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Summary: Focused, Relevant and Critical Info for identifying a Match
Review: If you are looking for a your soulmate/life time partner- this book contains lots of good information about specific areas that you and your potential spouse should have in common. Whether you know exactly what you are looking for, or have no idea, this book is a good read- and has some critical info to consider - while you are searching for your lifetime partner. You know how we all get "twitter-pated" - or "stupid" when our heart and hormones are revved up. This helps your head stay in charge of the process- so you hopefully don't end up marrying someone or dating someone too long- before you know whether it's a solid long lasting match. There's lots of wisdom and specific information here for the novice or even the cynic relationship survivor. Highly recommend it.
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Summary: Finding your SoulMate?
Review: In general I found this book to be a very usefull tool in the begining of a search for that one true love. I do believe that the book is too short for a true effective purpose or it should be written with two more books; one containing exercises to get you thinking about what you really want, and the other book to do just the opposite, make you think about what you really don't want.
I would recommend this book to anyone who has problems narrowing issues down that you want in a mate and/or issues that you don't want. It does have the ability to get a person thinking, but it does not go far enough.
There are a couple of flaws with the book. The first flaw I find is that the author who has several years experience in psychology is not able to go beyond a couple of pages before he tells you this, and it is repeated. The other flaw is do to its brevity and not enough detail or any real exercises to get a person thinking about the true qualities of their mate.
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Summary: Finding your SoulMate?
Review: In general I found this book to be a very usefull tool in the begining of a search for that one true love. I do believe that the book is too short for a true effective purpose or it should be written with two more books; one containing exercises to get you thinking about what you really want, and the other book to do just the opposite, make you think about what you really don't want.
I would recommend this book to anyone who has problems narrowing issues down that you want in a mate and/or issues that you don't want. It does have the ability to get a person thinking, but it does not go far enough.
There are a couple of flaws with the book. The first flaw I find is that the author who has several years experience in psychology is not able to go beyond a couple of pages before he tells you this, and it is repeated. The other flaw is do to its brevity and not enough detail or any real exercises to get a person thinking about the true qualities of their mate.
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Summary: A Practical Guide to Evaluating Similarities and Differences
Review: The most useful part of this book is the list of 10 must haves and the 10 can't stands. This allows one to screen potential mates quickly. Warren points out that the chief reason for divorce is the common practice of settling for someone that has one or more of the "can't stand" items. This is usually rationalized as "I may never find anyone else", etc. The limit of 10 is a practical compromise between, say, 5 and 100 items. It accounts for the most crucial areas of compatibility and incompatibility to be accounted for, yet without being so selective that one would never be able to find a mate.
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Summary: Just okay
Review: This book is not awful, just not very good. It brings up important points but it's written in such a breezy, over simplified style, that it reads more like a "summer beach book". (The author also repeatedly states throughout the book how intelligent he is, how everyone says so, etc, etc. That's a "red flag" warning right there, if you ask me). It sounds oh, so logical but unfortunately human beings are a bit more complex than what the author conveys. In short, finding your soul mate is quite more difficult than finding a refridgerator. A concept the author is refusing to grasp.As for eharmony, I'd dare say that it is a business i.e. they want your money. Whether they really match people up correctly is anyone's guess. The underlying assumption of the website is that people are honest, and are self-aware. It claims to weed out emotionally troubled people but it doesn't take much intelligence to fudge the answers so you come out smelling like a rose. Proceed with caution. With this book and the website.
The word scam comes to mind.
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Summary: All the Soulmates Missed!
