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Summary: I don't know....
Review: This book scared me. Experience truly is the best teacher. Just because one man felt that this was what God wanted him to do, doesn't mean that everyone should do it. This stuff can brianwash you, please think for yourself always. A lot of what this book says will make sense to you, but that doesn't make it right. Dating is a part of life, and getting hurt strengthens us all! Please be careful, everyone.
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Summary: An amazing book not afraid to challenge popular beliefs.
Review: Yes, this is a radical book. Joshua Harris talks about his own personal decision not to date and how dating is against the vision that God has for each one of us. I prejudged the book before I read it, and after reading just one chapter, I realized how wrong I was, and finished the book in awe of what the author had to say and how incredibly logical it was. I am an 18 year old college student who can barely call myself a Christian. I do not read the Bible, I do not go to church, and my lifestyle is the complete opposite of what Joshua Harris preaches in this book. My attention span on religion usually lasts a few minutes, and this is the first Christian book I have been able to finish. This book gave me valuable insight into the way that teens date defectively and I would recommend it to any teen, Christian or not. The author was only 21 when he wrote this book and is able to relate it to young people very easily. This book gives love and dating a whole new meaning.
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Summary: Worse crap I've ever read!
Review: This book is awful, I do not recommend this to anyone, people should learn from their own experiences, and look to God for wisdom and not look to Josh Harris, God is the only one who can strengthen your relationship with someone. Please save yourself the time of reading this crap. This book should be given to prisoners so they wouldn't want to return.
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Summary: A title for my review
Review: This book, while it gives suggestions on how to 'maturely' handle relationships, should be cross-examined, and compared with other schools of thought. Especially for potential readers who are niave enough to believe anything they read or hear. The cut-and-dry 'courship' method that is presented in this book does and cannot always work, as things happen in life that are not controllable; i.e. unrequitted love(he/she doesn't like me). But one will never know unless they ask, or try to find out, and dating can be a great educational experience. The best way to learn about the opposite sex is by socializing, and "go out", with them (ergo, "seeing how they tick"). Oh, and it can also be fun. Some seem to consider finding a "mate" to be some sort of serious business transaction, why? This is like a wife going to her man and saying, "Darling, let's procreate." No, they never say that! Even if that's why they do it. Putting it that way doesn't make the act sound any more fun, or enticing. Now to sagwag, going out on a date (but kids, I'm not promoting procreation during unmarital dating, ok?) can really open one's eyes to what someone is like, on a personal-dare I say intimate- level. The experinece can be good or bad, though it'll likely be memorable in some way ( at least for awhile), but you'll never know unless you try. Obviously what the author is discouraging; is feeling lustful, putting selves into a compromising situation, and turning your thoughts away from God. All of these are fine. But we're also not robots (unless you are a robot, and happen to be reading this; to which I sincerely appologize). Everyone will have "naughty thoughts", and many get into situations where the easy decision is not necessarily the correct one to make. But this is where you have to trust yourself and think of what Jesus would do. Do what you think is best, you'll have a lifetime to regret it (no, kidding) My point is; experience, feelings, or thoughts can be learned from. I'd recommend this book to people who don't feel like dating, or aren't dating anyone (you know, those who'll read the book anyway)--or those who are looking for an alternative way to have/handle a relationship. But, like most works of literature, don't take it literally. Like this response, DON'T TAKE ME TOO SERIOUSLY. I know right now some of you are steamed at my reply, I can tell by the smoke coming out of your ears. Anyway, taking this book literally might make such persons quite depressed, and we can't have that.
Thanks for reading
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Summary: A completely new perception
Review: After reading this, I developed a completely new perception to the dating world as some call it, "game" as refer to it. At my school I loaned it out to some friends and surprisingly, have found most teens are transformed and have found new ways to serve God in their life. I HIGHLY reccommend for any teenager or young person struggling with relationships.
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Summary: To date or not to date?That is the question
Review: First of all, as a young Christian adult, I have to say that this book taught me what God wants from my life. This book re-focused what I should be worrying about, and what I shouldn't be worrying about. So I love both this book and the "Boy Meets Girl" book. I am looking forward to reading his newly published "Not even a hint". Everyone seems to be in this major commotion. The questions on everyone's mind is: Should I date ? should I not date? Should I be courting? We are hearing so many different things. (The enemy's way to bring confusion to any one looking for a relationship.) The message of these books is not not dating or courting. It is the way you date or court. Depending on what you want to call it. Joshua states many times, his books are not step-by-step guides for your life. This means that you don't have to do everything to the letter b/c realistically all of our situations are different. He does get this.I think that what he wants is for this generation to open its eyes. For you to let God in on your love life. To let Him be the One who,in the end, gives you the one He created for you. He asks some pretty tough questions:
what right do you have to toy with someone's emotions?
