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Summary: Bulls-eye
Review: Has this guy been reading my mail? This book gets specific and deals with common scenarios--not just the way-out stuff. Six stars!
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Summary: Excellent! Excellent!
Review: I bought this book a week ago, and have been so touched by everything in it! If you struggle with perfectionism, and lowself-esteem because of always trying to "measure up", you'll be blessed by this book. The author is a pastoral counselor, and has worked with many people who had similiar struggles. AND - he's also had the same struggles himself. He speaks honestly, humorously and bluntly. This book is a great tool for getting your life back on a more healthy track. Great book.
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Summary: Excellent
Review: I ordered on 9/3 and received the book like new on 9/8. Thanks loads. jhc
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Summary: Superb
Review: I ordered on 9/3 and received the book like new on 9/8. Thanks loads. jhc
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Summary: This book offers a way out for those trapped in legalism
Review: Jeff explains his concept of "a shame based society" as one in which "performance" is the key to acceptance. The problem with shame based societies (whether they be at home, work or church) is that they lead to legalism. Jesus came to do away with legalism....the free gift of grace. Jeff then explains three cycles we all need to understand: 1. The TRY HARD cycle where by shear will we try to measure up. 2. The GIVE UP cycle where (after trying hard) we give up due to absolute failure 3. The RELAX cycle....let Jesus do the work in you.This is an excellent book!
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Summary: Excellent
Review: Reading this book has been both painful and lifechanging for me. I have struggled for almost all my Christian life with shame and feeling like I'm never good enough. I could identify so much with the section on shame based relating. This book not only helps you pinpoint the problem, but also offers sensible, down to earth solutions. For the first time, I have come to believe, deep down in my heart, that God's love and acceptance of me is not based on my performance. I can't even begin to describe all the ways that God has used this book in my life. If you struggle with feelings of never measuring up, shame and feeling like you have to earn God's approval, do yourself a favor. Order this book.
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Summary: Bulls-eye
Review: The truth in this book freed me! This is the most life transforming book I have ever read. The author's style is very straightforward and very truth-telling. He does not just quote scripture, but his work is really Biblically based. But if you are not a Christian, it is for you too - not "preachy". I have new joy and peace, and am off the "try hard" treadmill, as a result of the truth I found in this book. If you have read other books, and are still "searching", this one is a must. I almost didn't get it because I have bought so many books on trying to enjoy life, but this one truly made the difference for me. I'll be rereading it and recommending it to everyone I know!
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Summary: The Most Life Transforming Book I've Ever Read
Review: The truth in this book freed me! This is the most life transforming book I have ever read. The author's style is very straightforward and very truth-telling. He does not just quote scripture, but his work is really Biblically based. But if you are not a Christian, it is for you too - not "preachy". I have new joy and peace, and am off the "try hard" treadmill, as a result of the truth I found in this book. If you have read other books, and are still "searching", this one is a must. I almost didn't get it because I have bought so many books on trying to enjoy life, but this one truly made the difference for me. I'll be rereading it and recommending it to everyone I know!
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Summary: Deals Powerfully With Shame
Review: This book deals powerfully with the shame and pain that can be experienced in, and caused by, relationships. It helps the reader to see when s/he is not the source or cause of shame (feeling inadequate and defective), and provides insight as to why many shaming messages are unfounded. This, therefore, eliminated the pain caused by shame. I had to read this book cover to cover twice over to get as much as I did out of it, and originally thought it a five star book. Not, I would honestly give it 20 stars out of 5. VERY helpful.
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Summary: Definitely worth reading (thank you Jeff)!
Review: This book was recommended to me several years ago when I was going through some extremely horrible situations with coming out of a borderline cult and dealing with some of the radical movements and teachings that are out there these days. The book really helped me sort out a lot of things and helped me understand the difference between trying to find life through our works (either 'positive' religious activities or 'negative' sinful fulfilment), and the realization that Christ is our true source life. He also alludes to how we try to rely on other people as our source of life. We place great demands on our spouse, kids, and others and expect them to give us what only Christ can fulfill. A true classic for getting away from the performance treadmill and learning the sufficiency and completeness of accepting Christ. I really ought to read it again. Please get this book. I also recommend Dudley Hall's "Grace Works".
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