I Kissed Dating Goodbye

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Summary: Wisdom Without Depth.
Review: To be completely honest, I did not enjoy I KISSED DATING GOODBYE. I felt that Joshua Harris was trying to force me to believe what he was saying and that if I didn't agree, then something must be wrong with me and I wasn't being a very good Christian. I also felt that Harris was trying to have his cake and eat it too by suggesting that "dating" is wrong and that "courtship" is right.

With that said, I must also admit that I do agree with a lot of what Harris wrote. People shouldn't be getting involved in a romantic relationship unless they are ready for marriage; dating isn't something to be done just for fun. Also, people should be friends before they begin dating. And most importantly, a dating relationship should be founded in Christ.

Harris should be given credit for raising issues that needed and still need to be raised. However, his approach in I KISSED DATING GOODBYE is wrong. He speaks the truth, but not in love; his words contain wisdom, but no real depth. Fortunately, Harris has grown in wisdom and retunes his book in the "sequel" BOY MEETS GIRL. He hits much closer to the mark in that book. Nevertheless, IKDG is a book that many teenagers could probably benefit from reading. With so much garbage in the air and misinformation, there aren't very many good books concerning relationships that can help young Christian men and women in their relationships with each other.

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Summary: Haven't kissed it goodbye, but changed my view
Review: Joshua Harris is a very intelligent man who has some awesome Christian views that I stongly agree with. I cannot say that I follow all of his advice, however he has opened my eyes to some truths that I had never thought of before. For instance, I had always thought of dating as fun with the opposite sex and getting to know someone that could be a potential girlfriend. Josh explains that the only reason for dating should be to find that special someone you want to marry and that if you are not ready to find that person because you are too young or are just not ready, then you probably should not be dating. I am 18 years old and really regret all of my past pointless relationships. I would recommend this book to any Christian considering dating "for fun". And on a more personal note I would like to make a comment to the young lady who sent in a review saying, "God wouldn't want us to not date someone just because they aren't Christians. Christians only dating other Christians is like incest." I really urge you to actually read your Bible. If you would like to know where to get started you can e-mail me at [e-mail].

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Summary: I like to date
Review: I have read this book twice, once while I was in a dating relationship and once while I was not. Both times I agreed and disagreed with points although they were different points.
I understand how dating can cause a lot of pain. Been there done that. I realize that a lot of times couples get too personal with one another and end up crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed until marriage. I totally support that view. For sake of my purity I think it's best that I remain single.
On the other hand, however, I think that by putting myself into tempting situations and showing self-control I grow stronger. If I can't refrain from lust now then how will I be able to refrain from lust when I am married. I also think that in order to adequately know what kind of person I want to spend my life with, I need to date various types of people in order to find what I like and don't like.
All in all I liked the book but I disagreed with some of it's points.

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Summary: I kissed dating goodbye
Review: Joshua Harris has been blessed with wisdom and insight into the world of dating. His practical knowledge is perfect for anyone, weither they are single, dating or married. This book contains simple, yet vital truth about real love and dating. Joshua explores topics such as the tragic flaws found in dating, ways to honor God while you are single, the correct atttitude to have while dating, and purity. This book has helped to trsnsform some of my views of guy-girl relationships, and I definately recommend it to all of my friends. If you desire to lead a God-honoring life, than this is the book for you!!!

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Summary: I Kissed Dating Goodbye
Review: All throughout Joshua Harris' "I Kissed Dating Goodbye," he explains his point of view about dating, relationships, and sex. I agree about his view of sex which is waiting until one is married but his points about dating and relationships seem a little harsh. He believes in no dating unitl marriage. I feel that dating helps people, including myself, find out what kind of qualities they want for their husband. If someone does not date, they will not have the advantage of testing their boundaries and staying within them. God puts tests in our lives for a reason, so that we would make the right decision. How is someone going to pass their temptation test if they do not date. I feel that Joshua's book gave me points to think about but not points that I will ever follow in my life. I would recommend this book just for knowledge and to think about someone else's opinion on a controversial issue.

