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Summary: Psychoanalytic Objectivity Beyond the Politically Correct
Review: A more accurate title for this Jason Aronson psychoanalytic textbook would be "Reparative Therapy of the Not Gay Homosexual Man." Simply put -- and despite recent foolishly politically correct changes in the DSM certainly not limited to issues of homosexuality -- Dr. Nicolosi's psychoanalytic experience confirms what Freud, Jung and Adler found:
There are gay men who were simply born gay in "good enough" parent, stable, individuating families and have no need of this book or reparative therapy (or, in general, of cult-like "gay pride" memberships) -- and there are "not gay homosexual men" (as Dr. Nicolosi writes) who were born decidedly straight but whose stable ego-Self connections were damaged in an "absent bonding father figure, deadly devouring spidermother" dysfunctional disaster. Dr. Nicolosi's developmentally reparative therapy addresses the latter psychoanalytically classic "not gay homosexual man" -- who will not be a stable happy camper -- and calmly offers psychoanalytically sound, unconditional shelter from the current misguided right/left political storms and agendas. (Any objective gay man or "not gay homosexual man" would benefit from an unbiased reading of Dr. Nicolosi's informed and astute psychoanalytic wisdom.)
There ain't no easy way out -- take great care to silence both the offensive religious right and foolishly politically correct left in seeking objective truths in any too hot debate cast in black and white, especially this one. Read the few thoughtful, calm and objective reviews here and read the book -- and be privileged to understand (or be anguished by) the profound difference between naturally born gay men and "not gay homosexual" (and neurotic or personality disordered) men. (One less than five stars because Dr. Nicolosi is a little too coincidentally also a Catholic speaker -- and, as a sometime Catholic and pro choice voter in support of equal marriage rights for all, the rating is on the safer side of objectivity.) Highly recommended.
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Summary: Pioneering work with much hope
Review: After hearing Nicolosi in a conference I was interested that he has recently claimed to continue this work on over 500 patients. His work and book seem to be sound and support the view that dominated psychology and homosexuality a few decades ago. Recent research has made many claims in support of homosexuality which has been unscientific. Nicolosi rationally and thoroughly discusses homosexual behavior as a symptom of a disorder rather than a genetically inherited lifestyle. His work is sound and his research hard to dispute. I believe his research will be the pioneering work for the future of sexuality studies. This book is difficult to read but is of great help to those trying to find sound research and work on helping homosexuals return to heterosexualty.
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Summary: FORMER HOMSEXUAL ATHIEST
Review: As a student of psychology and a former homosexual I was pleased to read and study this book, while like thousands of others I questioned the book,. It has not anything to do with religion it is totaly a scientofic study of homosexuality. It is a great book and should be a must rread on all colleges.
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Summary: Beautiful. Just Beautiful
Review: Dr. Nicolosi is a good man, and Dr. Nicolosi is doing a good thing. What he says frightens a lot of people, and he frightens a lot of people becasue they know he's right. I'm currently in reparative therapy. I'm coming out of homosexuality. I've had a terrible past, mostly with my father and with other boys. This is a major cause of homosexuality: the inability to bond with father and other boys. If we haven't bonded properly with father and other boys, our desire to bond and identify with men will one day become sexualized. This sexualization points to a deeper need, namely, a desire to be intimate with fathers and same sex peers. Sadly, many mistakenly think that the desire for same-sex intimacy can be gratified by having sex with men. But this just isn't possible. However, when I bond with mentors and straight friends, the things I never received from father or peers--acceptance, affection, and affirmation--are given to me. I feel good. I feel confident. I feel strong. I feel like a man. And if I feel like a man, I'll naturally be attracted to what is opposite: woman.
Consequently, same-sex desires are diminished. I have no desire for men because I'm receiving love from them in a healthy, non-sexual way. This is a very healing thing. Things are only going to get better, too. Homosexuality is not genetic; it's developmental. Reparative therapy takes time. It takes strength. It takes work. Lots of work. Homosexuality takes a long time to develop and it can take a while to diminish. However, rediscovering my true self--the latent heterosexual underneath the lies, fears, and misperceptions--is the most exciting thing in the world. I commend you, Dr. Nicolosi, and one day I'll meet you and give you the great big hug you deserve. If you struggle with homosexuality, you need to read this book. You're safe with Dr. Joe. Dr. Joe knows what he's talking about. The negative reviews you see on this page are evidence of that. Read this book and...read this book.
