Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

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Summary: Game Players
Review: This book offers some interesting perspective into relationships, as far as the things that women can do to get a man's full attention. Or, should I say, to get control into their dating or relationship life. Though many of those pointers seem to have potential to work sometimes, they will not work with every man. I think they work more with men who are immature and where they are headed in a relationship.
Dating is not an exact science. I think that instead the author should focus more on teaching women how to take care of themselves and gain control of their emotions in order to be emotionally stable. Women can play all the games they want, but if they are not emotionally healthy, they will never be fully satisfied with their relationship. Playing games takes people out of their skins and into umcomfortable territory. The book "Facing Our Skeletons" gave some very useful outlook on how important it is for women to focus on themselves instead of playing "head games" with the men and be at their best while waiting for Mr. Right.

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Summary: intensive psychotherapy may be appropriate if this is your..
Review: model of a successful relationship. I heartily reccommend Albert J. Bernstein's _Emotional Vampires,dealing with people who drain you dry_ as one of the best, if not the best study of different personality types and precisely how they make your life miserable. Read Bernstein, and compare your partner(s) with the behavioral checklist. Are you drawn to narcissists, passive-aggressives, histrionics, or paranoids ? Learn to identify these types before they contaminate your life and learn how to defend yourself against them. Men DON'T love bitches. Not successful, intelligent, emotionally healthy men. Men don't like being manipulated, bullied, or symbolically castrated. If you think you can rescue your relationships with a facile, one dimensional model of personal interaction, you will be setting yourself up for and endless round of lifeless, loveless control games that will eventually leave you exhausted, disgusted and broke. "Holding Your Own" means knowing exactly what you are dealing with, and having precise responses. Get Bernstein, read it and take notes, then come back and revisit this silly book, and compare the amount of solid information you can take away from each one.

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Summary: Finally, Now it all makes sense!
Review: This book is absolutely brilliant. Finally now I understand why a successful, beautiful, confident, intelligent woman like myself always scared the great guys off. Being quite sure of what my ideal match would be, I always made it perfectly clear to my potential mate that he and I would get along great. Big Mistake! I also didn't hesitate to call or suggest a date. More Mistakes! Anyhow, since reading this book I have three very wonderful possibilities knocking at my door, and I haven't made a single move, how refreshing!
This is not a book about being a bitch. It's about having self-respect and patience. Lots and lots of patience (not my strong point.)I highly recommend this book. So, if you are incredibly sexy, and have no idea why you keep scaring the men off, READ THIS BOOK!!!

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Summary: how to come across as insincere, insensitive, patronizing...
Review: This book says what many many other say, basically that a girl should play hard to get, to make the guy wait, etc etc. I think where all those books go wrong is to assume that there is pretty much only one type of girl, one type of guy, and one type of relationship. Argov means well, because all the recommendations in the book will work, and she's right to say girls shouldn't let their guard down too soon. After having read this, though, I can spot a "bitch" girl a mile away. I'd just prefer that a girl be straight-up rather than play some stupid transparent game, as if I don't notice what's going on. Another problem one will notice if one reads serious books on relationships is how the verbal messages don't coincide with the girls' nonverbal behaviour, which causes problems all the time in relationships. If people want to really learn about relationships & communication they should take a course on those topics, like I (a sensitive guy) did or study some serious books on them by authors such as Sharon Brehm, Mark Knapp, Ronald Adler, etc. Books like "Why Men Love Bitches" are roughly the equivalent of getting relationship advice from television, so you can expect similar results I think. Another problem I have with these sort of books is that they're written on the assumption that all "nice" girls are roughly the same, the guys are roughly the same and the same formula can be used on all guys, with the same result. (obviously the real world doesn't work this way)

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Summary: Good and Bad and every page contradicts the previous. . .
Review: Just when I am agreeing on one page the author changes clothes and suddenly is contradicting herself. It bothers me to have to TRY and understand what the author is saying. No wonder men have a hard time, they have to weed through people who cannot make up their minds as to how they feel or what they think is right to do. My mother told me some advice, which I have heard time and again as I'm sure most everyone who reads this review will agree that they have heard it as well; "find a man who treats his mother as you want to be treated and marry him." If you need a relationship book that will show you both sides, and enjoy good entertaining nightime reading, pick up an obscure title I found by accident, "Drivetime; Finding a Way Home." Great book!

