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Summary: Changed my life!
Review: As someone who is new to the Christian faith, I really needed a lot of help understanding a lot of things. One of which is why my closest male friend didn't believe in dating. While he tried to give an explaination, I didn't completely understand. Now I do!
Before I read this book, I knew I wasn't happy with my life. I didn't like being alone and didn't understand how this could be a good thing. Giving my single life purpose by focusing it on God has made me a much happier person.
The fact that the book is written by someone my age helps me relate to the message so much more. I have recommended it my friends more than once.
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Summary: A Christian Parent Speaks Out
Review: My teenage daughter was encouraged to read this book by some of her Christian friends. She is a bright, fun, thoughtful, Christian girl who has dated and has had both good and bad experiences. All of which I think have helped her to become increasingly more mature. I think they (her friends) however, wanted to "set her straight" and see that her dating was wrong. I read it along with her. Mr. Harris made some points that "seemed" Godly enough, but throughout reading the book I kept having this nagging feeling that what he was saying was just not "right". I have also become increasingly bothered by the legalistic attitude many Christians have taken over this book. It's as if they have decided that Josh Harris has been annointed by God to be His spokesperson on a subject that is really not addressed in the Bible. This book left my daughter totally confused, she wasn't sure if her wanting to date was "sinning". (I am thankful for the opportunity for good discussions that he enabled us to have.) Fortunatly, I found a wonderful other book which has helped her see dating more clearly called "Bounderies in Dating" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. It is Biblical, clearly written and as my daughter said to me the other night, "now, this makes sense". She now understands that she can date and let God use these experiences to continue to "grow her up into maturity" where she will be able to make a wise marriage decision when the time is right.
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Summary: An Interesting Perspective on Dating!
Review: In I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris doesn't talk about actually giving dating up, but how to have relationships the way God wants us to do and that make him happy. This book talks about the seven habits of highly defective dating, how to get on track with God's plan, how to make the most of your singleness, and much more. Harris tells many scenarios throughout the book about his relationships with his friends and families. It talks about how short term relationships are pretty much pointless. However, long-term relationships prepare us for a good marriage that lasts. The stories that he shares are pretty amazing. Most of them a person would be able to relate to in one way or another whether a person has been on many dates or has never been on a date before. I couldn't believe how some people react to dating. It was really neat to see how so many people are committed to God and they only go on dates in groups so they can stay on track with their relationship with God. I think that this book helped me to realize what God wants for me in a relationship. It also showed that the time when a person meets "the one," won't necessarily come when he/she is looking/wanting for it to come.
I would recommend this book to anyone who may be interested in an interesting philosophy about dating because it gives great ideas on how to stay focussed on God and to set high standards to avoid being distracted from God. This is a great book that can help a person through your dating relationships in God's way.
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Summary: Wonderful Book
Review: While reading this book(which didn't take me long because I couldn't put it down)...I found myself relating so closely yo what Joshua was saying...after all when he wrote it, he was about the age I am now. But when he was referring to his previous relationships with girls and other people's situations, I said to myself "yea, I've been there" or "oh yeah, that's a bummer." About a month before I read this book I just broke off a relationship with a girl for almost two years...It was hard, but God was telling me it was what needed to be done now, so she may not hurt even more later. I need to concentrate on my relationship with God right now and not have it clogged up with thoughts of a girl...especially those which are impure. This does not mean I can not have friends who are girls...but to wait until that one comes into your life and to go with the season's change....a great book for girls and guys to read...and i highly recommend it to anyone who has ever considered to stop dating or wonders why someone would not want to date.
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Summary: Harris presents destructive ideas
Review: Joshua Harris is an [...] man. He has ingrained into the heads of Christian teenages that dating is an inherently bad thing, which it is not. I'm currently having problems entering into any relationship because of the type of ideas that Harris promotes. Dating *CAN* be a good thing. It is like many other things in this world--when done according to God's plan, it can be a very good, healthy and growthful thing; but when done poorly, it can be destructive. But dating itself is *not* inherently bad. Harris' ideas leave Christian teens frustrated with having interest in people of the opposite sex and not being able to act on them because they have been made to believe that it would be sinful to do so. For a better Christian perspective on dating, check out Boundaries in Dating by Dr. Cloud and Townsend.
