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Summary: I wish I had this book long ago
Review: I recognized my past mistakes that drove my old boyfriend away. Mr. Hendrix's book was a wake-up call for me to watch my bad habits with men. It's weird how this guy manages to see women's faults that we can't see when it comes to keeping that relationship healthy with that right man. He definitley helped me. It also helps men screw their head on the right way also. A great book for both sexes. This is a far cry from Men Are From Mars; Women Are From Venus.
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Summary: A New Beginning
Review: This is a wonderful book. My wife and I decided to read this book together, since it sat on our bookshelf for a year. We decided to read a chapter together each night. We found this book full of concrete exercises, full of advice and even entertaining as Dr. H. shares his own experiences. My wife and I found ourselves laughing as we read some of his examples of past clients thinking to ourselves.... "This sounds like us" or "This sounds like something we would do or say!" Anyway, We have had some difficulties in our marriage, being married for 13 years, and we needed a new beginning.... something concrete and practical to assist us in bringing our marriage to a place of healing. We shared this book with our marriage counselor with the idea of incorporating it into our sessions. If you are looking for a good practical book to help you nurture your marriage and point you in the right direction... then I would suggest you read this book.... read it out loud with your partner and see what happens....
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Summary: just don't buy the cassette
Review: The book is wonderful and saved a 20 year faltering relationship. I have since recommended it to many friends and family members. When I saw it offered on tape, I sent it to my daughter, knowing there was a better chance she would listen to it than read it. Boy was I ticked when she told me it is just a teaser for the book. 30 min. per side. This needs to be made clear up front.
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Summary: One of the few books that may really change your life
Review: The relationship/self-help book market is booming. When looking for one of these books you are presented with a bewildering array of "experts" and "specialists", each with their pet theories about where men and women come from or what "rules" you should apply to your relationship.It is rare to find a book written by an author with solid academic credentials and years of clinical practice. This book is one such find. The book is organized into three parts. In part I, Dr. Hendrix describes the type of relationships most of us have - "Unconscious Marriage". In this section, he details how our childhood experiences, self image and ideals of romantic love combine to create an unstated power struggle between spouses. Often many books stop at this point, assuming that the reader can now go forth and solve their problems. Fortunately Dr. Hendrix continues. In the second part, he describes what a more fulfilling relationship might look like, the "Conscious Marriage". He describes how to begin with commitment, stop destructive exit patterns, creating a zone of safety, understanding yourself and your partner, how to begin real self growth and containing rage. He closes by providing two examples of marriages that have been transformed by applying these techniques. The exercises and approaches described by Dr. Hendrix are hard. His most meaningful techniques are not quick tricks but require a lot of introspection and self awareness. As he mentions in his book, many couples may require external assistance (we did). However, his techniques provides lasting changes in the way that you interact with your partner. The final part of the book is a series of exercises that help drive how the major points in each chapter of the preceding two sections. Relevant and helpful, their main point appears to be to draw the reader into applying the theories presented in the book to their own situation. In this respect, they are helpful. We have tried a number of different books/techniques to help our relationship and we found this one to be the most helpful by orders of magnitude. I hope it works well for others
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Summary: Buy It, Read It and Understand Yourself and Your Wants
Review: When I think of all the heartache and pain I could have saved myself if they only taught this in high school. I kept choosing the people that were least likely to be able to support my needs because I had a sub-conscious desire to get approval from my mother. Forget about sex ed in high school, they should teach relationship ed. This book is the most valuable tool for understanding my needs in a relationship that I have ever read. Buy it you will be amazed at what you learn about yourself.
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Summary: Why do you do those things you do...?
Review: ...That irritate the heck out of your spouse? That was the thing I always wondered about. This book explained so many things in such a clear understandable way. I've recommended it to many many friends. About the exercises - I skipped most of them. I am a reader not a test taker. But even with that, I gleaned countless pearls of wisdom and revealing insights about my marriage, myself and the reasons I do those things that make my spouse crazy. The book is an easy read, too. Not text-bookish at all. Interesting examples and practical experience, blended in a very readable format. Rose
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Summary: the drop down would not let me put zero stars
Review: Recommended by a counselor. Book stunk, so did counselor. Typical tome of the gender, an advertisement for his institute complete with case histories and mumbo jumbo. Lots of insight into imago and not a clue as to what love is and isn't. Typical of the book. Exercise 8 He has the participant to draw a rectangle in which the four corners represent catastrophic exits, ie suicide, divorce, murder and insanity. He says " ...if you are comtemplating leaving the relationship through any of these four corner exits... I urge you to make a decision now to close them for the period of time that you are working together on these exercises." Gee Mr. Ph.D I didn't know so many people had the option of selecting a time to go insane! Not to mention that the statement gives tacit approval of suicide or murder as an option after the exercise is complete. The book is full of such babble. Not worth the paper its printed on.
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Summary: Too Much Work
Review: While this book would be fantastic for couples who view marriage as they would a college course, the majority of couples would find the endless exercises a bit like home work. Good for you, but who really wants to do it. I'd recommend a fun alternative, THE ROMANTIC'S GUIDE by Michael Webb. Zillions of fun and creative ideas couples can do together. That book saved my 4 year relationship.
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Summary: Must Reading for All Couples!
Review: My therapist recommended this book to me and I must say I learned more about myself and my spouse in a couple of weeks then I have learned in 11 years of marriage. The book is very easy reading and really makes one think about how we think, how we respond to people and provides steps to make changes in relationships. The book also explains how our childhood plays an important part in who we are and how we deal in relationships. I'm not yet finished with the book, but I've already told my wife to please read the book. I believe that if we follow what is written in the book, our marriage can be saved and that we can be happy once again.
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Summary: A great tool for yourself and your relationship
Review: If you truly want to take a good hard look at yourself and your realtionship, read this book. It brings into focus all the aspects of ones self and how it relates to our relationships.
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