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Summary: Great book to get you started
Review: Yeah, a lot of the stuff he covers is review for some of us, but there are enough gems for all of us. Sure, he came from a guy's perspective (which is evident), so it is geared a little bit more toward guys I think. I've heard from some good friends that "When God Writes Your Loves Story" by Eric & Leslie Ludy may be geared more toward women. In any case, there is a lot of new insights for many of us, if we take the chance to read it through. Would highly recommend!
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Summary: I Kissed Dating Goodbye after reading this.
Review: I recently got out of a relationship and I am too young to be in one. The relationship totally ruined my life. And this book is not telling you not to date, it's just informing people of what the dating world holds, and frankly that's not a place I want to be. We are not supposed to date, like another person reveiws. God does not want us to date, He tells us that when it is our time to marry He will present us with the person. We were, indeed, made to have desires for the opposite sex, but we are not suppose to fill them until we are married. But how can a simple smooch be wrong? Well it erupts those desires. I have now chosen not to date until I am ready to get married. Why go shopping if I don't have any money?
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Summary: Dating
Review: I highly reccomend this book. I have not been one to date, and I did not think this book would be of much help to me, but in only a few chapters I had realized error in my own thinking. I challenge anyone fed up with the emptyness and hurt of relationship after relationship to read this book. You might find yourself agreeing with what Josh has to say.
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Summary: Again, a little bit on the "contemporary church fad" side
Review: Being a native from the midwest, I experienced a lot of changes when I moved south, to the bible belt, for college. One of these was evangelical Christians, or contemporary Christians, or bible-based Christians. They are the type to quote the bible off the cuff, to listen to Christian music, go to Christian events, and read books like this one right here.
The thing that bothers me about this book is the bible passages are taken way out of context. Harris takes them and shapes them to what he wants his readers to think. The messages of this book will appeal to those who seek this kind of stuff, but to those who don't, like me, it just comes across as insufferable and preachy. Or as I say: live a little.
The contemporary churches are using this book as their latest tool, along with "The Purpose Driven Life", to "save" people and make their numbers grow. If they really want to teach of Christianity, they should go back and teach people church history. This book is just one conservative Christians view on dating. It is skewed and just the latest "trap" by the bible belters. Also, at 21, does he have any right to give people advice on relationships?
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Summary: Mr. Harris, will you please kiss writing good-bye?
Review: I made the mistake of buying Mr. Harris' earlier book, "I Kissed Dating Goodbye", which was poorly written and full of Biblical verses taken out of context. Although his intentions seem sincere, the abuse of scripture continues unabated. He should take his earnings from his previous books and kiss writing good-bye.
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Summary: dont give up
Review: this book was givin to me by a friend... let me just tell you if your in that boat where your trying to figure out whether you should seek purity or if you want to see things from god's perspectives this is the right book. It covers all the aspects of dating, single life and soo forth. I've just started reading it and if you are like me and were or are struggling with the dating scene, short term or long term relationships and you think that your not placing god first in your relationship them this book will tell you if your relationship is really indeed heathly.
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Summary: Not about not dating, excellent insight!
Review: This book has had more impact on my life than any other book out there (save the Bible). Josh's point is not that we should give up dating, but re-examine how we go about finding a spouse in light of our relationship with Jesus Christ. When we do that, many will realize that today's dating is not a Christ-like way of finding someone he intends for us. He raises topics such as the defects of dating, how we should view the opposite sex.
MOST of the reviews that did not like this book missed the entire point of the novel, which is that dating should never be to gain experience in treating people, because we lead the other person into thinking we have feelings beyond what we have for them. The same goes for dating for enjoyment and having a successful dating life, which are selfish ambitions. Josh's key point is that love is not about what we get but what we give (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) and how we can best honor the other person. True friendship will yield the knowledge of the opposite sex we need and courtship and marriage are simply the end results of Godly-directed friendship with the right person.
Kudos to you Josh! You changed my life forever!
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Summary: Something honest...
Review: I've never reviewed anything on Amazon.com before. But after reading this book and reviewing some of the comments, I had to say something.
First on the book... I think it is an amazing insight into dating in our culture. The book isn't as much about not dating as it is about realizing the opportunity you have as a single person to work for God. He's basically arguing that for the amount of time and energy we put into worrying about the person we just met at the bar last night, we have an even better opportunity to use that energy work for and bless God.
He's not saying anyone can't date. Rather, he's questioning the motivations we have behind dating and asking people to really be honest with themselves. One of the reviews posted here on Amazon said something to the effect that "Harris is wrong, I need to date to learn more about relationships and the opposite sex." Got news for you, this is the exact reason Harris says you shouldn't be dating. If you view dating in and of itself as a reason to improve your own "dating skills", you're using the other person in the relationship. In some of the reviews people are basically saying, "Hey, I need to date that way when I meet the right person I'll be ready!" Again, this is selfish and speaks to many of Harris's points about how we use people to refine our opinions of the opposite sex. It's as if we can take a peice of each person we've dated in the past and we'll combine them into the perfect spouse!
I think the reason this book sparks so much debate is because it really calls some people out in terms of their own dating lives. Harris basically says, "If you've been with someone for so long and haven't figured out if you're going to marry them, it's time to move on because all you're doing is using the other person." Oooh boy - I can see some people not liking this. But it's so true!!! He's saying, "Sex should be saved for marriage." Again, I'm sure someone will argue, "but I love the person!" - but if you really love the person, you'll wait.
I guess what's crazy, especially after reading some of the reviews, is that people believe Harris says we just shouldn't date at all. Again, please actually read the book. Harris is really saying that we need to reexamine our reasons for dating in the first place and to enter into our relationships with the opposite sex with God's intentions in mind (selfless love and friendship). He argues we rush into dating to fulfill our romantic needs (needs that only fulfill our selfish emotions and lust), instead of seeing the other person as a friend in Christ.
I would whole heartedly recommend this book to anyone who is single and struggling with their dating life.
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Summary: Don't play hooky with dating.
Review: This book is totally non-biblical. God intended us to date for a REASON! I think the best evidence against this book and the best reason to date is that we don't just date to have fun. We date to learn about the opposite sex. Men and Women are different. You cannot learn about the opposite sex any better than by dating them. Friendship isn't enough. Not in the slightest. Let's say you follow this book to the letter. You finally get to a point where you feel you can court someone. You find each other intensely attractive and want to pursue something serious. But you are completely ignorant of them in every way. You make horrible mistakes because you don't have any experience with treating a woman or man right. We NEED a relationship education. Dating is the school we attend. You can't just play hookey and expect to show up to take the final exams (courting) and the graduation (wedding). You've got to go to the classes too because the graduation is only the beginning. Now you've got to get a job and actually put what you learned to practice. If you haven't learned anything, you won't find and keep the right job. We learn by going to class. We learn about the opposite sex by dating them. To skip this step is asking to at best fail the final exams. While courting, you will lose the person you are courting unless you have taken the classes that will help you to keep them. And God help you if you somehow pass the final exams and end up getting married. You are headed for disaster. This book is absolutely DAMAGING! Avoid it at all costs!
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