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Summary: A Smart And Enlightening Clinical Read
Review: Dr. Nicolosi powerfully conveys his message of hope with clinical research and psychoanalysis that those who do not want to be homosexual can change. More importantly, Nicolosi has created a book which clearly explains the causes of homosexuality and is the most comprehensive on the subject. If you are looking for a book free from unnecessary political views and religious prejudice, this is the book for you to read.
I had started to highlight and pick out parts from the book which I felt to be profound and especially enlightening to share with friends and family, however, these passages became so numerous that I simply gave up and decided to just recommend the book as a whole.
By far this is the most helpful book I have read on homosexuality, and I simply cannot recommend this book highly enough. Nicolosi explores homosexuality non-judgmentally and with a thoughtful, and thorough approach. He writes with coherence and practicality, offering hope to those homosexuals who wish to change, and is slowly educating the world one reader at a time.
This is a great book even for those still living the gay lifestyle, and who do not want to change. It offers a new and refreshing approach as to why homosexuality exists, and how the emotional hurt can be healed. I personally used to be living the gay lifestyle, and became sadly disillusioned after a short while.
This book has single-handedly helped me the most in comming to grips with the real me, facing the burried pain, and starting the healing process.
Read the book!
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Summary: A must read.
Review: Everyone should read this book to get the "other viewpoint." Homosexuals never had an opportunity for healing until Nicolosi and others like him began to take this subject "out of the closet" and give hope to people who know, deep down, that their homosexuality is a response to problems of identity.
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Summary: Don' t let reviewers scare you away!
Review: Evidently some reviewers are writing without having read the book. Dr. Nicolosi does NOT assert that recovery from homosexuality is impossible, but that one should go through therapy anyway, as another reviewer asserts. Even a reading of the book's title should have made this obvious(!). This flagrant misrepresentation of Dr. Nicolosi's work should serve as a caution to those trying to find information on this sensative subject. Emotions run so high that one hardly dares trust any of the reviews --SO-- get the book and read it for yourself. If you've come this far seeking answers, you owe it to yourself not to be detered by the venomous rhetoric of those so uncomfortable with their own sexuality that that they cannot stand the existence of differing points of view, particularly when backed by science, experience, and success, as are Dr. Nicolosi's.
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Summary: A Courageous Viewpoint
Review: Finally someone has come forth with the truth about homosexuality. The premise of this book is that homosexuality is a psycho-sexual disorder that can (not necessarily in all cases) be overcome later in life. The homosexual behavior is an attempt for the person to meet legitimate same-sex emotional needs which have become sexualized during the upbringing of the person. Many believe incorrectly that they were born this way, that this is their "true" nature. Yet Nicolosi is calling peole on to discovering their TRUE nature and sexual identity. He contends that one's upbringing matters more than we realize. Lack of a father/father-figure makes a significant different and can wound a person for life! Could it be that Nicolosi is correct and the gay lobby is simply trying to shout down and drown out the voice of reason? Could it be that the truth about homosexuality hurts too much and that's why many regard Nicolosi's ideas as "homophobic" and "hateful?" Could it be that we do not give enough attention to our environment and upbringing in this messed-up world? This book (and its sequel) changed my life and helped me to take charge of my life which was spiraling downwards into the darkness of homosexuality. I found that the gay lifestyle sucks you in and doesn't let go. It is an EXTREMELY unhealthy way to live. I hope others can speak out about this sorrowful state of living (not BEING). This is not a religious issue but a moral and anthropological one.
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Summary: a dangerous sham
Review: I am a former patient of Dr. Nicolosi and have obviously read this book, which is a collection of dangerous lies. Dangerous? Says who? Try the APA, AMA and American Association of Pediatrics. Nicolosi lays out a respectable argument homosexuality can be cured, but neglects to justify WHY it should other than relying on the readers own inner homophobia. There's nothing the least bit clinical about that. This book is absolute trash and that should be kept away from the youth of America.
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Summary: a dangerous sham
Review: I am a former patient of Dr. Nicolosi and have obviously read this book, which is a collection of dangerous lies. Dangerous? Says who? Try the APA, AMA and American Association of Pediatrics. Nicolosi lays out a respectable argument homosexuality can be cured, but neglects to justify WHY it should other than relying on the readers own inner homophobia. There's nothing the least bit clinical about that. This book is absolute trash and that should be kept away from the youth of America.
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