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Summary: Not the Biblical View of man
Review: "I was disappointed with this book. Dr. Crabb states that a man's greatest need is significance and a woman's greatest need is security. My understanding of the Bible is that the single greatest need for both men and women is salvation and sanctification. Not only is the assessment of man's need wrong, he says that this must be dealt with BEFORE Biblical principles can be applied. A better approach would be to apply biblical principles to the lives of men and women and allow the Holy Spirit to work in them so that they will find their security and significance in Christ alone."
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Summary: Not the Biblical View of man
Review: "I was disappointed with this book. Dr. Crabb states that a man's greatest need is significance and a woman's greatest need is security. My understanding of the Bible is that the single greatest need for both men and women is salvation and sanctification. Not only is the assessment of man's need wrong, he says that this must be dealt with BEFORE Biblical principles can be applied. A better approach would be to apply biblical principles to the lives of men and women and allow the Holy Spirit to work in them so that they will find their security and significance in Christ alone."
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Summary: Larry Crabb uses words like a surgeon uses a scalpel
Review: Although I have not read the book in its entirety, quotes from Larry's book are used extensively in my Promise Keeper's study, and we all agree that he is the one writer who consistently causes us to pause and reflect...and most often to change the way we view and treat our wives.
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Summary: Most dissatisfied
Review: Book was very disappointing. Very little to assist the relationship between the couple. Everything went back to the personal relationship with God. Which in and of itself is not a bad thing - but - the message I kept receiving over and over was "a good personal relationship with God will solve all your (marital) problems regardless of what they are or how incompatable your relationship is." If both you and your partner are heavy into conservative, Christian religion where "women will give themselves to their husbands as the Bible commands" then by all means buy the book; otherwise, I suggest you look at other authors.
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Summary: Good information on the marriage relationship
Review: I found the book quite a help. It concentrates on getting your head straight about a relationship that's bound to have issues. But a warning: it's not a "handy fix-it" for relationships. Nor is it a how-to, to minister to a spouse with problems. It focuses on personal responsibilities and ministry and (by inference) where those responsibilities cross into influence and then manipulation. As far as I could tell, there was no heavy pressuring into traditional roles in the book. What it did say is that there are limits in the marriage relationship: in what you can reasonably expect from a partner, and in what you can do to make things happen. There is no handy way of "doing stuff" to make a marriage perfect. But there is still a realistic approach to your responsibilities and ministries in a relationship.
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Summary: Good information on the marriage relationship
Review: I found the book quite a help. It concentrates on getting your head straight about a relationship that's bound to have issues. But a warning: it's not a "handy fix-it" for relationships. Nor is it a how-to, to minister to a spouse with problems. It focuses on personal responsibilities and ministry and (by inference) where those responsibilities cross into influence and then manipulation. As far as I could tell, there was no heavy pressuring into traditional roles in the book. What it did say is that there are limits in the marriage relationship: in what you can reasonably expect from a partner, and in what you can do to make things happen. There is no handy way of "doing stuff" to make a marriage perfect. But there is still a realistic approach to your responsibilities and ministries in a relationship.
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Summary: The very basic for Christian marriage
Review: I read the book before I got married as homework. And I got a lot of answers from it. This book teaches you the basic; the definition of marriage in Christ. In our society, marriage does not sound sincere and serious. But this book fixed my distorted view of marriage. I strongly recommend this book for those engaged. Because you need to know why you marry as a Christian and how you are going to do it.
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Summary: Rare Insight
Review: I've read quite a few marriage and relationship books during my long engagement. This book stands out from the rest in that it addresses issues MUCH DEEPER than communication or listening skills. Why should my wife care how good of a listener I am in the middle of a heated argument when I intend to manipulate her rather than minister to her?
The author develops the concepts of Oneness (spirit, soul and body) and helps the reader clarify his or her goals in marriage.
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Summary: Yes it is the Biblical view
Review: The "Reader" from Southern California who wrote the "not a Biblical view" needs to learn how to read! When the author talks about security and significance, he makes it quite clear that he is discussing emotional needs. He also shows how we receive that security and significance IN and FROM our salvation in Christ. He also says that you must deal with people's urgent perceived needs before they can hear a larger message - this is straight out of the book of James - if you try to preach the gospel to a starving man, how could or why would he listen to you? Feed him first. Similarly, Dr. Crabb deals with healing emotional pain as a road to spiritual healing.
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Summary: Yes it is the Biblical view
Review: The "Reader" from Southern California who wrote the "not a Biblical view" needs to learn how to read! When the author talks about security and significance, he makes it quite clear that he is discussing emotional needs. He also shows how we receive that security and significance IN and FROM our salvation in Christ. He also says that you must deal with people's urgent perceived needs before they can hear a larger message - this is straight out of the book of James - if you try to preach the gospel to a starving man, how could or why would he listen to you? Feed him first. Similarly, Dr. Crabb deals with healing emotional pain as a road to spiritual healing.
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