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Summary: It advocates selling your soul for rateings....
Review: I think every woman who is now in jouralism has read this book and took it to heart by reporting shock value stories just to get ahead. This book is all about giving up everything worth while to earn the most money. That's not advice, it's more like telling someone to cut their throat and giving them the knife to do it.
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Summary: Great, sensible advice
Review: All the unconscious, everyday bringdowns women to do to themselves, to stay off the fast track. Laid out forthrightly and without sentimentality, author Lois Frankel makes you understand that women have to break out of learned growing-up behaviors and inhibitions to make it in the corporate world. Look in the mirror, ladies -- it's you, not them!
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Summary: I am on my way to the corner office!
Review: AN AWESOME READ! By reading "Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office," I feel like I can make the changes needed to further my career and soon be in the corner office myself. I have bought copies for my sister, mother and close female friends and they have all enjoyed it immensely. I also found Dr. Frankel's other book, "Overcoming Your Strengths," helpful to my career. The tips in her books are insightful and make a definite difference.
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Summary: Packed with Knowledge !
Review: Author, coach and psychotherapist Lois P. Frankel explains how traditionally feminine behavior undermines women's career growth. She makes you feel as comfortable as possible while teaching you about "girlish" behavior that holds you back at work. As soon as she describes a problem, she jumps in with doable solutions, some easy, some quite challenging or time-consuming. Frankel shares case histories and offers many applicable techniques. She uses humor deftly and warns the gung-ho not to change everything at once. Now the caveats: Frankel does not grapple with the insoluble problem that women who behave in more forceful, unfeminine ways are often disliked and rejected, a maddening 'Catch 22' if you want to advance. She should warn that even smart tactics rarely help in a truly sexist workplace. She also needs to say that the wish to be liked isn't girlish, feminine or womanly; it is human. Contrary to platitude, other people can hurt and stigmatize you with their verbal abuse or harassment, no matter how strong you are. Still, although she hasn't unraveled every knot, Frankel comes a long way toward helping women diagnose - with a self-assessment checklist - and correct inadvertent mistakes that could be holding them back. We recommend her valuable counsel to women who want to become respected leaders.
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Summary: Grown Up Women Unite!
Review: Don't be put off by this title! This book addresses the adult woman in the workplace. This is a read by an author who clearly has made her own way in the world of work and has helped many other women to do the same.Practical, insightful, down to earth and real. This book is for grown up women who want to stop self-defeating behaviors and embrace the freedom of being the completely competent, powerful, fun person they are. I'll never cry in the workplace again. I'll never again feel I'm asking for too much by simply being clear about what's needed to complete a project . This is a book for the bedside table and for the top of your desk.
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Summary: We Haven't Come a Long Way Baby
Review: Dr. Frankel was my coach for over a year. Many of the suggestions in the book I heard from her directly and I must say, they were all correct. When I did what she suggested I felt more empowered even if I wasn't always successful. I guess the bottom line is, you have to make a choice as to whether you want to be the statue or the bird.
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Summary: Great Read!
Review: Every tip in this book is informative and practical. The self- assessment test in the beginning helped me strategize my reading and focus on the low scoring areas first. I was learning a lot and decided to continue reading the other chapters as well. The test, in it of itself, is worth it.
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Summary: The Times They Are A'Changin....