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Summary: totally disagree...
Review: This is a well written book for those who have same kind of thoughts. But for those who disagree with him, it is a poorly written book. I am one of the people who disagree. It seems like this book is just based on the author's personal experiences. He wrote this book based on what he felt, saw, and heard. Since he had some bad experiences in his dating relationships, he thinks all the dating relationship is not good.

He also says that dating someone distrubs the pure christian life, but I think this opinion is also just based on his thought. I've seen many great christians who are in dating relationships.

I'll say that I do not recommend this book for those who are in dating relationship or getting into one. Specially, for non-christian readers, do not read this book, it may look just stupid.

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Summary: Great New Approach to Relationships
Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye was a unique approach to the dating dilemma and the problems encountered while dating. It offers an alternative- courtship. It lists different reasons why dating is considered wrong and selfish in some relationships. And it tells how to pursue relationships based on Christ and that encourage you in your walk with God. It also shows how to maintain purity in relationships with guys. It also explains how importaint it is to guard your heart. It also lists reasons why singleness can be good for a period of time and how important it is to use the time you are single for God. It explains how to attain a life of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness. I enjoyed reading this book because of the informal writing style it utilized. Though I am unsure if I will follow everything he talks about in his book, he provides helpful insight into God's plan for romance.

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Summary: Anti-dating
Review: When I started reading I kissed dating goodbye I was skeptical even though I don't date much myself. It turned out Joshua Harris had some good thoughts on why dating can be a disadvantage to a christian. While I still believe dating is okay I feel that I will be more aware to things going on in my relationships and everyday life. He brought many things to my attention that I could change to help myself and to help others because, We need to be encouraging to one another not to be a deterrent.

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Summary: I Did Kiss Dating Goodbye!
Review: This is the second time that I have read this book but the first time that I have actually been open to what it has to say to me.
To quote the words of Joshua Harris, "I determined before I had even cracked the cover that I would disagree with everything the book had to say." That was one of the most stupid things that I could have done. Now that I have read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" for a second time with my mind open to the words of wisdom that Joshua Harris has to say, I have to say that this book is great for anybody who is either single or in a relationship. The wealth of knowledge that you will gain will astonish you.

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Summary: guide for the guileless
Review: the phrase 'consider the source' springs to mind; although harris' work is purported to be one of research, (personal, bibliographical, and biblical), it is hardly impartial or empirical.
the personal touch, being welcome in any advice/conduct book, seems to have carried both the hypothesis and the conclusion too far. is the author claiming that his new-found method was the determing factor in securing his post-published bride, or did it rise from the ashes of a mental hangover from his prior dissolved relationship?
assume for a moment that the author's marriage was a proof for the formulae set out in the book-- it does not follow that one person's success story is proof of some recipe that will, in turn, lend success to all.
for those younger, more susceptible christians who are confused on how to marry the secular with the divine and still feel 'right', harris' overcautious theories will surely provide the heavyhanded guidance that can form a solid moral basis. from this starting point, a young person can then test this advice, as they would anything else, and go their own way over time. for others, one's own practical experience with both relationships and one's faith will be more than a sufficient guide in determining the correct dating direction for oneself.
it is problematic to assume that human contact between the preferred sex always leads to temptation-- this way of thinking must be one of the largest culprits of gratuitous sexualisation of non-sexual interactions. those who see sin (which fosters guilt, judgement, damnation, gossip, labelling etc) in interpersonal relationships of any kind, and preach avoidance techniques are ill-equipping people to handle these sorts of normal, everday, necessary, and fulfilling relationships.
temptation hysteria is not resolved by avoiding the source of the temptation, but seeing it (and responding) to it differently, with wisdom, respect, and self-control.
one last issue, that of assuming that marriage is the ultimate goal of (dating) relationships: this short-changes those christians, who, like the members of all faiths (i imagine) have a need for warm, intimate bonds with family, friends, and worthy loves. the "one-purpose" approach sterilises the complexity of human feelings, like a single-stemmed rose shorn of all its thorns and leaves, leaving behind only a straight line to the single bloom. a bit unnatural.