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Summary: This book tackles the tough topics...
Review: ...Christian women discuss privately among themselves. With gentle candor, Dillow and Pintus explore the biblical basis for sex within the framework of a covenant relationship while exposing worldly myths and misconceptions that have crept into our thinking. The authors include helpful hints for righting past sexual wrongs, becoming an exciting lover, and staying faithful to your life partner. A great book! It should be required reading for every married Christian woman.
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Summary: Made me blush a few times...
Review: but pretty much answered all of my questions! Ladies, have you ever been sitting with your friends, and really want to bring up a topic like this, but just can't find the nerve, for fear that you'll be labeled some kind of immoral nymphomaniac freak? Well I have, plenty of times, and that's why I'm so thankful for this book. It's like having 2 godly best friends to ask your most intimate (and sometimes embarrassing questions) to. Some of the advice surprised me, such as ok-ing the use of vibrators but vetoing pornography, plus giving all the personal anecdotes and biblical references in praise of everything from orgasms to oral sex. This book will help Christian women create the kind of sexual experiences they truly desire within their marriage. Also included is what to do when your sex drive is revved up but your husband's is in low-idle.
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Summary: Intimate Issues
Review: Excellent book on what God intended the marriage relationship to be.
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Summary: Must read book for long time marriages
Review: First thing you ask is, why is a man reading this book? Well, both my wife and I had questions and have been searching for answers, and things to do to spice up our marriage of 26 years. I bought it mainly for her. It turned out that after I read the first paragraph about the preacher and sailing, I could not put it down. It allowed me to venture into a area about women and romance that will truly change our life as we know it. The title is a little misleading, because men (because we are macho) will probably pass on this one. I strongly urge all males to read and share with your wife this amazing book on christian marriage(I will bet that your arousal of the mind will not be the only thing that will be affected) The authors did an excellent job in their research and should be congraulated.
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Summary: This book has Biblical answers to very private questions.
Review: For too long Christians have looked to the world for our view of sex. It's time we looked to the One who created it. This book is not fluff or an instant solution and it is frank enough to make many women blush. If you are willing to turn the most personal aspect of your marriage over to God, reading this book is a great place to start. I wish I had read it when my husband and I were first married. It would have saved me years of wrong attitudes and mistaken beliefs. I especially appreciated the scripture to back up every point. The 21 questions in the title are definitately questions that my Christian friends and I have thought about, but didn't know where to go for answers. I can't wait to share this with other women.
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Summary: A dissenting view
Review: Having read another book by Linda Dillow that I found very helpful (Creative Counterpart) I decided to order this one, expecting to have my eyes open to meanings of scripture regarding the marital relationship that would help me fulfill my role as a wife. This didn't happen. I was so disappointed with the book that I discarded it at a local book sale the day after I read it. Looking back, I think I should have discarded it in the trash. The attitude that anything goes in a marriage that isn't explicitly denounced in the Bible seems a bit foolish to me yet it is one that keeps popping up time and time again in Christian literature. There are many gray areas in the Bible that can become blurred in todays world. An analogy would be dressing modestly. We are told to be modest in our attire, but just what is modest attire? To the Amish there is one standard, the rest of us are left to "do what is right in our own eyes" in this area. And for the most part, today's Christian women fail in this area. Often you will not notice a difference in the way a Christian woman dresses today when she is compared with an unbeliever. Thus the Bible's statement to dress modestly, leaves us with the responsibility to know just what that is, and I believe that comes with growing in grace and wisdom. The fact that the Bible does not explicitly state that blue jeans and tank tops are immodest, doesn't mean that they aren't. A notion I have begun to take to heart lately. What does this have to do with sexual relationships in marriage? I think that Christians are crossing that same line in this area as well. Reading this book, we are presented with what is suppose to be a novel idea-that sex between marriage partners is nothing to be ashamed of and should be enjoyed-and then we are given ideas on how to enhance this area of our lives. What the book fails to do is take the area of sexual relationships between a Christian man and wife to a higher level than that of any modern day sex primer. Naturally, anything created and done according to God's laws is good and brings a sense of well-being, the question is, just what is good and pleasing to Him. The book never really is able to