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Summary: Offers some good insights...
Review: The title of this book caught my attention and I thought it would be just another fun, albeit run-of-the-mill self-help book to read. While the subject matter is indeed overused, Sherry Argov has an earnest, more honest approach to help empower women not to lose their own identities in relationships. She does not advise women to be "bitches" in the classic sense -- rather she advises women to stand up for themselves and to not be afraid of having their opinions and views, even when said things differ from that of their partners. I agree with some of the readers here about the author generalizing men, but sometimes generalization is the only way to get a point across. This was an entertaining book to read. I don't take these sorts of books and their advice within too seriously, but sometimes I crave the insightfulness of people like Sherry Argov.

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Summary: Get the Man You Deserve
Review: This book makes the common mistake of lumping all men into one giant category. As fun as that might be for teenagers and kids, the reality of adult men is that they do not all think and act the same.

Ladies, if you follow the advice in this book, you need to know something. Men usually try to date someone who is similar to their mother. Whatever role model they got from their mother, is the pattern they are looking for in their girlfriend or wife.

So, if their mother was a bitch and cold and aloof, that is the type of woman they will go after.

So, ask yourself: Do I want to "catch" a man who grew up with a bitchy, unloving mother? Then I should be a bitchy, aloof woman.

On the other hand, do I want to "catch" a man who had a positive, loving, and honest relationship with his mother? Then I should just be my genuine, loving, and caring self.

Here is another newsflash for women: as shocking as it may seem, men are "human beings" who have something known as "feelings" and who respond to love and hatred the same way you do.

Ever hear the phrase, "to have a friend, be a friend?" Well, romantic love is the same way, with the only difference being the whole "mother-pattern" thing that I mentioned above.

Also, humor and comedy are WAY more effective than bitchiness to grow some love between two people. I consider laughter to be the glue that makes people stick together. And as everybody knows, the best kind of humor is to poke a little fun at yourself.

The strongest relationships are where the man and woman both have shared "inside jokes" to cut through the dull thudding of daily life. Like if you both watched a funny movie and were laughing through the whole movie, you can use the funny lines in that movie to help smooth out the rough spots in your relationship. Men don't love bitches... they love women who can laugh at themselves and at life in general... there is nothing like shared laughter to grow some lifetime love.

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Summary: *****NICE GIRLS DO FINISH LAST !*** 10 STARS BOOK ,MUST HAVE
Review: THIS BOOK SWEPT ME AWAY ! I GIVE IT A 10 *** STARS RATING , REASON . WHEN YOU ARE GROWING UP AS A YOUNG LADY IN YOUR PARENTS HOME , THEY TEACH YOU EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE IN GENERAL , BUT NOT WHEN IT COMES TO BALANCING YOUR EMOTIONS . SCHOOL PREPARE YOU FOR DUTIES IN THE MAIN STREAM OF SOCIETY , BUT NOT FOR RELATIONSHIPS . THIS BOOK DOES , IT HELPS YOU TO UNDERSTAND HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR DIGNITY , SELF RESPECT , & HOW TO STAY IN CONTROL OF YOUR SELF , & THE SECRETS TO BALANCING A MAN WITH OUT GETING HURT & OR TOO HURT. GREAT BOOK . ONCE AGAIN TEN (10) STARS !******************************* YOLANDA ALLISON FROM NEW YORK CITY

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Summary: Same old, same old
Review: When I first started reading this book I laughed a lot, it was very funny and clever but suddenly it fell into this "change your personality" type of theme and from there everything went downhill. Basically, guys will like you but, you will no longer be "you" but this complex creature who will have predetermined reactions for every situation. Half way through the book, the author has gotten her point across millions of time, she contradicts herself in every chapter, telling you not to be his servant, nevertheless you should never complain for his mess in the house, letting him do whatever he wants, etc. She repeats herself trying to write a book out of a single thought. I would not recommend this book to anybody, it is merely a waste of time in something that can be said in one page.

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Summary: Not what I expected...
Review: I thought this book was about how to rule the guy. I was so glad to find out I was wrong. I always wondered how certain women get all the guys. Well, it's not about being a bitch, but being able to hold your own. This book teaches women how to not be taken advantage of. It refers to the "nice girl", which many of us are, not knowing that we are sending off the wrong signals. The book made me feel stronger about myself and dating rather than going in with so many questions and "thinking too much". I can't say that it is the perfect guide to dating, but the suggestions are fabulous and something all single women should read if you are getting many mixed signals from guys. It doesn't mean he's not that into you, just that you may have to approach things differently to get through to him.
I thought the book was excellent. It made me feel better about myself and gave me some confidence about being a stronger woman in any type of relationship.