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Summary: For saints only, not for mere humans
Review: If Joshua Harris had practiced his strange ideas in private, I'd admire him, as I might admire someone who fasts for one week in every month. But tragically, his bizarre notions are popular in some circles; he has wrecked relationships and even potential marriages, as those who are unsuited to such austerity and asceticism try to practice his notions anyway (and practice them on their unwilling partners!). No sex before marriage? That's not too severe. It's like advocating a vegetarian diet - which is probably good for you. But no kissing before marriage? What an impossible and unrealistic burden for most people! It really is comparable to advocating a week-long fast every month. That might be fine for some, but it also might do great damage to those who cannot adapt to ridiculous regimens. Harris also equates sexual desire with lust, which is likely to inspire needless guilt in a whole generation of young Christians. It's like equating hunger with gluttony. Lust and gluttony are sins. A hunger pang or a feeling of horniness are healthy and natural. God gave us our wonderful sex drives to inspire us to seek "a mate of the opposite sex with whom the fullest possible union can be made - spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical." But don't listen to me. Instead, listen to what the Son of Man might have said. Jesus hated the scribes and Pharisees more than anyone else, because they placed impossible burdens on every man's shoulders: "And you experts in the law, woe to you, because you load people down with burdens they can hardly carry, and you yourselves will not lift one finger to help them." (Luke 11:46)
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Summary: Good for highschoolers
Review: Joshua's book is filled with stories and a feel good type of attitude. He's not too Biblical.. of course he throws in a few verses here and there, but most of his lessons come from his own personal experience... which can be flawed and isn't the same for everyone. I suggest you go read Douglas Wilson's "Her Hand In Marriage." It is much more biblical and comes from a much more mature man.
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Summary: I kissed dating good bye!
Review: This book is so awesome to have during this day in age! As today's society has such a corrupt system of dating, this book offers an alternative solution. Using Scripture, and real life stories, it shows you how to avoid being caught in today's dating system, while it points you to the only one who can satisfy, JESUS! It's easy to read and all useful info. I would recommend this book to any youth (it is focused more to youth) Christian or non Christian, who want to avoid heart ache and regret from relationships, or who just want to do it the right way.
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Summary: Good For Those Who Fear Commitment, Otherwise Skip to "BMG"
Review: I had mixed feelings about this book, maybe because its not necessarily for a guy like me. It insulted me reading this stuff when I'm actually ready for a serious commitment. Perhaps Joshua Harris wasn't writing for a guy like me. I do, however, recommend this book for anyone who is still sketchy on whether they want a serious relationship. Joshua Harris does not "kiss dating goodbye" forever, the point isn't to do that, but to kiss it goodbye until the right person is brought into your life. It seemed that Harris emphasizes the overall fact (which I agree with) that if we stop dating and focus on the Lord, we won't have all these "potential mates" clouding our view of Him or what He wants for us. In that respect, we come to realize that if we don't date and just serve Him, He will NOT let our eventual mate pass us by. I do disagree with his writing style, he focuses WAY too much on the don't's of dating and doesn't put many do's. But then again, he's not trying to promote early or premature dating, he's promoting Godliness. I would recommend this book to all high schoolers. However, if you're out of high school and feel ready for commitment but need a starting point to help you, skip this one. Read the second one for sure. This book did not help me, so I gave it only 3 stars, but if you're either in high school or before, or are not in a mature and commited relationship or just don't feel ready for one, READ THIS BOOK. It is, in the end, a Godsend. While you may not fully agree with everything (I know I didn't) it is definitely an ending overall point that you want to be at that Harris presents clear and not sugar-coated.
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Summary: Wisdom Without Depth.
Review: To be completely honest, I did not enjoy I KISSED DATING GOODBYE. I felt that Joshua Harris was trying to force me to believe what he was saying and that if I didn't agree, then something must be wrong with me and I wasn't being a very good Christian. I also felt that Harris was trying to have his cake and eat it too by suggesting that "dating" is wrong and that "courtship" is right. With that said, I must also admit that I do agree with a lot of what Harris wrote. People shouldn't be getting involved in a romantic relationship unless they are ready for marriage; dating isn't something to be done just for fun. Also, people should be friends before they begin dating. And most importantly, a dating relationship should be founded in Christ. Harris should be given credit for raising issues that needed and still need to be raised. However, his approach in I KISSED DATING GOODBYE is wrong. He speaks the truth, but not in love; his words contain wisdom, but no real depth. Fortunately, Harris has grown in wisdom and retunes his book in the "sequel" BOY MEETS GIRL. He hits much closer to the mark in that book. Nevertheless, IKDG is a book that many teenagers could probably benefit from reading. With so much garbage in the air and misinformation, there aren't very many good books concerning relationships that can help young Christian men and women in their relationships with each other.
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