Venus in Spurs: The Secret Female Fear of Commitment, or Why You Head for the Hills When Love Comes to Town

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Summary: This book is not about what she says it's about!
Review: Alright, her basic theory is that women work all through their lives to try to snag a good husband, but when they finally do find that guy, they discover they're unhappy with the rest of their lives, because they put everything on hold while they hunted for that perfect guy. So, now, they want to go back to the way things were, because the high drama of hunting for a man is preferable to realizing everything is a mess. This is not a fear of commitment. This is a problem with the socialization of women and girls to think they need a man to be complete. I was completely disappointed and annoyed with this book because she does not talk about commitment.

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Summary: Waste of time
Review: I bought this book thinking it would help me better understand, and hopefully remedy, my fear of commitment. While it is cleverly disguised as a self-help book, in reality it is just a string of stories about the author's friends. The bulk of the book consists of the relationship histories and life stories of these women that the author knows: Paula, Annie, Sarah, Eva, Susannah, Maggie, Lila, Elizabeth, Isabel, Karen, Jane, Kate, Lydia, and Cynthia. I drudged through each woman's story, hoping that I could glean some kind of advice or explanation for my own commitment-phobic behavior. Unfortunately, I found no such luck. The author offers explanations for each woman's fear of commitment, but unless you have the exact same history as one of these women, these explanations are of little help to the reader. If you're looking for help with your fear of commitment, don't expect to find any here.

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Summary: If it's meant to be......
Review: The sentence that stuck in my head reading this book was along the lines of "nothing you do or say will ruin a relationship IF IT IS MEANT TO BE and if it is NOT meant to be then no matter how hard you try you cannot make it happen" - So if you are someone who believes that YOU only are the one that can make or break a relationship then you should definately read this book - if anything just so you can find out your are not the only one who has this "problem". I sat stunned when I read this line (which is towards the end of the book) and then re-read the book again straightaway and THEN again a few months later! It also made me realise that as a woman I am equally in fear of a committed relationship as I always thought every man I met was... Yes, it is hard going because she is very descriptive in her writing style but it also makes you slow down and really read the book.. Excellent....

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Summary: If it's meant to be......
Review: The sentence that stuck in my head reading this book was along the lines of "nothing you do or say will ruin a relationship IF IT IS MEANT TO BE and if it is NOT meant to be then no matter how hard you try you cannot make it happen" - So if you are someone who believes that YOU only are the one that can make or break a relationship then you should definately read this book - if anything just so you can find out your are not the only one who has this "problem". I sat stunned when I read this line (which is towards the end of the book) and then re-read the book again straightaway and THEN again a few months later! It also made me realise that as a woman I am equally in fear of a committed relationship as I always thought every man I met was... Yes, it is hard going because she is very descriptive in her writing style but it also makes you slow down and really read the book.. Excellent....

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Summary: A darkly witty view of women's commitment issues
Review: This is not a book i would personally recommend. Every two minutes into reading this book i found that i had to run for the dictionary as this writer loves to use big and complicated words and meanings. Not a real good book to read if your from outside the U.S. such as myself, as the author refers to a lot of things within New York. Has been a put off for me to read any more of her material.