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Summary: Right on Target
Review: As Director of the Straight Spouse Network, having listened to the stories of thousands of spouses, I can say without hesitation that My Husband is Gay presents an accurate picture of the ups and downs of a wife's painful journey after her husband reveals he is [homosexual] or bisexual. Weaving her personal story along with those of many other womenn she interviewed, Carol Grever offers a broad spectrum of practical models for how to get through this crisis in one piece -- and also the possibilites of growth through the process.
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Summary: One of the best I have read on the subject
Review: Carol Grever has written about being a straight spouse in a very caring and loving way. The book also approaches the subject honestly, without leaving the reader feeling without hope or encouragement. What a plus!
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Summary: No one wants to have to buy this book, but sure happy I did!
Review: Let's face it, the world is changing. I didn't want to have to buy this book, but I did and I'm happy I did.My situation differs from most because I was not "married" to my partner, but we do share a child. However, I found the book to apply just as well. The stories in here lessen the feeling of being "alone". Through this entire ordeal I've hated the idea that I couldn't talk to anyone about what I was going through. This book helped me to open up more about my situation - realize it's not my fault. I'd highly recommend this to anyone. It took me 4 years to get more information on it, don't waste any time!
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Summary: No one wants to have to buy this book, but sure happy I did!
Review: Let's face it, the world is changing. I didn't want to have to buy this book, but I did and I'm happy I did. My situation differs from most because I was not "married" to my partner, but we do share a child. However, I found the book to apply just as well. The stories in here lessen the feeling of being "alone". Through this entire ordeal I've hated the idea that I couldn't talk to anyone about what I was going through. This book helped me to open up more about my situation - realize it's not my fault. I'd highly recommend this to anyone. It took me 4 years to get more information on it, don't waste any time!
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Summary: What about the straight spouse?
Review: This book was a good accounting of the various stages of grief experienced by a straight spouse to whom it is revealed in whatever manner that her husband is gay. It gives the straight spouse validation that she is not alone.
However, to my disappointment, but book seems far too slanted toward the gay spouse, his struggle, how horrible it must have been, is, for him. It seems to guide the straight wife down a path that leads to "it's okay, I still love him, we can still be friends". For me, this will never be okay,and it should never be okay. Unfaithfulness is NOT OKAY. That is not to say that I am going to be angry forever in a destructive way. I am angry now (1 1/2 years after my divorce and almost nine years after I first found out)but I know that will get less intense. Straight spouses need to stand up for themselves and be counted, need to say that this is NOT okay and that the gay spouses need to take responsibility for not knowing himself and not being honest with himself and women they married. It is not okay to be unfaithful to your wife, even if it is with another man because you are gay. You get the divorce first, take responsibility for any children and other practical aspects of the marriage, and then move on if you must. This book seems to pity the gay men in marriages and has not nearly enough support and sympathy for the wives who are almost invariably left with all the responsiiblity - the author herself admits that her husband spent time on vacation with other men, leaving her to shoulder the full load of the business they owned together. Just because someone is gay and married does not give them license to abdicate responsibility, and this author seems to let the gay men off way too easily. More attention should be given to empowering the straight spouses to stand up for themselves and demand that their gay husbands shoulder their end of the marriage bargain. Nothing in the marriage vows states "till death do us part, unless I discover I'm gay and then all bets are off".
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Summary: Powerful message on the healing process for all
Review: This well written book is so helpful. In a unique and open style, Carol Grever shares her moving story and those of 25 other women. It reads like a novel and I did not want to put it down. It has a useful message to all people who have dealt with surprises, changes, and life tramas, not only those who find themselves impacted by a friend coming out of the closet. In openly communicating her struggles in such a heartful way, Carol makes it possible for others to also begin to talk about this previously forbidden topic. I highly recommend this book.
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Summary: Powerful message on the healing process for all
Review: This well written book is so helpful. In a unique and open style, Carol Grever shares her moving story and those of 25 other women. It reads like a novel and I did not want to put it down. It has a useful message to all people who have dealt with surprises, changes, and life tramas, not only those who find themselves impacted by a friend coming out of the closet. In openly communicating her struggles in such a heartful way, Carol makes it possible for others to also begin to talk about this previously forbidden topic. I highly recommend this book.
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