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Summary: Not too helpful...Sorry
Review: I got this book based on the description and the reviews written. I found the book to be something easy to just flip through although I tried to read page for page, it was just not too insightful. The stories were good to read, and the checklist/info at the end of each chapter was good. The only thing I did not like was the Bible/Christian perspective of the book. It does not allow all readers to relate to. Some of the suggested advice was to ACCEPT GOD? The author should have atleast indicated where some of the perspective was geared towards. Not every one is Christian, and not every can relate to the bible or a cheating minister as a husband =(
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Summary: Not too helpful...Sorry
Review: I got this book based on the description and the reviews written. I found the book to be something easy to just flip through although I tried to read page for page, it was just not too insightful. The stories were good to read, and the checklist/info at the end of each chapter was good. The only thing I did not like was the Bible/Christian perspective of the book. It does not allow all readers to relate to. Some of the suggested advice was to ACCEPT GOD? The author should have atleast indicated where some of the perspective was geared towards. Not every one is Christian, and not every can relate to the bible or a cheating minister as a husband =(
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Summary: Life Changing
Review: I have shared this book with many, many friends and their daughters. I share it in the hopes that it will keep others from marrying a Mr. Wrong. I am recently divorced, however, I began to read this book while separated from my husband. It helped me to better understand the dynamics of my marriage and my relationship with my husband. The power of this book is beyond measure. RED FLAG: NEVER MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS IN A HURRY TO MARRY. He may be a deceiver who is afraid that you will find out who he really is, so he hurries you. GREAT ADVICE: INTRODUCE HIM TO ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY, BE OPEN TO THEIR INPUT. Mr. Wrong will try to keep away from those who will be honest with you. I now look at relationships in completely different ways, and often times find my self saying .... he is a deceiver, he is a momma's boy....etc. I will continue to read this book over time to avoid meeting a Mr. Wrong and marrying him. One critical feature of the book is identifying characteristics that are changable and those that are likely to never to change and are potentially dangerous. This is a must read.
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Summary: A book no woman should be without
Review: I just got the book yesterday and I finished reading it last night. This book is for every woman either single or married. If your single its helpful on letting you know what men to completely stay away from and get out of the relationship if you are dating Mr. Wrong. If your married its helpful on letting you know how to deal with the guy you are married to if you married Mr. Wrong but hopefully everyone can read this book so they don't marry Mr. Wrong and they do marry Mr. Right. If you are short on time make sure you make time to read this book as it could save your life. I loved reading the book and learning useful information on dating Mr. Right and staying away from Mr. Wrong.
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Summary: Bought this book for my daughter
Review: I might have given this book 4 stars or better until I got to the chapter called "The Godless Man", wherein Messrs. Stephen Arterburn, Meg J., and Dr Rinck demonstrate once again that the one area Christians know nothing about is atheists. In it, he describes 3 men who 1) are angry with God for some tragedy, 2) rebel against God because God is a threat to his "fun", and 3) Expect too much from God. Earth to the authors - ALL OF THESE "GODLESS" MEN BELIEVE IN GOD! Where was man #4, we'll call him Mark:This man has no particular anger in his life, and in fact is happier and more content than average. His life has the same richness, if not more in both material and psychological aspects, as does any believer. He has simply concluded that to the best of his knowledge there is no God. Or what about this one, we'll call him #5 Greg: This man doesn't really think too much about God or religius issues. They never seem to have much impact on his life, and never seem necessary to get through the day. He doesn't say there is no god, just that he couldn't care less one way or the other. These are not something I made up - they are real, the vast majority of "godless men" that I know, and completely ignored in books like this. Either Christian authors intend to demonize atheists so as to prevent their brethren from skeptically thinking about their faith, or they are so ignorant of the subject, getting all their information from the preacher pulpit, that they know no better. Well, get a clue folks - atheist/christian unions can work very well - Greg is married to a born again Southern Baptist, and I came from such a union myself. See read the book - just tear out chapter 10.
