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Summary: Misleading title
Review: A book with a heavily religious slant. Anyone expecting a scientific discussion of sexual addiction should be prepared to read that "God has responded to the arrogance of the human heart by turning people over to the control of their evil desires".
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Summary: Real
Review: After reading some of the responses, it becomes obvious that few people understand the point of reference Harry Schaumburg begins with. First, he is a Christian. So, if you are not a Christian, you will not appreciate the spiritual understanding and depth into addiction he describes. One reviewer states that the author is a fundamentalist hater of sex. Ha! I have actually met Harry and that is sooooooooo far from the truth. Harry Schaumburg presents a healthy view of sex. Period. And the healthiest view stems from the Bible itself. Man...Woman...Monogomy. Period. If you go into the book expecting some "I'm okay, you're okay." Then you will hate it. To fully appreciate sex, one has to understand more deeply the created order and its implications. Harry addresses this and does not assume some feel-good pop psychology stance. Harry addresses the implications of deviating from the created order and purposes. Anyone looking for some type of affirmation for their sexual deviance, or looking for some explanation outside of scripture, needs to save their money and instead sign up for a pop culture feel-good seminar given by...perhaps, a sex therapist who is divorced, miserable, but fully competent in telling you how to conduct your sex life.
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Summary: Harry shoots straight and makes you confront yourself. GOOD
Review: After struggling with sexual addiction since age 19, I had experienced most all the disappointments in life, including job loss, career ending acts of compulsive behavior, loss of friends, divorce and even arrest. I read Harry's first book after being confronted with an act of voyeurism. I was especially struck to the core of my heart and conscience by his profound, yet quite simple, approach to bringing the addict to the point of compliance with God and His design for redeemed men. It was on a Sunday afternoon in October, 1995, that I was reading this book. In the back of False Intimacy, I noticed Harry's counseling advertisements. I was desperate and needed help, not only for my own sanity, but for the saving of my marriage. Just 2 weeks later, I went with my wife to a 5-day Intensive Counseling course at Harry's offices in Colorado Springs, CO. " Very intense" is hardly the phrase to describe it. Harry made me realize that I was a very shallow and ho! llow person. The bottom line is that we Christian men have a reluctance to initiate and maintain an intimate relationship with God. I had a lot to work out, and I am still working my way out of sexual addiction and experiencing increasing sobriety from this sinful lifestye. Harry is a talented, qualified professional, whose writings get to the core of the problem, from a spiritual perspective, because that is wherein the problem lies--sex addicts have a sin problem, which only God, according to Harry, can rectify. I recommend this book to men in the Church, especially, who struggle with this area. Thanks, Harry, I am hanging in there.
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Summary: Moved
Review: An excellent reading! I was moved by the power and strength that can be drawn from the Holy Spirit. My vices are mine to bear and mine to confess, but the message of this book has guided me on a path to righteousness. I only hope that the "reader from Miami" also receives help with his spelling problems as well.
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Summary: A Book which comes with prayers
Review: Ave read several good books on sex addiction and one thing I can say is that this book is loaded with prayers! It has a penetrating effect that only the Spirit of God can bring forth. Harry focuses on the one neglected aspect of the problem, namely it is essentially a spiritual problem and that treating the behaviour doesn't heal the cause.The cause is sin as Harry says, man's desire for autonomy from God. There are other aspects to consider, like the body addiction to the chemical released at orgasm, the psychological wounds that we try to medicate with the addiction and of course the forces of evil. It is an excellent book, I have it marked all over the place which I almost never do to any of the books I buy. But this has such nuggets of truth, that you can't help but mark it 'cos you know you will read the book again. This book is loaded with prayers and with your own prayers, a healing will begin. Amen
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Summary: An excellent book for anyone affected by sexual addiction
Review: False Intimacy is a extremely helpful book for anyone who has been touched by the problem of sexual addiction. Dr. Schaumburg carefully explains what sexual addiction is and how it affects everyone in relationship with the addict. He gives guidelines for breaking free from sexual addiction. His information comes from years of dealing with sexual addicts as a counselor who specializes in that area. If you are a pastor, counselor, teacher, etc., this book will be an invaluable reference tool for helping those around you walk in freedom.
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Summary: Real
Review: False Intimacy is a must for those who are struggling with sexual addiction, although I would prefer to use the biblical injunction - SIN. As you sin against your wife, you first sin against God, and the list is endless. The thoughts and intents of the heart are paramount in understanding the depths of this problem which plagues our society today. With the onset of organizations like NAMBLA, the same-sex agenda, transgenders and all that nonsense, this book hits hard and tries to help those come to grips in an understanding way. Highly recommended!!!
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Summary: Hard-hitting and understanding!!!
Review: False Intimacy is a must for those who are struggling with sexual addiction, although I would prefer to use the biblical injunction - SIN. As you sin against your wife, you first sin against God, and the list is endless. The thoughts and intents of the heart are paramount in understanding the depths of this problem which plagues our society today. With the onset of organizations like NAMBLA, the same-sex agenda, transgenders and all that nonsense, this book hits hard and tries to help those come to grips in an understanding way. Highly recommended!!!
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Summary: Outstanding help for anyone wanting freedom from addiction
Review: I have been denying my problem with sexual addiction for 35 years. False Intimacy has not only shown me my denial, but pointed me toward true intimacy with God as the starting point for having close relationships with other people. The book contains the clearest thinking I have ever heard on the subject of trusting God. If you are an addict, think you might be, or are just unsure about what it means to have a close/intimate relationship with God and with your spouse, you need to get this book.
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Summary: Well worth reading twice
Review: I read this book in the process or working through hard issues in my marriage. At first, I thought it good although there were parts I didn't "get". As I worked though more of the material more deeply, my appreciation for its wisdom continued to increase. It is the only work I know that examines both the spiritual and the psychological aspects of sex and related addictions with equal depth. You may notice that it seldom gives compact, concise definition for its concepts -- instead you have to read the whole thing and think it through. If you do, you will likely find reading this book a life-changing and valuable experience. I'll add that I later went to a 10 day intensive counseling session with Dr. Schaumburg, and my experiences there confirmed my impression from the book: that he knows exactly what he's talking about from both the psychological and spiritual standpoints, and can cut straight to the real issues. I highly recommend this book, whether you fit any particular label or not.
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