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Summary: Saved my marriage
Review: This book is absolutely incredible. Having serious marital problems, I was desperate for any kind of help. I was about to turn to counseling when I heard about this book. I decided to buy it so that my husband and I could read it together.Not expecting too much, one lazy morning I suggested to my husband that we lay in bed and begin reading this book out loud to eachother. We read 120 pages that morning! We could not put it down! Both of us shed a lot of tears that morning, this book really hit home. That morning when we woke up, everything seemed hopeless for us. After reading this book, we had hope that our problems can be resolved. Our attitude toward eachother has greatly changed since we read this book. Basically this book explains that people feel loved in different ways. For example, my love language is "quality time" and my husband's love language is "personal touch." Without quality time with my husband, I feel unloved... my husband feels unloved when we have a lack of physical contact. Our love languages are so different... before reading this book, I just thought that my husband wanted more sex for selfish reasons. When in reality, personal contact is what he needs to feel loved. Before reading this book, my husband hated when I nagged about spending time together.. but now he realizes that spending time with me is the best way to tell me that he loves me. Dr. Chapman says in this book that LOVE IS A CHOICE. Find your partner's love language style, then choose to show love to your partner in that way (it's not about what YOU need to feel loved, it's about what YOUR PARTNER needs). I thought that spending quality time with my spouse was the way I can show him I love him. In reality, that's MY love language, not HIS. Even if your partner does not want to read this book with you, there are ways you can begin to repair your marriage on your own, and before you know it, your partner will begin to reciprocate. This book is INCREDIBLE. I plan to pass it around my friends and family. Please invest the $12 and read this book, your marriage will never be the same again!
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Summary: A MUST READ!
Review: This book is great. The title does not do it justice. It is a very sound book and the principles can work miracles in your marriage if you apply them. We read the book out loud together and learned so much about each others needs that we did not know, even after almost 30 yrs. of marriage. Would have been great to read it when we were young, but better late than never!
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Summary: good at any point in a relationship or if you're single
Review: I think is an excellent book for explaining the basics of why we feel loved (or unloved) in relationships. It really helps you see how to give to your mate what THEY need to feel loved. Doing simple things can really make the other person happy, and you feel good knowing you can know how to satisfy your mate. I recommended this to my girlfriends. It's a good book to read so that when you do have a relationship you can get off to a good, healthy start.
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Summary: now you're speaking my language...
Review: Would you like to become a better communicator of love to your spouse? Would you like to reap the rewards of having a spouse whose "love tank" is full, and keeps yours full as well? Love is a choice, not an emotion. Gary Chapman explains that after the "falling in love" stage of a relationship, which can last up to two years, we settle back in to reality. The rose colored glasses are removed and we begin to see our spouse for the person they really are, warts and all. When the sparks begin to fizzle, Hollywood tells us that it is time to move on to another relationship. Chapman, on the other hand, reveals that we now have the opportunity to solidify and deepen the relationship through learning how to effectively communicate our love for our spouse. He introduces us to the five love languages: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Each of us express our love using these different languages and their dialects. If our language is different from that of our spouse, our expressions of love may not be understood and appreciated. This book helps us identify and use the love languages that are meaningful to ourselves and our spouse. Chapman uses real-life examples to illustrate each language, with a dash of biblical passages to support his material. The love languages are simple, and they work -- not only between husband and wife, but with children as well. My wife and I are polar opposites in love languages. By learning to express our love in ways that are more meaningful to each other, our honeymoon is thirteen years strong. Get this book, read it, share it, apply it, and your "love tanks" will never be empty again. Larry Hehn, Author of Get the Prize: Nine Keys for a Life of Victory
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Summary: Standard Wishful Thinking
Review: Marriage is an institution that reflected the economy of an agrarian nation. Single family farms do not exist in suburbia. Trying to cram yourselves into an arrangement that was created to have many children to help with the endless physical work needed to survive is making the USA c r a z y and idiots like Ophra and Dr. Phil filthy rich selling how to make it work!
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Summary: Where's The Needle On *Your* Love Tank?
