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Summary: Kiss dating goodbye?
Review: I thought this book had a lot of good ideas and thoughts, but there were some topics that I didn't agree with. Overall, I do think that a lot of people do play a dating game. It seems as though certain people always have a girlfriend/boyfriend all the time, and usually not the same one. By that, i mean that they don't have long lasting relationships, they are going out with different people all the time. Personally, i think that is dumb because I do believe that dating is the next step to a bigger commitment. Even though I do think that dating is a serious thing, I don't think it is something we should never do. I, myself, have never dated before, but I think it would be nice to go out once in a while and get to know somebody better than you already do. I don't think it has to be such a romantic date, but just to go out with a guy and get to know him one-on-one. How else are you supposed to find the right guy, unless you've experienced what others are like? When i talk about dating being not a bad thing, i still think the person you date should be someone you've known a while. Joshua Harris talked a lot about being friends with someone first before becoming intimate at all, and I agree. Friendship is an important relationship to have with someone, and it should be an important factor before dating. I think this could be a good book for someone who dates a lot, but for someone like me it seems like he just talks about the same things we hear from our parents and teachers all the time.
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Summary: something to think about
Review: Joshua Harris's thought-provoking book I Kissed Dating Goodbye is one I would definitely recommend to anyone who is searching for insight into one-on-one relationships. I thoroughly enjoyed it. This book helped me to better understand why things often turn out the way they do in my relationships. It clearly illustrated the problems of traditional dating and also provided new solutions. Though I did not agree with all of Harris's judgements on relationships, his unique perspective on this issue intrigued me. His strive for holiness and purity encouraged me to check my motives on everything I do. Harris encouraged me to not only think about myself, but also my partner. As a sister in Christ, I must do all I can to guard the purity of others. God intended us to present ourselves to each other pure and blameless on our wedding day. We must do all we can to make sure we are able to do this. Harris has shown me that this is what will bring ultimate fulfillment. Being able to give our heart fully to our spouse is what will bring joy; not chopping it up into sections to be passed out during short term pre-marital relationships. All in all, I would have to admit that Joshua Harris wrote a very good book. I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a book that everyone should definitely read.
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Summary: I Kissed Dating Goodbye Review by me
Review: I found this handbook for God-honoring relationships to be very refreshing. I am impressed with how Josh Harris, the author, is not willing to even come close to compromising his standards when it comes to relationships with women. That is exactly how God wants us to live our lives. God does not want us to waste our time with someone if that is someone we are not considering marrying someday. I believe that it is important to spend time with people of the opposite sex so that we can know what kind of person we are compatible with. Harris suggests going out in groups so as not to seclude yourselves and subject yourself to possible temptations that might arise. I really appreciate what he has to say about that fact that we are preparing ourselves for a God-honoring marriage focused on Him. I want my future wife to be treated in a righteous way right now by any guy that might be in her life. One other topic that clearly caught my attention was the issue of if you meet the right girl at the wrong time, it is the wrong thing. I thought that if I met the "right girl", then it was my job to pursue the relationship and make sure it works. God's idea of the right girl is the women he has prepared for me at the right time. An important lesson! The only negatives about this book is it tends to be slightly repetitive when going over reasons for not dating.
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Summary: Dating is not a game
Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye, is a very informational book about the object of dating. I think he gives many good points about how insignificant dating is. There are too many people in this world that just treat it as a game and do not think of the future consequences. Dating can be a very emotional experience and most of the time someone ends up getting hurt. Most couples end up going out for a couple of months and get really close and then break up and end up hating each other. They get too wrapped up in each other and sometimes even get to physically involved. Doing things that they wouldn't ever see themselves doing. They don't treat the other person like they would want someone else treating their future husband/wife. If we go out with all these people at such a young age, what do we leave for our husband/wife? We experience so many things and by the time we get to our soul mate, we have already done everything. He talks about how some couples worry when they know that their spouse has already had sex. They worry about whose face they see when they are making love. What about other things? For example, when you go to the beach and watch a sunset. You have most likely already done it with someone else and you won't experience that for the first time with your wife. This applies to many other things aswell. Dating is not a game and I think people who treat it like it is are lost. Teenagers are too young to be getting too involved with another person. Going out as friends and getting to know the person is fine. An intimate relationship with another person is out of the question at a young age. Both people have no clue what they are getting themselves into and they usually end up falling away from God. I know this from a personaly experience. You have to be right with God before you can start a life with another person. Dating can wait, because we should be concentrating on God's will for our lives first.
