Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons : How to Find Your Soul Mate

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Summary: Compatability of the 'Soul Mate'!
Review: First of all, I appreciate Dr. Warren's goal of courtship ending in marriage. This of course stands out from the vast majority of `dating books' which often seem to present dating as an end in itself. There are no `ten keys to hot romance' in this book. Rather, Warren's purpose is to address compatibility and marriage.

In short, his realistic approach is refreshing. He doesn't buy into the pop-culture idea that each person is looking for the one person on the planet they were destined for from eternity past.

Warren writes, "Surprisingly, many singles hold to the notion-either consciously or subconsciously-that there is one perfect, preordained partner for them. They were made for each other, the thinking goes, and they must simply locate this person or forever feel incomplete.... But, frankly, I think this idea is more fantasy than reality, more storybook whimsy than real-world wisdom." And I believe he's right.

Warren has an enormous bank of personal experience in both marriage and engagement counseling. He writes, "During my 35 years as a psychologist, I have counseled dozens of men and women who were convinced they'd married "the wrong person," but who then went on to create top-notch relationships."

His emphasis appears to be how a person finds the ideal person. However, that's fairly different than what the book presents. What he's really promoting is a common sense approach to finding a `compatible' person. With that said, I wish he had spent more time on how a person becomes more `compatible' themself.

With that said, Warren does touch on this topic. He writes, "I believe soul mates are made, not born. You start with the ingredients for a highly compatible, successful relationship, and then you work to develop closeness and intimacy. Does this mean you lower your standards when it comes to finding a partner? Absolutely not! It simply means you 'expand your field of vision.'"

I found the Appendix to be particularly helpful.
- Appendix A 'Three Secrets to a Great Relationship'
- Appendix B 'Twenty Question for Evaluation'
- Appendix C 'Items of Similarity or Difference in a Relationship'

In short, there's very little hype or unrealistic pie-in-the-sky promises made in the book. Rather, he shares reasonable principles culminated in a reasonable approach with reasonable expectations.



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Summary: A must have book on women
Review: I just bought this book and I love it. A good book on "how to" books to pick up women. It's simple, honest and the author did his research. This book is one of the best books I've read on the subject. There's a lot us guys can learn in this book. The title is accurate. This book is a must have. A great investment.
Here are othe books I recomment:
1)"How to 'Pick Up' Beautiful Women" by John Eagan - By Far The Best Of All The Dating Books!
2)"U.S.S." by Leil Lowndes.
3)"How to Meet the Right woman" By Roger Ratcliff
4)"Understanding Women" By Romy Miller
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Summary: Like The Song Says, All You Need Is Love
Review: I'm a working psychotherapist and read this book in galleys. I think it makes a wonderful addition to the rather cluttered and confusing mix of books targeting single/divorced women with romantic advice, self-help and life-affirming programs. The core idea--one that professional therapists spend expensive hours trying to express to their patients--is that there is no "perfect person" to marry. Life is the movies; getting "swept off your feet" is best left to when you are swimming in the ocean. The rest of the book further explores the idea of "compatability," which is also helpful, although it does neglect the entire construct of your ego development and independence, because a happy union generally rests on your ability to be happy by--and with--yourself. My major problem is that the book is an extended product placement for eHarmony.com, the author's company. But at least he's upfront about it--buyer beware. I also strongly recommend another book about marriage, for those women who want a family: "I Sleep At Red Lights: A True Story of Life Aftr Triplets," by Bruce Stockler, easily the most funny, honest and detailed account of juggling marriage, kids, career and life I've ever read--and from the male point of view. Not a therapy book, per se--but laughter and honesty are certainly wonderful medicine.

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Summary: Backwards and irrelevant
Review: Neil is the founder of one of the few remaining dating sites that requires that all members be heterosexual - a backwards way of looking at things that indicates that he is so thoroughly distanced from the real world that his advice isn't trustworthy. The only people you'd meet in the modern world with his advice would be at least as backwards as Dr. Warren. People with common sense beware.

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Summary: Love is There for You
Review: This book trained me how to find my soul mate, my one and only, my love, my everything.

You too will find your soul mate and if you don't Amazon may refund your purchase price. At least I would if I could.

Signed,
Erica Phillip
(Found True Love in Decatur)

Rating:
Summary: Do You Want To Find Love???
Review: To me, I think this is a really good book that identifies the broad-based compatibility of powerful attraction between people and leads to have long-term love. It explain the rules in how we all should find true love, and describe ways people can change after marriage...and ways they can't and never will. It also explains the sixteen factors that can make or break your relationships and also mentions many secrets men need to know before starting a relationship. This book really helps you to avoid wasting years on the wrong person and the pain of a broken heart. This is an excellent book for those who want to find true love that you can relish for a lifetime. I recommend it!!!! Because you're learn something out of it!!! This is a great book for any gentlemen!!!