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Summary: A toolkit for self-love in the purest form.
Review: Melody Beattie is one of my favorites because she delivers her message with the 'velvet hammer' touch. I've read a lot of self-help books but nothing has compared to the powerful information in this book. Codependency doesn't mean that you are a bad person, it means that you are a loving person simply loving the wrong person -- you need to love yourself first and foremost. Relationships will improve drastically when you put yourself as #1. Too many messages run rampant in our minds telling ourselves that we're not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough -- we ARE ENOUGH. Our self-esteem is our responsibility solely. Take back the love you owe to yourself and quit giving it away to all the wrong people. There's lots of freedom in this little book. A wonderful companion. Thank you, Melody.
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Summary: a five star book, codependent no more
Review: I highly reccommend this book to anyone who suffers do to the addiction or alcoholism or eating disorder of a friend or relative. The book is easy to read, hard to put down and offers plenty of information and encouraging words as well as links to help for the families and friends of alcoholics, anorexics and bulemics, over eaters and addicts. Having been a member of alanon for families & friends of people with drinking problems for five years I can honestly say that this a good first book if you haven't tried a support group like alanon and are wondering what codependency is all about and how you can find help and what help feels like.
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Summary: If you can only buy one self-help book, this is the one.
Review: I was given this book by an acquaintance shortly after joining Al-Anon. It has lived on my coffee table ever since - it's been eleven years now. It doesn't just live on my coffee table, though - it lives in my heart and in my soul. If you are recovering from anything, if you lack self-confidence, if you are anxious or afraid, if you are struggling with a relationship, this book will tell you - gently, always gently - that it will be okay. I am sure God speaks to many of us through Melody Beattie. Melody - thank you for helping me find my life.
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Summary: Codependent No More - EXCELLENT!!
Review: This is an EXCELLENT book. I have read most of Melody Beattie's works and this is the best. It helped me tremendously and is a book I go back and read over and over again!! I have given this book to several friends and family members who are dealing with codependency issues and their votes are the same as mine. A must have!!
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Summary: Codependent No More is a Life-Saver
Review: I am currently reading, and re-reading the book Codependent No More written by Melody Beattie. I have found so much of what she says in this book to be very helpful in overcoming codependent behavior. I have really learned so much from this book, that I would love to read some of the other books Melody Beattie has written. I found this book at just the right time so that the information I have gained from reading the book will help break my codependent behavior. I highly recommend this book.
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Summary: A BIBLE in codependency! Awesome!
Review: I read this book over and over. It's a keeper. 'Course my edition is from 1987!! Beattie has become a household name in codependency issues, and this is a page-turner, as well as having ME on every page of the book (yep, unfortunately, I'm QUITE codependent). But beyond that, Beattie has an interesting writing style, gets the reader involved from the get-go, and really puts her heart and soul into the book. She's great, and so is Codependent No More!
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Summary: A real aid in understanding yourself!
Review: I found this book absolutely excellent for understanding where I was coming from and why. It is very comphrehensive, easy to read and I found myself nodding away at all I read. Melody Beattie is a fabulous writer and very supportive in her writing. I would recommend this book to anyone who has ever found themselves so wrapped up in someone else they don't know who they are anymore. This book is an ally, a friend, a positive guide out of co-dependency. It cannot but increase awareness in oneself.
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Summary: A book which changed my life.
Review: This book helped me change my life more significantly than any other book I have read before or since. I had been involved with two emotionally abusive men in a row, and had been depressed for many years. Reading Melody Beattie's book made me feel like she knew me and had written my biography, explaining why I often felt the way I did, interacted with people the way I did, why I picked the men I did, and how I could change ALL of this and let go of what was causing me so much pain. I consider myself now in recovery from codependency and have the tools now to give myself a better life. Thank you, Melody.
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Summary: beware, and think for yourself.
Review: Although this book may give some very healthy affirmations for people who are involved with people who have substance abuse problems, or people in abusive relationships and how to detach from them, I wouldn't dare consider this a book for the average depressed or lonely person.Beattie's definition of what codependency is in this book is almost laughable in its attempt to tag everyone in the world as a codependent. (Except herself. She's above that now.) By the *extremely* broad list of codependent "symptoms" in this book, anyone who picks it up could be labeled as codependent. Also, calling it a "progressive disease which can eventually lead to death" is absolutely ludicrous, sky-high rhetoric. Worried about the misfortunes of your loved ones? Oh, you shameful, pathetic codependent. Care for someone else's well-being? You hopeless codependent. You must have had an alcoholic great grandfather. Are you crying? Only codependents cry. Does anyone else's behavior affect you in a way other than affirming your Nitzschean ubermenschen attitude? You are so codependent. Join a 12-step program now. Don't ever help someone who is sick or down on their luck or you'll be an enabler, or "taking their inventory" or whatever AA catch-phrase can be quickly thrown at you. Regardless of what Ms. Beattie says, loving yourself is not this complicated. Seek happiness within yourself, not this book. Avoid the Codependency Cult and be yourself.
Caring is NOT a disease. While I agree that this book may have helped some people, it is not the solution for everyone. I think the solution always lies within the self. "Codependent No More" pathologizes the natural tendency to care for others, and perpetuates the dubious myth that a caring partner is responsible for an addicted person's behavior. No one can cause another person's addictive behavior, period. And being concerned about someone with addictive behaviors does not prove that you have a personality disorder. Read with caution, and don't allow this bunk to run your life...or you'll be codependent, ha ha.
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Summary: Co-dependent doesn't mean just living with an alcoholic
Review: What a surprise this book was for me. Co-dependency can mean living with anyone who requires that you live THEIR life and and not your own. NO MORE. I needed this book. Maybe you do, too. It can be painful, but sometimes that's what you need to get a healthy life.
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