Review: For more than two decades, Frankel has been advising women to recognize and then stop making various "unconscious mistakes" which have sabotaged their careers and (probably) many of their personal relationships as well. However, the fact remains that countless men as well as women have made the same mistakes and suffered from the same consequences. True, even throughout U.S. history, society has assigned quite different stereotypical roles to men and women. Perhaps not until World War II, for example, were most women allowed to combine full-time employment with marriage and/or parenthood. Even then, many of the women relinquished their jobs to men after the war ended. They, their daughters, and their granddaughters were again strongly encouraged to accept the role of a subordinate, deferential, compliant, cooperative, "Stepford-ish" role in the home, in the community, and even in the workplace. "Attempts to act counter to this socialized role are met with ridicule, disapproval and scorn." Frankel goes on to observe, "Whether it was Mom's message -- 'Boys don't like girls who are too loud.' -- or, in response to any angry outburst, a spouse's messages -- 'What's the matter? Is it that time of month?' -- women are continually bombarded. with negative reinforcement for acting in any manner contrary to what they were taught in girlhood. As a result, they learn that acting like a 'good girl' is less painful than than assuming more appropriate behavior for adult women (and totally acceptable for boys and adult men.)" Two reactions to that brief excerpt: First, my own experience suggests that Frankel's observations were more true 10-15 years ago than they are today. Also, finally (!), we are beginning to appreciate the full value and substantial benefits of what Daniel Goleman calls "emotional intelligence" in the workplace: nurturing associates, building consensus, empathy, expressing feelings as well as ideas, etc. Traditionally, these values have been more associated with women than with men. With the decline of the "command and control" management style, in combination with Free Agency (which was in great part a response to that style), males as well as females are expected to develop emotional intelligence. There are two other societal phenomena worthy of note: The increasing number of two-income households and the increasing number of single-parent families. The former requires a different division of labor, of tasks once viewed as gender-specific; the latter requires one adult to be both mother and father. These two phenomena have done much to invalidate the "role" which Frankel's describes in the brief excerpt. I also want to suggest again, that Eleanor Roosevelt's statement which Frankel quotes ("No one can make you feel inferior without your consent") is as relevant to males as it is to females. As the enormous sales of books written by the Twin Doctors (McCraw and Schlesinger) and others have clearly demonstrated, males as well as females are eager -- many even desperate -- for guidance on how to find greater meaning and fulfillment, great joy and satisfaction in their personal as well as professional lives. Self really does matter. Frankel's sensible advice on how to avoid or correct various "unconscious mistakes" does NOT preclude being a lady or a gentleman. On the contrary, as presumably she would agree, the most highly respected and admired executives are -- by nature or of necessity -- polite, thoughtful, sensitive, and considerate persons. Why? Organizations today heavily depend upon effective human as well as electronic networks. Those human networks are based on trust and comprised of women as well as men, led by those who possess qualities of character and temperament once associated almost entirely with women.
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Summary: A MUST READ! Truly dynamic.
Review: Had I read this book early in my career (right after college), it may not have had the same impact as it does now. I was able to say "I did that, I do that or I've done that" to a large percent of the book. I never realized that what I was doing was hurting my career. Having picked up this book at the start of a new career path, I can use all of Dr. Frankel's coaching tips from the beginning without fear of co-workers wondering if I'm sick. I've been in my new position for only two weeks and have already stopped myself on many occasions from "bein' a girl". If you're serious about your career, you'll definitely want this book in your brief case! She has a way with words that makes every example seem to have come straight from a place you've been. All of my choices now are guided by "the book". Thank you Dr. Frankel, you are my hero!
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Summary: 101 ways to start undoing the damage
Review: Having read this cover to cover, I must say, if someone had been able to point out how segregating it was for me to behave and say some of these little things, I would have gone a lot further and been able to do more with my career. Frankel focuses on the equality factor without bashing men for their shortcomings or making women superheroes, two extremes that would serve no good purpose, especially in large print. We are not saints, and men are not demonized in this VERY helpful tome, and I assure you that having put it to work in the few short months that I have, EVERYTHING has changed at work and for the better. And what has changed the most is not only how I am treated, but how I treat others. The responsibility is on me for how far I go or fall, and Frankel makes that perfectly clear. HOW I am to take that responsibility, she also makes just as clear. What I do with this is up to me, so what I have done is just put it all into practice, and it really does work. For me. But then, I grew up in the deep South where manners and cotillions and pageants are EVERYTHING (in that day and age and in some places still are), and I had no idea just how much of that was so very out of touch and out of place in the workplace.
I would recommend this book to any woman out there who hasn't gotten where she wants to be yet. You can get there, and Dr. Frankel shows you how in simple and straightforward terms with one simple phrase and a whole lot of savvy from experience: "QUIT BEIN' A GIRL!" Thank you, I'd rather be a woman anyday, especially at work, not to mention what it teaches my daughter, as I really want her to grow up knowing her worth is not based on being a "girl". And like the other reviewers I've seen here, I agree that more men should read this, because quite frankly, many of them just don't get it YET. But THEY WOULD if they took the time to read and really pay attention. I could go on, but why. Read it, it's worth it. Thank you Dr. Frankel for the smart tools that have helped change my life (I got the promotion last week--know why? As someone told me, "you got the professional manner I knew you had in you to come to the surface at last.") and I hope this helps anyone else in need or doubt.
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