Review: This book is well written and contains a lot of vital 'how to match' criteria within it. It does a good job of helping you to learn what makes you inwardly tick, so that you can be looking for the marriage partner that keeps time with you. This is good. But, (isn't there always one of these "but"s somewhere), this book has a major shortfall, due to its narrow focus on looking for your marriage partner and running away from all the rest. Mr. Clark understands what makes a marriage work, but appears to have little understanding what soul mates are. Everybody needs to find their soul mates in life (note the plural). The soul mates that we are meant to find will come in the form of the opposite gender and the same gender. These are people who we need to claim as friends for life - and stay close with. Then, depending on your intimate preferences, we need to select a potential marriage partner from this group of close soul mate friends that we now have. I believe Mr. Clark needlessly teaches his readers to overly narrow the search criteria when out on their first couple of dates with someone new. So when reading this book, remember that what we need to be looking for are our soul mates in life when we go on a date, and the rest who are not - do as the author suggests and run away fast (but, very politely). Now, that we have close friends for life, start narrowing down through interaction who, out of all your soul mates, makes for the most compatible match for marriage. I recommend the book regularly to others (with this caution). As for the eharmony web site mentioned in the book, I must give you strong caution - especially males. You could be into very serious disappointment if you pay for membership too soon. EHarmony's customer support is just rotten (they refuse to answer member's emails regardless how polite and persistent you are). Also, they are very good at matching you with people who are clearly on your Can't Stand list in personality characteristics. Apparently the web site version of the book does not follow the criteria of the book itself. You have been forewarned by someone who has experienced this first hand! I still recommend the book, though, with the caution above in mind.
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Summary: verbosity
Review: This book, which contains good material, could be easily condensed from the current 200 pages down to 75 pages. Just read the section heading titles and the first sentence in the listed items and only read in further detail on concepts that are new to you.
The dating site is not as good as it is described. There are a variety of problems some which you have workarounds for and some which cannot be overcome. The workaround problems are that the site will not function with some web browsers. The abbreviated personality test is not 100% accurate. The test does not test for honesty, realistic expectations, or mental health. These last three problem areas are very prevalent on the site, possibly more so than on other sites. The problem that you cannot work around is that they will only show you the matches they think are close to you. If you are young and live in a large metropolitan area this is no problem. If you are not you will not get any or very few matches. It would be better if they relaxed the match criteria and rated the match and let the two people decide if they wanted to risk it. Another problem is that the time of the last visit of the matches is not indicated. You will get your hopes up over matches that have expired memberships.
A further amusing thing about the site is that the book lists eating addictions as one reasons for marriages ending in divorce and advise against marrying anyone who has it. The site does not require people to list their weight.
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Summary: Get Clear on What you Want and Need
Review: This is a wonderful book! It helped me make sense of all the things I really desire in a future marriage companion, and the things that a future mate would desire of me. It really helps to get your thinking clear!
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Summary: An excellent read
Review: This is possibly the best book I've ever read on relationships. The book helps you identify what you are looking for in a relationship and also what you need. It is practical, realistic and easy to apply. If you are genuinely looking for a partner, this book provides the tools to help you get started in the right direction.
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Summary: The Montgomery Burns of Dating....
Review: Well Smithers, if you want success in relationships or dating, take Neil Clark Warren with a grain of salt. A friend who tried e-harmony and this book gave it to me to read. Her experience alone was enough to call me to question this guys validity, and the assertions he makes on his e-harmony commercials are ludicrous and without merit.
Point 1 - He pushes getting your free personality profile which is normally a $40 value. How did he arrive at this value? How many people have ever had to actually pay for this personality profile? E-harmony wouldn't exist if this profile wasn't free. Once you take the profile, they start matching you with people regardless of whether you joined or not. This is their hook. If you didn't pay, you start seeing people matched with you to interest you into joining.(They e-mail these to you) If you do join, you are also matched with people off of their personality profile, who may not even be members. Hence, since they haven't joined, you can't communicate with them and vice versa, but you see it as activity and being matched with someone so you assume that it's working, or at least that e-harmony is matching you to people.
Point 2 - Neil Clark Warren discusses that you are matched on his "29 dimensions" of compatibility. And that these 29 dimensions are necessary for relationship success. Garbage! As a member, you will never learn what exactly these 29 dimensions are, or how the person they matched you with fits these. To me he's a con artist for suggesting that people who DON'T possess the 29 dimensions aren't in for a happy or successful relationship. I'd like to suggest that in order to qualify his remarks, we give every married couple who claims to have a happy, fulfilling relationship his personality test, and see how many of these people wouldn't match up on his 29 dimensions. Divorce lawyers could have a field day. Why would you like this divorce, is it irreconcilable differences? Mental anguish? Adultery? No, no, I was perfectly happy until I found out I don't match my partners 29 dimensions for relationship success. Divorce me, I've got to find one of these e-harmony partners! I'm left to wonder how the human race has survived without Neil Clark Warren and his 29 dimensions to relationship success.
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