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Summary: something to think about
Review: This book had a lot of good points to it. I am glad that I was able to see someone else's point of view to dating. I do not agree with the artificial environment for dating. Yes, for the beginning of a relationship the good in someone will stand out more. But if you take your time and date for a long period of time, then eventually the other person will see the not-so-good side. There is no need to rush into a relationship, because the relationship should be in God's hands, with God's timing. The way Joshua portrayed dating was that no one can date and not get physically involved with each other. Now I realize many people are crossing the line, but there are many who can resist until their wedding day. Many people do not realize the power of sex so they end up in situations that they cannot control. I believe if a person is sincere in being abstinent, then they should keep themselves from being alone with the other person in places where temptation can rise. I agree with the part where dating often skips the friendship stage of a relationship. A new guy came to my school one year and he thought I was cute, so we went on some dates. I later realized I could have saved some time if we would have become friends first; then I would have known that I would never have been interested in him. Since that experience, I have vowed to date only people that I have known for a long period of time. I did enjoy reading this book. It gave me some great insights to think about. Although, I will not "kiss dating goodbye," I wish the best for those who did.
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Summary: I Disagree with the "Dating Anarchy"
Review: While Joshua Harris had a few good points in his book, I absolutely disagree that two people cannot date AND get to know each other on a friendship level at the same time... I've become really upset by this book, because it seems that every single Christian out there is reading this book and abiding by it in their everyday dating life. While some of what Josh said in his book were "nice thoughts", I think he went a little overboard and to extremes when he said that he "Kissed Dating Goodbye". If you want to read a REALLY good book on dating, I would highly recommend the book called, "Boundaries of Dating: Making Dating Work". It's written by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend. This is an awesome book to read if you don't really want to be involved in this huge "No Dating Movement" that is taking place across the country. I enjoy dating, and I think it's absolutely healthy... if you do it in a right context. But Josh didn't even give that as an option. These other men did in their book. I commend them for what they wrote, but I would not recommend Joshua's book to anyone who enjoys dating and wants to learn how to have a more successful dating life. All that Josh says in his book... is to never date. And Josh... I have to disagree...
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Summary: Tied for first place
Review: This is one of the two best books on Christian relationships that I have ever read. (The other is "Quest For Love" by Elisabeth Elliot.) Both contain hard but necessary truths. Before coming to Christ at age 18, I was involved in the kind of relationship that Josh warns us against. After I committed my life to Jesus, I met and have since married a wonderful man. As someone who has experienced both sides of the coin, let me assure you that God's way is the best way! And if you've already screwed up like I did and are wondering if you can make a change, Josh's book and your own prayer life/Bible study will convince you that it's possible. But the key is that before you can be in love with another person, you have to be head over heels in love with God. If that's what you want, then give Josh's ideas a shot by putting romantic relationships on hold while you grow deeper in your relationship with Jesus.
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Summary: And I thought dating was confusing...
Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye, is a how to book on how romantic relationships should be according to God's plan. Joshua Harris has intelligent ideas backed by the bible on how to persue a relationship God's way, but these ideas are not very realistic to the average person. A bit confusing at times, Harris seems to portray unselfish thoughts about God and how He will tell us when it is the right time to for us to date. If you are fed up with the "modern" style of dating and have a strong relationship with God, this just might be the book for you. I would also recommed this to anyone, just to hear Joshua Harris out. He does have some good tips that anyone in or not in a relationship could benifit from!
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Summary: Okay People...
Review: First off, let me say that I truly enjoyed this book. It has helped me focus on devoting myself to my future wife. Now for the fun part... The arguments over this book are completely silly. Jesus' disciples once asked Him what to do about other people who were preaching in Jesus' name. Jesus responded by telling them to leave the people alone, because if they are doing it for their own glory, they will fall, but if it's for God's glory, they will not fall. So, for those of you who are angered by this book, GET OVER IT! This book isn't going to make you change if you read it, that's your own decision. It's Josh Harris' personal convictions. To all the young people out there (I'm a 19 year old male, by the way), there is no reason why you should NOT read this book. If you're strong in your personal convictions, you won't be moved in either direction by this book. But if you do read this book, I can tell you that you're going to either be digusted by it or fall in love with it. Oh, and if you're not walking totally with God, you're probably going to be disgusted by it. Incidentally, I think that when you read this book, you should have your Bible close at hand. And read Revelation 3:15-16, I Corinthians 13, and all of Ephesians. If you want a truly BIBLICAL perspective, you need to have a Bible handy to compare with (get an Amplified Bible- it's much more understandable than most others). I assure you that Josh Harris does take a very Biblical perspective! It is my prayer that you will read this book with an open mind and heart, and let the Holy Spirit speak to you. God bless!
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Summary: Don't Be Selfish!
Review: First of all, only people with self-control, people who are willing to be unselfish, can handle the content of this book. If you step back and think about it, are there any unselfish reasons to date people when you're too young to get married or are just not looking to get married anytime soon? You can't use the excuse that you need to date lots of people to see what kind of person you want to marry. If you're really trusting God, you'll know He has the perfect person out there for you. Yes, this book is extreme, it totally contradicts the mindset we've all grown up with -- it goes against everything we've been told we have to do, we have a right to do, we're not cool or real people unless we do. No matter how many times you've read this book and convinced yourself that dating isn't a good thing for you at this point in your life, that's meaningless when someone comes along and you don't have self-control. It says in the New Testament (one of Paul's letters, I think), that you can judge people that are Christians, and you have no business judging non-Christians. So if you claim to be a Christian, I have every right to judge your lifestyle and the choices you make, whether you like it or not. Don't read this book if a: you have no self control, b: you don't trust God to have a person out there who's perfect for you, c: you don't want God's best for your life & your marriage, d: you aren't ready to face the persecution that will come for standing up for what you believe in when it goes against everything everyone else is doing, and e: you see no problem with getting emotionally & physically involved in someone else's future husband or wife.
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Summary: Great Book!
Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye is one of the best books I have ever read! Joshua Harris did a wonderful job with this book!
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Summary: Praise the Lord!
Review: I think this is an awesome book, I thank the Lord that someone took the time to do this. My best friend got me to read this book [against my will, I must say] and I absolutely loved it. I read some of the other's reviews - and I have to say that if Josh had waited another 10 years to write this book, I would NEVER have read it! He would have been 30 and it would have wound up to be a "let's preach at the teens" book. No one would have read it. I'm 17 now [I first read it when I was 15], and this book has saved me a lot of heartache. I also just heard that there's going to be a follow up book next month called 'Boy Meets Girl'. [sounds like the part of the story I'd like to hear! :)]
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Summary: Too Righteous, Too Bad
Review: "Do not be too righteous, and do not act too wise; why should you destroy yourself? Do not be too wicked, and do not be a fool; why should you die before your time? It is good that you should take hold of the one, without letting go of the other; for the one who fears God shall succeed with both" (Ecclesiastes 7:16-18).
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Summary: This book completly ruined my relationship
Review: I was forced into reading this book, after my girlfriend of 10 months had read it. Now, up until that point we did not have much problems, but as soon as this book came into our lives it tore us apart at the seems. It seemed that we were FORCED into believing this stuff. Joshua had a way of taking what we were doing together and make it seem wrong, or bad somehow. To me as long as there is love in your life there is God.
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