrocket, and cortisol prevents brain growth, NOT good for the brain which is growing so fast in the early years, and really crying it out is just not good for anyone.
I would try Elizabeth Pantley's "The No-Cry Sleep Solution"...instead.
What Dr. F doesn't realize is that when baby stops crying, they are only learning that their cries are not heard.THEIR NEEDS DO NOT STOP, THEY JUST STOP COMMUNICATING THEIR NEEDS, causing detachment of parent and child. This is telling baby that they are not valuable enough to be cared for, or heard. Notice how the mothers that COULD do this cry it out method, said how hard it was?? That is because it feels wrong to every mother. It feels wrong, because it is wrong. I don't feel guilty for hugging my baby because it is right, so if one feels guilty for letting their baby cry it out, perhaps the guilt comes from doing something wrong. AGAIN I WOULD INSTEAD BUY Elizabeth Pantley's "The No-Cry Sleep Solution", with real answers.
PLEASE !!! FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILD DO NOT BUY THIS BOOK !!!
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Summary: Let your baby cry until they vomit? Sick, sad and wrong!
Review: This book should have been entitled "Lousy Parenting 101". It's appalling to think in this day and age that parents are still being told to ignore their instincts and let their baby "cry it out" - alone, hungry and afraid - until they vomit or collapse from exhaustion. Truly sickening.Newborns need to eat frequently, that's just the way it is. Breastfeed your baby, sleep when he sleeps, swaddle him and keep him with you as much as possible and I guarantee you'll have a happier, more secure child than if you had tried to force your helpless infant into premature independence. IMHO, better advice would be to plan your family in the first place so that both parents can have a minimum of 3 months at home with a new baby and space your childrens' births so that you're not a zombie trying to care for a new baby and one or more toddlers at the same time. Dr. Ferber's barbaric methods may appeal to a particular segment of new parents who are seeking justification for putting their own needs before those of their child, but in the long run, who is served by that? Not the child, not the family and certainly not society a a whole. Parenting involves huge sacrifices - the least of which is sleep! If you're not willing to make those sacrifices for a baby you brought into this world, frankly, perhaps you're not ready to be a parent.
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Summary: They Are Called Needs For A Reason
Review: A baby has needs that this book completely ignores in a way that can be harmful to the infant's physical and emotional development. Most pediatricians would not recommend letting a newborn go more than 3 to 4 hours without eating. Many older babies wake up hungry at night as well. To ignore a baby's need to be fed is equivalent to neglect. A baby also needs to have his cries answered to learn that he can depend on and trust his parents. To ignore this need is to teach your baby that you cannot be trusted,and that the world is a frightening place. Ignoring an infant's need for emotional comfort and security is neglectful at best, abusive at worst. Parents who care about their children's needs will be better off using the methods in Elizabeth Pantley's "The No-Cry Sleep Solution".
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Summary: How do they do it? I couldn't
Review: There is no way I could let my baby cry himself to sleep. I was left to cry myself to sleep as a baby/child, and it definitely did not teach me healthy sleep habits: I have sleep apnea, wet the bed until I was 6 or 7, in a sleep study showed signs of narcolepsy as well as insomnia, and also tend to need about 10-11 hours of sleep myself. So I could never do this to my baby. He sleeps OK at six months, and I think I will let him sleep in our bed until he is at least two...
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Summary: Not for attachment parents -- or breastfeeding moms
Review: Newborn babies aren't supposed to sleep through the night. They need nourishment, because their tiny stomachs can't hold much. Ferber doesn't explain this. He's all for separating babies and moms, and giving mommy back to daddy at night. I've got news: I was allowed to cry myself to sleep at night, and I still have a sleep disorder or two (sleep apnea, insomnia, and also mild fibromyalgia). So obviously it's not a cure-all, to say the least. I also have clinical depression. Mind you, there could be other reasons, but I always remember feeling lonely and abandoned in my bed. Fine if you think your sleep is more important, but think about your child's future.
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Summary: This book is not for anyone with a sensitive child
Review: Ferberizing as they call it will not work unless your child is already relatively mellow or compliant. It was written assuming all children are the same. They aren't. I recommend "The No Cry Sleep Solution" instead, as something more sensitive to children's needs.
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Summary: Schwartz is better
Review: Both my babies were TERRIBLE sleepers. Ferber's approach of letting them cry is a pretty good idea in that they won't learn to sleep by themselves without some crying, but if you want a more humane approach, check out Dr. Benjamin Schwartz. Same principle but more loving.
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Summary: Great for Older Children
Review: I did not come across this book until my son was six; yes, we struggled with his inability to fall asleep on his own for over six years. As Ferber points out in his book, children do not outgrow the problem! Most books seem to be written about helping only babies fall asleep, but this one really helped us, as well. Over six years, it seemed we had tried every method out there - crying it out, sharing a bed, having him sleep on the floor of our room, laying down in his bed with him, sitting in a chair next to his bed, punishments and rewards - you name it. Nothing made a difference, and every pediatrician, friend and relative had their own take on what we should do. Well, we tried them all. This book, for the first time, was able to explain to me WHY my son couldn't fall asleep, what conditions he needed to learn to do so, and how to do it. After five days, I tucked my son into bed, turned out the light, left the room, and he fell asleep in about five minutes - for the first time in his six years. I cannot say enough good things about this book. This is NOT the crying-it-out method, and there's nothing scary about it. The program is certainly not difficult for those of us who weren't sleeping anyway! As my son was older, we also involved him in the learning process, explaining it all to him along the way. If your child is past the "baby" stage and you're still laying down with them, sharing your bed, or holding their hand while you wait forever for them to go to sleep, read this book and change your life.
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