offer Biblical proof for example that oral sex is sanctioned by God. yet gives full support for the idea that this act is okay simply because it is not explicitly prohibited by the Bible. Much like the question of blue jeans and tank tops, the reader is left to do "what seems right in his own eyes" . There has to be a better way to find out what pleases God than simply saying "if it isn't explicitly prohibited in the Bible, then go for it". There also has to be more to the marriage relationship than seeking carnal gratification.Christians need a sex primer that is able to powerfully explain just what is acceptable and pleasing to God and WHY it is acceptable with sound theological arguements, otherwise we are left to do "what seems right in our own eyes" and this will lead to more and deeper sin since we are prone to sin. This book did not leave a lasting impression on me with regard to the statement by Paul to not take a wife as the pagans do, in lust, but rather in a holy and honorable way. Just what is a holy and honorable way, how does it DIFFER from the way of the world. I found no difference , between what is stated in this book, and what can be commonly read in any woman's magazine today. Sexual union causes two to become one, and "where two or more are gathered in my name, I am there in the midst of them". Thus sexual union between two Christians should indeed be a holy and honorable experience if Christ is there in the midst of this union between husband and wife. I for one am not willing to settle for what the world has already offered to me, mere physical gratification. As Christians, let us seek to know the fullness and richness of this gift God has given us. I think it goes much deeper that what is offered in this book. It is my hope, that in offering this dissenting view, that some will at least question the notion of anything goes in marriage, or that it is simply about physical gratification. Marriage is not a license to sin And the marriage bed is honorable only if it is kept undefiled by immorality. We as Christians today need to truly seek to know what is moral from what is immoral in regard to all things. Be it modest attire, business transactions, sexual union between husband and wife, and virtually all areas of our lives. Don't take the easy road that if it isn't explicitly forbidden it is okay. Seek to grow in grace and wisdom. I hope to find a book someday written by a Christian man in this area, that displays a powerful witness for the Lord for Christian spouses today. I don't think women should be teaching in this area. We are prone to deception.
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Summary: A Ministers Resource ! Give it a look.
Review: I am a Minister to a young married couples class. One couple asked me to lunch and asked me questions regarding intimacy that I had never encountered before. Chapter 11 of this book was a tremendous help and, Praise God, allowed me to begin a reconciliation within a young couple. I do not agree with the one dissent in the reviews before mine. If God did not want us to enjoy sex within marriage then why did He inspire Song of Solomon? This is a Great Ministers Resource. Please give it a look.
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Summary: Read The Book! Do'nt Become Another Statistic!
Review: I belong to a Bible study that is reading this book. What an amazing time it has been to fully ingest God's word and understand WHY HE created sex in the first place. Our views of sex have gone from to procreate to do it whenever and where ever with whom ever you want. I think that many of us Americans can say we tried that and what did it get us but some mixed up emotions and feeling in some ways used up? Was it all it was cracked up to be? Perhaps it wasn't all it was cracked up to be because we weren't going about it in the way it was planned in the first place. I always thought Christians or God's way would be for prudes....hello? Have you read the Bible? I hadn't. I had no clue. I had no idea that if you follow God's plan for sex in marriage ONLY that it could be so much better. I had no idea that God commands us to have sex almost contantly! We are only to obstain to pray for a short time and then rejoin so as to not be tempted by Satan? Read the book. Be transformed. I think this book or any book on this topic should be a must for any young couple deciding to get married. Heck, it should be earlier introduced to kids that question sex, so that they truly understand what God had planned...and to abstain not to be a prude, but because the best is yet to come. Renew your mind. Change your attitude. Enjoy God's gifts. These are lessons I have had to learn.
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Summary: A Very Helpful Book
Review: I bought this book because as a Christian wife, I had some questions about what is not allowed by God in the marriage relationship. This book is an excellent source for women who are seeking answers to many different questions about sex and marriage. I highly recommend this book to any woman who is looking to improve her overall relationship with her husband.
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Summary: Become the partner God intended
Review: I have read a lot of books, trying to find my place in my christian marriage. THIS is by far the clearest and most honest and direct book I have ever seen. I am half way through the book and already I have seen changes in my attitude! I am already planning on reading this book again when I am done. If you dont know what a christian wife is suppose to do to be Godly with her husband, THIS is the book to get!
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