Coming Out: A Handbook for Men

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Summary: The Book That Helped Me Come Out
Review: For years I strugged with my sexuality, denying it to others while trying to see if I was really gay. And I decided that I was tired of feeling so in doubt so I found this book. And I'm glad I did. This books explains in plain English withoout the psychobabble about how to embrase one's sexuality, understand it and gives a unique and definate view of being gay. One of the reasons its so hard coming out is because people don't know how to be gay. This book explains activities and gives clear definitions to some gay terms and such. This book was excellent and I recommend it to anyone coming out. It helped me come out in a very positive way and everything turned out great.

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Summary: The Book That Helped Me Come Out
Review: I recently got "Coming out: A Handbook for men" and I was completely impressed with the straight forward and thoughtful advise that anyone can use. I think he captures the feelings of coming out and the values it should instill. I is a good book for all ages, gay, straight, out, or closeted. I work with Gay youth and the book captures most of what I tell them when they are coming out. I recommend this book to all those thinking of coming out, those who want to know what it take, or someone who want to help someone come out.

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Summary: A complete handbook for the gay man....
Review: Many words came to my mind after reading 'Coming Out: A handbook for men' - amazing, thought-provoking, honest, refreshing, and basically just a big WOW! I don't ever recall reading a book about the gay world that was so honest and detailed in it's description of what being gay is all about and the gay lifestyle in general.

The book may be called 'Coming out', but it is actually a handbook for all gay men - especially those who are 'coming out' and experiencing the gay world for the first time. The book describes coming out as more than telling everyone about your sexuality then marching in the next Pride march waving a rainbow flag. Coming Out first must entail coming out to yourself and accepting yourself as you truely are. For alot of us gay men, that can often be the hardest part. So the first part of this book describes this process and then goes onto discuss in detail discovering your gay self through meeting and interacting with other gay men, as well as sex, drugs and disease because often, our first forays into our gay world involves exploring our sexual sides first. At no point does the author preach or say 'that is wrong', but he provides the basics in order for the reader to make up his own mind or at the very least encourage the reader to seek further information.

The second part of the book describes 'being out' - building your gay lifestyle so you can, hopefully, build a happy and nurturing enviroment with other gay men. He discusses everything from surviving your first relationship to the many different sub cultures within the gay community, to dealing with physical attacks and being scammed. If only I had read this book 10 years ago I could have saved myself a lot of grief! Whilst it may appear this book is aimed at those just coming out and experiencing their first gay contact, we 'old hands' can read it and see things from a completely different perspective and perhaps even learn something new ourselves....

If you're ever in a position where someone has confided in you about being gay and wants information, tell them about this book. Not only will it give wonderful valuable information in a direct, readable and honest manner, but it may also make their journey into the gay world a little smoother by being able to avoid some of the pitfalls and traps that most of us 'old hands' have experienced....

Rating:
Summary: A complete handbook for the gay man....
Review: Many words came to my mind after reading 'Coming Out: A handbook for men' - amazing, thought-provoking, honest, refreshing, and basically just a big WOW! I don't ever recall reading a book about the gay world that was so honest and detailed in it's description of what being gay is all about and the gay lifestyle in general.

The book may be called 'Coming out', but it is actually a handbook for all gay men - especially those who are 'coming out' and experiencing the gay world for the first time. The book describes coming out as more than telling everyone about your sexuality then marching in the next Pride march waving a rainbow flag. Coming Out first must entail coming out to yourself and accepting yourself as you truely are. For alot of us gay men, that can often be the hardest part. So the first part of this book describes this process and then goes onto discuss in detail discovering your gay self through meeting and interacting with other gay men, as well as sex, drugs and disease because often, our first forays into our gay world involves exploring our sexual sides first. At no point does the author preach or say 'that is wrong', but he provides the basics in order for the reader to make up his own mind or at the very least encourage the reader to seek further information.

The second part of the book describes 'being out' - building your gay lifestyle so you can, hopefully, build a happy and nurturing enviroment with other gay men. He discusses everything from surviving your first relationship to the many different sub cultures within the gay community, to dealing with physical attacks and being scammed. If only I had read this book 10 years ago I could have saved myself a lot of grief! Whilst it may appear this book is aimed at those just coming out and experiencing their first gay contact, we 'old hands' can read it and see things from a completely different perspective and perhaps even learn something new ourselves....

If you're ever in a position where someone has confided in you about being gay and wants information, tell them about this book. Not only will it give wonderful valuable information in a direct, readable and honest manner, but it may also make their journey into the gay world a little smoother by being able to avoid some of the pitfalls and traps that most of us 'old hands' have experienced....

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Summary: A guide to self-acceptance
Review: One of life's real (and unnecessary) tragedies is the closeted gay man who is regimented by years of homophobic conditioning and, as a result, can neither accept or even like himself. If he can't like himself, then, how can he let anyone else like him? Orland Outland's "Coming Out ..." is the complement of Michelangelo Signorile's classic "Outing Youself ..." and the unofficial second chapter to Rik Isensee's "Reclaiming Your Life: The Gay Man's Guide to Love, Self-Acceptance and Trust," all three of which extend "permission" for the closeted gay man in torment to let go of the pain from the years of emotional exile, self-rejection and loathing, and get on to a life of fulfillment. The "condition" of Orland's book is that the gay man is ready to come out to family and friends, and the works by Signorile and Isensee are more intended to help the gay man out himself to himself. Once that monumental step has been taken, Orland first renders tips to come to terms with family and friends and then how to establish a healthy gay lifestyle. Of the latter, we get a road map of how to navigate all those questions that today's gay man asks (and they're not too much different than the heterosexual guy's questions), like whether or not to do the bar scene, how safe is safe sex, is political activism advised and where to look for that special other guy. Written in a friendly and warm prose, Outland's self-help guide - like those from Signorile and Isensee - nonetheless doesn't treat jovially the life-altering experience the gay man will undoubtedly have when he comes out. Far from being "fun" and light-in-the-loafers (no pun), "Coming Out ..." is actually a journey of the fragile human heart that helps the gay man begin to get rid of all that internalized homophobic garbage and get on with the business of being happy for once. A wise investment!