Review: How's your relationship with your mate? Your children? Your parents? Your siblings? It may be a matter of the state of the "love tank". Author Gary Chapman in his book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate believes everyone has a love tank, and that tank is filled by different love languages. These five languages are Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Quality of Time, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Often, we tend to give love in the languages we are most fluent in, which usually ends up being the languages that fill up our love tank. This would be why a husband who does yard work, dishes, car maintenance, etc. (Acts of Service) is floored when his wife says "You never show me you love me. You never cuddle with me, or caress my hair, or make the first move for sex." (Physical Touch). Or, "Why don't you spend time with me? Why do you work so much?" (Quality Time). And, "Why don't you buy me flowers? Why don't you ever get me cards or balloons...just because?" (Gifts) Or "You never tell me what I mean to you. Why don't you ever share with me what I mean to you, or what my good qualities are?" (Words of Affirmation) But, if her language is primarily Acts of Service, she'll feel so loved and honored because her husband does so many things for her, and thus feels "full" in her love tank. This may not sound like a big deal, but considering the divorce rate is 50% (as one relationship instance), and so many seem to be unhappy with their primary relationships, the concept of love languages may very well be a signficant factor in understanding self and others, and in relationship growth. Perhaps relationships get rocky or arrive at an impasse because individuals are speaking a different love language than what fills up the "love tank" of the object of their affection...and a result, the recipient doesn't feel loved. It's not that they feel empty and unfufilled because love isn't being given, but because the language "spoken" is not something that registers to the recipient as a form of love. Chapman further theorizes that we usually have 2 main love languages that fill up our tank. He also says that if a person has a hard time identifying their main love languages, they've either been on empty for so long and are out of touch with their needs, or they have been so filled up by their spouse, that all 5 languages tend to speak to them equally. A story in the book that illustrates the love tank theory is the "burnt toast syndrome". A woman was sick in bed. Her husband would always bring her burnt toast to her when she was ailing. She was so hurt and offended by this repeated insensitivity and ignorance, that she finally burst into tears one day, and asked him why he did that...and didn't he care? She was floored to hear him say "I'm sorry honey. I had no idea. Burnt toast is my favorite, and I gave you what I would consider my favorite breakfast...burnt toast." Chapman writes: "When your spouse's emotional love tank is full and he feels secure in your love, the whole world looks right and your spouse will move out to reach his highest potential in life. But when the love tank is empty and he feels used but not loved, the whole world looks dark and he will likely never reach his potential for good in the world." I recommend this book highly. It could very well be a relationship saver!
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Summary: This book would certainly help your marriage!
Review: After I read this book and confirmed my own love language I said to myself, "I wish I'd had known this twenty years ago when I was first married". I would recommend this book to all couples and singles who are contemplating marriage. Understanding the person you love is the first step in improving your relationship. I believe couples considering divorce would be wise to try the suggestions in this book before calling it quits. I plan on giving this book as a gift to those who could use the help. My wife and I will also teach these concepts to our three boys.
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Summary: Do you want the best marriage?
Review: Do you want to give your marriage the best possible chance to succeed? If you do, simply put, this is the absolute BEST book you can read to help you understand how to fill your loved one's "love tank" on a regular basis. Don't get married without it!
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Summary: Unbelievably Bad
Review: Nothing more than antidotal information collected through connections with the extremely religious! I've encountered people who have read the book using laughable phrases such as "my love tank is full". If you really want to understand communication styles stick with people who have done the research and have the credentials. Deborah Tannen has written several well-researched books that are helpful in improving communication in interpersonal relationships.
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Summary: Good for Married, Single, and whoever else is frustrated.
Review: I am not going to tell you about the authors writing techniques or anything else, I am going to tell you what this book has done for me.
A friend (male) suggested I read this book some time ago. Since I dont read relationship books I laughed it off, and continued with my relationship. By that time I had been in my relationship with a man for 7 years, and though we love eachother we just always seemed to fight. He didnt understand me, and I guess I didnt understand him either. My boyfriend and I decided to split and I left the country. One day I was bored and picked up the book, and from page one it made sense. I read the book in 3 hours, and I couldnt wait to call my (then ex) boyfriend back in the states. I told him about it, and asked him if he would read it. He said yes, and so I had a copy mailed to him. He read it, and everything started to come together for him also. A month later he asked me to come home, and I agreed. I can tell you these last 2 months have been the best time we have spent together in the 8 years we have been together. I wish I had the book a long time ago. Now I suggest it to everyone I know, and everyone loves it. Do yourself a favor and buy this book, it might just change your life too.
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