Every Heart Restored : A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual Sin (The Every Man Series)

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Summary: Understanding is the key
Review: Marriage and all relationships are about seeking to understand the other. This requires a mindset that is selfless in the respect that our goal is to look for and imploy ways to serve the other. This does not mean being a doormat, but sometimes can require that one decides to willingly endure a difficult situation in order that another person can grow to be a better person, happier, or more fulfilled. Understanding the other, then employing merciful and healing words and ways is the only hope to growing together in a relationship. We are willing to sacrifice much financially and emotionally for the sake of our children's growth and development, and yet we think people over the age of 18 are magically whole and perfect. None of us are, and so when we err, we appreciate another's mercy and understanding as we try to correct and heal.
This book addresses the topic respectfully and offers practical wisdom. It guides the heart of the reader through a path to understanding of both husband and wife who are strugging with the aftermath of sexual sin of the husband. In detail, it very accurately describes the motivation of the husband, how the wife is hurt by these acts, and what must be done to set the groundwork for healing and restored relationship. The promise lies in the testimonies of those who have persued this path, dispite the intense difficulty, and found healing and the relationship that they had always dreamed of. However, each of us has the choice to act on the wisdom, or not.
Personally, this book helped me identify and put into words what I was feeling and why. It helped me understand my husband better and so show mercy because of the struggle that has been raging inside him. It helped me understand ways that I may help him and reasons why I should. We are on the path to personal healing which will result in drawing our marriage relationship closer than it could have ever been before going through this struggle. I highly recommend this book, especially for Christian couples.

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Summary: More like how a husband heals
Review: This book takes you through what is going on with a husband's sexual sin so that you can understand that it doesn't have anything to do with you. With that said, the authors share stories of women who have shown what they call mercy to their husbands and how eventually that mercy helped their husbands heal.

I don't really see much help for a wife to heal in this book. My impression is that unless you have unlimited mercy nothing will heal you. I believe that part of love is truth telling and respecting yourself and setting boundaries. None of that is in this book. It was quite a disappointment.