The Rules for Online Dating : Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right in Cyberspace

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Summary: More Than Common Sense
Review: Admittedly I'm a closet Rules fan. On the surface their thoughts seems outdated and obvious. My girlfriends used to respond to IMs all day and write lengthy e-mails back and forth with men but never get a date. Once they applied the Rules for Online dating they found they were getting a lot more date action. As did I (gulp!)

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Summary: Dateing online is not a therapy
Review: Aleksandra S.from Dallas,Tx USA
Exellent book!!!This book definitly help me weed out Mr.Wrong,save my time and protect myself.Ellen and Sherrie will teach you how to be Creature Unlike Any Other and win the heart of Mr.Right.Dateing on or offline is not a therapy.(...)No matter how bad things are,you have to be princes on dates,not someone looking for savior.Nobody wont you when you are down and out!(...)

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Summary: Incredibly wrong!
Review: Any book that says email is like a phone call and therefore should never be initiated, and rarely returned, by the female of the species is incredibly wrong! Communicating clearly in the online world is a developing art, and a LACK of communication will make the guy think you are not interested and he will move on. If someone interests you, communicate with him... don't wait for him to send you again. He won't.

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Summary: You have to learn the rules before you can break them
Review: As I've learned in graphic design and cooking, you have to learn the rules of the trade before you can break them with confidence (and success). That said, this book provides a great outline of how to find success in online dating, assuming success is defined as achieving a long-term romantic relationship.

For the men who refute the validity of these rules:

You like a woman who is honest. Rules girls are always truthful; how is saying we're busy when asked for a date on short notice manipulative? Rules girls are always busy because our lives are full, we're not sitting by the phone waiting to be called for a date.

You like women who return phone calls and e-mails. Rules girls return phone calls and e-mails at the earliest opportunity--we're busy but well worth the wait--our weekends are always full of fun activities with family and friends, not checking e-mail. If you interpret a longer-that-24-hour delay as disinterest, you don't have enough initiative to interest us anyway. You also like women who initiate phone calls themselves--perhaps when we know you better, we will, wouldn't that be a treat?

You like women who answer the questions you ask instead of ignoring them. Anything more personal than, "Just got back from walking the dog...do you like dogs?" deserves to be ignored. The brevity of a Rules girl's response has nothing to do with our level of education. If you don't understand a "Hi, sorry for not responding sooner, I've been so swamped!" means we're thinking of you despite our busy schedules, then you're not our type anyway.

You like women who take initiative. We're ambitious women who take initiative in all other aspects of our lives--we would like to be in a long-term romantic relationship with a man who is self-confident enough to take the initiative.

You like women to ask you out...well, I prefer to be asked out. If you're my type of man, you will run the risk of rejection, because you are self-confident and interested in me. If you're *that* interested in me, you will likely win that first date!

If you aren't dazzled by me within four e-mails, that's about a week of completely impersonal communication and you're just not that interested. I need to move on to brighter prospects.

Equality in a relationship is not based on who pays for a date--who really thinks that anyway? If you ask a Rules girl out, she is your guest and you pay (and, lest we forget, you plan). When I ask you out, I will pay (by that time, though, you'll have married me, so it may not matter).

The techniques this book recommends would quickly cause you to look elsewhere. That works for us, you're not Rules girl material! If YOU want a relationship with a Rules girl, you'll make it happen. If you don't, you won't--the Rules girl won't waste her (or your) precious time trying to force what isn't there. Not all people fit with each other, and this book helps women with particular expectations understand why they're not being met by the men they date.

All of that said, I discovered I have been practicing the Rules nearly my entire dating life. It has been when I've broken my own personal "rules" that I've experienced heart-wrenching break-ups, because the relationships should never have been in the first place. Cheers to all the Rules girls, past, present and future!

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Summary: This book is EVIL!!!!
Review: Don't waste your time or money buying this worthless stack of paper!! It was written by old grandmothers who were beautiful and popular when they were young and they can't understand that not everyone is a supermodel or that some people are really shy or hate going to bars to find men or women! They are affraid of technology and don't know how to use the Internet so they want women to stay single virgins for their entire lives! If you intend on becoming a nun then go ahead and buy this book, otherwise stay away from it, or do exactly the opposite of what it recommends...

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Summary: This book is pathetic
Review: I am a 38 year-old man, and I don't play games when I am dating someone. That's what this book tells women to do. I attempted to date a few women who tried these strategies on me(I.E. not returning my phone calls), and I dumped them quickly! I treat women with respect, and am always a gentleman. Men deserve the same amount of respect they give to women, and this stupid book teaches just the opposite. No wonder one of the authors just got divorced. It serves her right for screwing up so many women with her warped sense of dating. Do you ladies really want a relationship based on lies and deceit? What is this junk about men always have to be the pursuer? If I like a woman, I don't care if she pursues me. I wouldn't encourage anyone to buy this piece of drivel.

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Summary: Rules?
Review: I am noticing that all of the naysayers of this book are males who do not want to admit that the rules really do work. As a woman that has been in the dating scene for a while, I realize that this book really tells it like it is. If you want to get that quality man to commit to you and not get bored, you have to be hard to get. I would recommend this book to any woman that is trying out online dating.

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Summary: Excellent Book!!!
Review: I am noticing that all of the naysayers of this book are males who do not want to admit that the rules really do work. As a woman that has been in the dating scene for a while, I realize that this book really tells it like it is. If you want to get that quality man to commit to you and not get bored, you have to be hard to get. I would recommend this book to any woman that is trying out online dating.

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Summary: I love the Rules!
Review: I have to say I read the Rules and loved them. As a woman of the eighties/nineties I was wondering why my dating wasn't working...especially since I was working on myself so much in therapy. I read the Rules and knew then that I had to let men court me..never knew that! So when computer dating started I wasn't applying the Rules persay and I am thrilled this book came out! It is helping me weed out the timewasters,and it is so true. This book has helped me so much and my friends are running out and buying it too!

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Summary: how to lose a guy in 10 easy steps
Review: I just browsed the book and I have to tell you it's amazing that anyone would think this owuld work, it has a real 1940s point of view, you might as well stay at home and learn to cook a decent meal before you go out and try to use this book as a guide to meeting men online.