A Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantages of a Painful Childhood

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Summary: Insightful, comforting and full of hope!
Review: As the product of a dysfunctional childhood with trauma, abuse and alcoholism. Legacy of the Heart was not only insightful, but soothing, comforting, and offered hope! Although I have had many accomplishments and successes in my life, I have suffered deep depression and conflicts in my relationships because of the way I thought about myself and others due to my early family experiences. I was diagnosed with mental illness, attempted suicide and thought at times I was doomed to a life of emotional pain.

Although I had never stopped believing in God, I never truly felt a spiritual connection with Him. In fact, I didn't feel a true connection to anyone, even my spouse or closest friends. I felt so alone.....

Outwardly, I am a competent, intelligent and talented person. I make friends easily and people seem to like me ... Yet inside I have felt like an emotional mess and eventually my emotional/psychological problems play out and cause ruptures in my career and relationships ....furthering my belief that I am destined to have an unhappy life. I have taken anti-depressants, herbs & vitamins, and tried acupuncture. I have read numberous self-help books and been to several therapists. I have spent time in hospitalized psychiatric care.

Yes, these things have helped me, but I kept struggling with the same issues and problems over and over. I thought I was "Different"... my case was so horrible, so complex, so confusing, no one could ever really understand the real me. Therapy seemed often to increase my pain, in trying to understand the "why" and uncover the source of every painful thing that ever happened and explain or blame every emotion on childhood ... I wasn't solving the problems of today. I wasn't learning how to cope.

Muller address these very issue with such great insight and compassion! I read the entire book in two evenings, but plan on going back and re-reading and practicing the meditations. So many times in reading this I felt a revelation into my heart -- that some one understood me, my pain, and was offering hope for healing!

There are no big miracles in this book, no promises that you will never feel pain again, but it is an incredibly sensitive look inside the behaviors we learn in childhood. I hope to find a therapist who will use this book with me to continue my healing. And I plan on buying a copy for each of my siblings as well. This book, along with Feeling Good by David Burns are a great place to start making permenant changes and heal the suffering. I can't recommend it highly enough.

Thank-you Wayne Muller. Blessings to all children of God in your journey to healing.

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Summary: Just what I've been looking for
Review: Exactly what I needed to underscore my counseling practice. I have purchased several copies for clients and recommended the book to helping professionals and clergy. Pulling from a variety of spiritual traditions, Wayne Muller states his thoughts clearly and tenderly, making this teaching accessible to everyone. Read this book and "become the change you want to see in the world" (Gandhi).

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Summary: Overflowing with wisdom and inspiration!
Review: I once heard Oprah say that we need to nurture ourselves the way we might nurture and care for our best friend. . . and that really blew me away as I have always been very hard on myself. This book gave me the tools to begin to learn how to do just that. Part of me will always be the frightened little girl that grew up in a houseful of alcoholics, trying to make everything that was topsy-turvy seem somehow normal, but this book has helped me to let go of and learn from that painful part of my past.

I've practically underlined the whole book, it contains so much wisdom and excellent advice! I want to highly recommend it to anyone who has suffered a painful childhood. It fills you with hope and gives you the courage to look at the garbage from your past, toss it out and get on with your life.

To quote part of the Publisher's Weekly blurb on the back of the book, "Like a lullaby, this gentle book soothes the spirit, reaching out to the inner child and reassuring the wounded adult..."

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Summary: A testimony of transformation and liberation !
Review: I was listening to the audio version of this book in my car and all of a sudden I had to stop in a corner just to start crying for over one hour. A sense of relieve and healing changed completely my life as I allow to let go of the sorrows of my childhood. I never knew that was ever possible. But It is. This book gave me the key. I hope It gives you what It granted me.

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Summary: This book is a gift to the soul
Review: In this book the author outlines twelve distinct manifestations of childhood sorrow; lingering wounds that express themselves as points of tension between our emotional history and our spiritual unfolding. Each chapter begins by examining the shape of a particular childhood wound, and reveals how the scar from that wound affects our emotional and spiritual life.It includes teachings from Christian, Budhist, Hebrew, Sufi, Hindu, and Native American traditions that describe these same points of tensions as doorways of the spirit

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Summary: Insightful, comforting and full of hope!
Review: This book is a great affirmation for people that have had a difficult childhood. Seeing the difficulties as "blessing" and a chance to relish in God's grace puts life in true perspective.

God's peace...

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Summary: A classic on dealing with wounds of childhood
Review: Wayne Muller brings us a classic on how to deal with the invariable wounds of childhood.

"A painful childhood invariably focuses our attention on the inner life. In response to childhood hurt, we learn to cultivate a heightened awareness, and sharpen our capacity to discern how things move and change in our environment. Childhood pain encourages us to watch things more closely, to listen more carefully, to attend to the subtle imbalances that arise within and around us. We develop an exquisite ability to feel the feelings of others, and we become exceptionally mindful of every conflict, every flicker of hope or despair, every piece of information that may hold some teaching for us. Thus, family pain broke us open and set our hearts on a pilgrimage in search of the love and belonging, safety and abundance, joy and peace that were missing from our childhood story. Seen through this lens, family sorrow is not only a painful wound to be endured, analyzed, and treated. It may in fact become a seed that gives birth to our spiritual healing and awakening." (p. xiii)

"Your life is not a problem to be solved but a gift to be opened. Just as the pain, hurt, and suffering that came to you as a child were powerfully real, so is the tangible resilience of your spirit equally vital and alive. " (p. xiv)

Muller suggests a variety of meditations and exercises that help to absorb, accept and transform our negative reactions to our childhood wounds and to grow and deepen our emotional and spiritual awareness in the process.