When a Mate Wants Out

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Summary: Better books exist
Review: I felt that parts of this book were very valuable. However, I felt that following its advice in every case would compromise self-respect, especially in cases where the "exiting spouse" was having an affair. NOBODY should have to put up with that kind of behavior in a marriage and I think this book encourages more tolerance and patience when dealing with infidelity than is appropriate or smart. Sometimes, in cases of infidelity, it's best to move on. God may hate divorce, but I don't think He expects people to hang on to (or wait for) an unfaithful spouse and just take perpetual abuse. It may not be physical abuse, but it IS emotional abuse. There is a time to get out and move on. This book left me feeling like the author thinks all decisions are up to the unfaithful spouse. That is not a healthy response. I would read this book, but read it with your brain in gear and think your situation through for yourself! Don't blindly stay in a bad marriage or tolerate an unfaithful spouse just because this book has that outlook.

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Summary: Not a realistic approach
Review: I felt that parts of this book were very valuable. However, I felt that following its advice in every case would compromise self-respect, especially in cases where the "exiting spouse" was having an affair. NOBODY should have to put up with that kind of behavior in a marriage and I think this book encourages more tolerance and patience when dealing with infidelity than is appropriate or smart. Sometimes, in cases of infidelity, it's best to move on. God may hate divorce, but I don't think He expects people to hang on to (or wait for) an unfaithful spouse and just take perpetual abuse. It may not be physical abuse, but it IS emotional abuse. There is a time to get out and move on. This book left me feeling like the author thinks all decisions are up to the unfaithful spouse. That is not a healthy response. I would read this book, but read it with your brain in gear and think your situation through for yourself! Don't blindly stay in a bad marriage or tolerate an unfaithful spouse just because this book has that outlook.

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Summary: Better books exist
Review: Since the break up of our 6 year relationship I have purchased many books. This one was not as helpful as the others because the information was very introductory and not deep enough. It seemed like the book is saying that God is the answer to saving the marriage. Maybe true, but I was hoping for a book with more deep psychological analysis. I recommend the books "Letting Go" by Dr. Tracy Cabot, and "Make Up Don't Break Up" by Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil.

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Summary: The most helpful book I read when going through a dark time.
Review: This book gives step-by-step guidelines for coping with a spouse who wants out of your marriage. It helps you understand your own feelings about betrayal and guides you to act in ways that minimize the chances of the break being permanent. Helpful, comforting, and extremely informative. In my opinion, its the best of the dozens of books on saving a marriage that are available. Without a doubt, it saved my marriage.