Rating:  Summary: Excellent book giving understanding Review: I learnt a lot from this book, both about myself and about women. We can all learn from this (if we are willing and humble enough to learn) and improve our relationships, so long as we can also learn to not be selfish! Worth reading if you are dating, or looking, or about to get married, or already married AND willing to understand and change where necessary!
Rating:  Summary: Gray is a decent relationship counselor but a poor writer Review: Gray simplifies and overgeneralizes the subject matter in many ways. However, I believe that the core ideas are extremely valuable. Unfortunately, the book presents them in a laborious and drawn out manner. The chapters often seem to cover the same idea over and over, merely with a different focus. Gray's metaphor of separate Martian and Venetian heritages perhaps make his viewpoint easier to understand, though the universality of this distinction is suspect. Some of the differences between male and female (besides being stereotypes, even if they might have an element of truth) seem actually to be similarities at heart that individuals express in different ways.The short version of this book: you and your partner may get into arguments primarily because you do not communicate your differences to one another and assume your partner expresses him or herself in the same way that you do. The book is useful in suggesting ways to overcome this difficulty (try to ignore some of the gender generalizations). Gray also seems to have a stubbornly optimistic view of relationships, partly because he seems to believe that *every* problem in a relationship stems from simple misunderstandings in how individuals express love for one another.
Rating:  Summary: Don't buy the hard cover Review: The book has 4-5 good ideas which you could easily pick out by scanning at the bookstore. If you don't have the time for that, or don't have the opportunity at a friend's house, the cheapest soft cover you can find is all I would recommend. If you want a relationship book with some meat in it, pick up one of the books by Doug & Naomi Moseley (DANCING IN THE DARK is my favorite). Also, CONSCIOUS LOVING by Gay and Hendricks ranks among the best.
Rating:  Summary: Corny, but has redeeming qualities Review: When I first started reading this book, I couldn't believe how stereotypically it presented men and women. And though corny at times, it is an easy read and does contain many valid points for consideration about personal interactions. A better read on personal relationships is "Conscious Loving."
Rating:  Summary: Too many excuses for men! Review: This book had some great advice, but mainly it made excuses for men
Rating:  Summary: A rancid cesspool of misogyny Review: Gray's nauseating, ill-begotten "theories" are rife with the kind of appalling views that rapists might use to justify their crimes. This wretched piece of vile, self-serving propaganda nearly made me reconsider my views on censorship.
Rating:  Summary: Pseudo-Psychology Review: I am surprised that so many women, including Oprah, recommended this book to "insensitive men." Gray stereotypes females as much he stereotypes males. If you want to read really thoughtful material about relationships, read almost anything by John Bradshaw. Even though Bradshaw's star has waned, at least he did his homework and knew that men are from earth and women are from earth. Beyond Bradshaw, read Daniel Goleman's "Emotional Intelligence." There is nothing gray about Goleman.
Rating:  Summary: Don't believe it! Review: If you read it, you are wasting your time to look for solutions of relationship. "Are you the one for me" is much better.
Rating:  Summary: EXCELLENT Review: This is a very good book. It really helped me understand my boyfriend's mentality. We get along perfectly now! I strongly recommend this book - it is useful and fun too!
Rating:  Summary: Uranus Review: Taking another reviewer's suggestion, I read Hamson's "Rebuttal from Uranus" in "Taking Sides" by Francoeur and Taverner. Uranus makes a lot more sense than Mars and Venus.
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