Should you be going that far, with out being married, just b/c you need your sexual desires met? Are you jumping into a realtionship that you know won't go anywhere, just b/c you don't want to feel alone? Are you tearing down someone else's purity? Are you, personally trusting that God's plan for your life, is better than your own? We,all around the world,are being bombarded by messages of lust, of sexual sin, and impurity. We are called to carry the torch. To be the Light,and the salt of the world. God called you to be different, not the same. So YES we should have a different standard when it comes to seeking a relationship. I believe Harris describes this. This does not mean that you never do anything and sit home alone. This means that you have time to flourish to grow in relationships with people. That you learn the arts of what you need to know for life itself. why do you all think our divorce rate among Christians(yes Christians) is so high? We are doing things the world's way, not God's way. Christ gave you freedom in His life. As my pastor says not libertinaje. This means, you don't just do what you want. The main questions is: Do you trust what God is doing in your life?
He does love you, He made some one for you. When it is time,
you will be together.
I believe this is the message of this book and the answer to date or not to date question.
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Summary: This book is for Teens, not Adults
Review: I bought this book trying to find another prospective on dating, specifically from a religious point of view. His idea on not dating when you are not in it for the long term, which is the case for most teenagers, makes sense. But if you are an adult, fully prepared to find a person that you want to court and eventually marry, then to not date makes no sense. One interesting part of the book tells the story from the Bible of Isaac and Rebekah, where God literally made it clear that they should be together. An interesting part of the story is that Abraham and Isaac specifically took the initiative to find him a spouse, they did not have Isaac join clubs and just seek friendships with the opposite sex. God often helps when we act, and then he lets us know what he wants. This includes finding a mate. Otherwise he does have some good overall things to say about living as a single person, and also has some good points about being chaste before marriage. Another I book I would recommend, that talks about dating piously, is Dating Secrets of the Ten Commandments. When you are an adult, and want to date to find a spouse, this is the book to follow. It is actually Jewish, but as a Christian I found it all compatible with my religious beliefs.
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Summary: The First Salvo in The "Dating Debate"
Review: When it was released a while back, 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye' was hailed by much of the Evangelical Christian world as the biblical model for marriage preperation. It swept church camps by storm and soon many a teenager were making courtship vows and promises to abstain not only from sex until marriage (which I fully agree with) but also stuff like kissing and other intimate activities like it. Now that the initial 'dust' that followed its publication has settled, many in the Christian world are taking a closer look at it and finding that A + B does not equal C in Mr. Harris's equation. First I must point out the many positive aspects of this book. He points out explicitly what many conservative Christians seem somewhat timid of accusing the modern world of: dehumanizing sexual relations and destroying the beauty of sex by making self-gratification the only aim of it and a lazsie faire approach to dating and marriage that has destroyed American homes, leaves people in emotional anguish, and scarred our children. For that along Mr. Harris deserves a hearty 'Amen' and a pat on the back. Few are courageous enough to clearly point out the evils of this behavior. The problem I have with it is the proposed solution. While Mr. Harris strenuously avoids calling dating a sin, by implication, he basically says that dating is not God's way. While I would agree that the level to which dating has sunk recently is appaling and is definitely sinful, the author fails to prove to me that, given proper boundaries, dating is inherently worse than courtship. Consider this: the author points out that the emotional attachments that result from dating can injure people emotionally. However, if someone courts a person and ultimately they do not marry, how can both people avoid emotional turmoil? The problem is that even the author's model of courtship, which purports to keep temptation and emotional involvement to a minimum cannot prevent it because it involves emotional risk, like EVERY relationship. Every relationship you have or will be in invovles a risk emotionally and spiritually. In conclusion, I think the author made great points, but his conclusions are overly-simplistic.
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Summary: Dating is broken and needs to be fixed
Review: Dating relationships have changed more in the past 100 years than any other time in history. With the invention of telephones, radio, TV, and computers the changes in relationships all through our society has been turned complete upside down and inside out. Has the "freedom" and the "trust your kids when dating" help our marriages and families to be healthier. Quite the opposite has happened. Our families are sicker than ever. The book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" brings back some of the timeless principles needed in forming healthy bonds to promote solid families. We are not helpless animals. We can make choices about what part sex should play in our pre-marriage days. When God calls us to a standard of living, he will empower us to live it. Thank you, Josh Harris, for an excellent book.
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Summary: Helpful
Review: I loved reading this book. It was really helpful in helping me decide what boundaries I should set for a relationship. Josh wrote it in a way that wasn't too confusing and it really got through to me. I know that the idea of waiting until marriage to have sex is strange and stupid to some people , but Josh gave really good arguements for it. I would totally recommend this book to anyone who's just looking for some advice on dating in a way that'll make God proud. It's awesome.
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