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Summary: Life Changing
Review: The authors' anger throughout the discussions of the personality traits is palpable. My guess is there has been excessive experience with these personas. If you can ignore the sarcasm, then this is an excellent resource. Although this self-help book was written for women, the characteristics that create a nightmare relationship are found in both genders. The book shows the quirks and traits of difficult individuals, and describes the "red flags" of people to avoid. Addressing "why" Mr./Ms Wrong was chosen and how to help overcome the relationship are part of the formulas within "Avoiding Mr. Wrong." Many of these traits co-exist in the same person. Additionally, there are suggestions for Mr./Ms Wrong to change. For the writers, this information helps in creating believable characters that take over the story and create the plots. 1. Detached (D): The detached spouse finds intimacy a difficult chore. To avoid emotional involvement this person may be a workaholic who leaves home before sunrise and comes home long after it has set. Or while home stays in the "other room," and is engrossed in a PC, books, movies, sports, music, etc., anything to add distance. 2. The control freak (CF): Prince Charming or a Dominatrix is the one who manages people and events. At first, the strong support may be alluring, but to keep control this personality must rule with an iron fist. Oddly enough, this pattern's root cause is fear, and the result is to create fear in the partner. 3. Mr. or Ms Wonderful (W): When someone is too good to be true, pay attention; this person goes to extremes. No rules apply to W; Wonderful is a treat, knows it, and expects to be in the spotlight constantly. No one else has any success worth talking about for longer than it takes to return the conversation to W. 4. The cowardly lion (CL): With a great deal of honesty and courage, Stephen Arterburn states that he relates to this persona. (1) CL gives in to peer pressure, (2) takes the easy way out (although the price is steeper as time goes by), (3) stays in failing relationships rather than leave, and more. Everyone experiences cowardice, but CL lives with the terrible knowledge of being cowardly. 5. The angry man (AM): This person will become violent. Having recently met an AM, I am amazed that the eighteen red flags are so accurate. Some of the traits are (1) jealous, (2) insecure, (3) possessive of the trophy mate and (4) reattaches quickly if there is a break-up, (5) blames others, (6) views sex as the answer to any issue, (7) threatens to harm you or your loved ones, and more. The book is worth the price for this bit of information alone. 6. The mama's boy (MB): Still living at home, MB appears to be perfect because of his or her devotion and caring for Mother or Father. There is only one person that can have priority in MB's life -- his mama or her papa. 7. The deceiver (TD): Hoping for truth, yet living the lie this relationship has little chance of success. When truth is relative, or what s/he does not know will not hurt, then truth changes from day to day or hour to hour. Loyalty, fidelity, and commitment become concepts that do not exist. 8. The addict (A): The life of the party is fun to be around, but can end up costing peace of mind and every asset that has been accrued. 9. The eternal kid (EK): Peter Pan, the eccentric genius, or Gilligan all have charm that beguiles while the personality begs to be taken care of. Someone has to be the adult -- so why not you? Wendy grows up; Peter takes no responsibility. 10. The ungodly man (UM): With no concept of spirituality, desperation rules UM. While claiming to have no faith in God's existence, UM blames God for the "bad things" that happen in the world. In addition, it is imperative to UM that he is right and believers are wrong. This is a book packed with information about, and tips on how to avoid, getting involved with a person who can ultimately ruin your life. (5 stars) However, the heavy dose of sarcasm and anger take away the "page turner" aspect. (Delete one star.) Victoria Tarrani
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Summary: Avoiding Mr. Wrong
Review: This book is an excellent way to encourage women to analyze a relationship with a man and to realize that making emotional decisions may not be the best way to proceed if she is interested in a potential Mr. Wrong. I see Avoiding Mr. Wrong like a giant yellow light screaming "caution!" as it is whipped by the wind swaying to and fro in a busy intersection. Life is hectic and far too precious to waste trying to "fix" a man who fits the description of one of these guys in the book. Women will gain valuable insight reading this and re-reading it in order to comprehend the complexity of these destructive personality types. It's too easy these days to be fooled by Mr. Wrong out of naivete'or a tendency to be gullible, especially if a woman is attractive, intelligent and has a great personality or charisma and a tendency to attract the Mr. Wrong types described in the book. For the emotionally "needy" woman this book is a MUST. Reading Avoiding Mr. Wrong will not only cause her to take two steps backward away from Mr. Charm (who may have honed in on her neediness) but it will validate every woman's feelings who is or ever has been involved with a Mr. Wrong. Any woman who digests the contents of this book will certainly be wiser in the future. For the single woman, she may also consider reading Boundaries in Dating by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. For the married woman, just now realizing she is married to Mr. Wrong, she may gain valuable insight by reading Don't Let Jerks Get the Best of You by Paul Meier, M.D. which I'd rate 5 star as well. If she has married a man displaying jerklike tendencies or Mr. Wrong characteristics less than 50% of the time and he is willing to listen to her, it would be beneficial for the couple to study Boundaries in Marriage, also by Drs. Cloud and Townsend. The Boundaries series of books rate highly (4 or 5 star)too. If the husband isn't interested, I highly recommend women read Boundaries in Marriage anyway. We can all use the relational skills these books encourage and possibly even help a Mr. Right who is on the Mr. Wrong fence to fall to the right side. Even if you have already sampled him in person, at least reading this book will definitely help you feel better knowing your feelings have been validated by professionals!) MR. WRONG is not just a figment of your imagination as the authors clearly confirm with well written, detailed scenarios and common characteristics sprinkled with verses from God's Word. These valuable Bible references distinguish Avoiding Mr. Wrong from a male basher book since it is obviously written from a Christian perspective. For women who like to listen to live radio call-in talk shows focusing on building & nurturing significant relationships, the books I have recommended above were written by authors, Drs. Paul Meier, Henry Cloud and John Townsend who can be heard giving valuable advice daily on the "New Life Live!" national radio show hosted 'mainly' by Steve Arterburn and Mike Marino too. With over a century of combined experience in professional counseling the Boys really know their stuff and write COOL books with very practical advice for the woman looking for that Mr. Right! If you're stuck on Mr. Right, don't read this book because he may get the wrong idea if he sees you with it. Instead, let him know he is your Mr. Right and enjoy loving him (or someone else will).
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Summary: Best Book To Spot The Wrong Men!
Review: This book, writen from a frank, but Christian perspective, lists the types on men to avoid, what they look for in a partner/victim, why the women themselves are drawn to these losers and how to work through the issues to eventually create a better relationship (except if the man is violent). The 2 end chapters also give tips on how to steer clear of "Mr. Wrong" to begin with and hope on making the existing relationship a healthier one. Mr. Arterburn's disclosure of his past mistakes, dry humor and case scenarios make this book a must-read for women who want to empower themselves, gain insight into these types of "men" and start on the path to "Mr. Right", and it will help the men who are open-minded enough to want to correct their flaws. I highly, whole-heartedly recommend this important book.
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