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Summary: By the way...
Review: Simply put, this book is about the fact that a person's relationship with Christ must be first and foremost in their life. Emphasis on the word "RELATIONSHIP." You can't get to heaven on your daddy's Christianity. It has to be a personal relationship. And Joshua Harris has pointed out the single biggest barrier to teens' having that personal relationship: dating. Josh Harris contends that Christians are to treat each other as brothers and sisters. There is no distinction made between how we should treat our brothers and sisters in Christ and how we should treat our flesh-and-blood brothers and sisters. Only when God gives us leave should we pursue any serious relationship. That is the essence of GOD'S WILL- doing what He wants when He wants it. And before any single Christian can pursue a romantic relationship, they must be willing and able to submit to God's will. That's what this book is about. Interested yet?
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Summary: Did I Kiss Dating Goodbye?
Review: In reading this book, I was challenged in many ways by Joshua Harris. He made me think about my dating life and about what I valued in a relationship. He had valid points and seemed to be very knowledgable about this certain subject. However, throughout this book, I found myself constantly disagreeing with his points of view. I agree that Joshuia Harris has valid and godly concepts but I was unable to relate to many of them. I would not say that I hated this book, I enjoyed reading it. I think that as a teen in today's society, it was rather difficult to grasp his concepts. Many times during my reading I felt almost as if I were being accused of living the wrong lifestyle and I was not comfortable with that. In this book Harris bluntly attacks the current morals of society. I agree with him that our society has forced an image into our minds that we need a significant other to make our life complete. I agree with him when he says we do not need anyone but God to truly fulfill our lives. However, at my age (17) it is hard for me to think of dating only for marriage. For me, the entire experience of dating helps me in finding that someone special for me. Throughout my dating history I have made many valuable friends and have had many great experiences. I would not say to throw dating out all together but I would agree with Joshua Harris on the point that society has put a flase image into our minds and that we as Christians need to do everthing we can to keep ourselves from falling into worldy traps. Joshua Harris's concepts are not for everyone and I do not believe his dating stategy does not appeal to the average man. I would not reccomend this book to anyone out looking for merely a good book to read. This book challenges one's mind and really makes you look at your life. Do not read it lightheartedly. Read it with an open mind and be prepared to both agree and disagree with many points.
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Summary: Best book I have ever read
Review: I thank God for someone who is not afraid to tell it like it is. He basically explained and put on paper what i have been trying to do for years. I am encourage to know that someone else and many others stand and believe that serving and filling your life with God now will bless you with the man or woman of your dreams. Thanks Brother
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Summary: To Date or not to Date?
Review: I started this book not really knowing what I was getting myself in to. Don't get me wrong the first few chapters are where not so exciting, but once I got to Part two I started applying what I read in my personal dating relationship. I learned how to be a good listener, how to not just take, but to give as well. I also learned that love needs to be committed, sincere, selfless, and responsible. These Four words describe what every dating relationship should be like. There are times when people think they are in love and have sex before marrage. If she gets pregnant the man needs to take responsiblity for his actions. Whether you are a christian or not this book will give you so many ways to extend and help you make the most out of your dating relationship. Yes, this book is by a christian author and yes there are bible verses in it, but I feel that this book has helped me in my walk with God. A parting thought, No matter who you are God has a plan and everything will come in time. If I got only one thing out of this book it was that no matter how slow I think life is going God will show me the right path. For every door that is closed a window is opened to a new and better place and all you need to do is open your mind.
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Summary: True love and Real Love
Review: My first thought before reading the book was,"What!?! Never date again, are you nuts?" I was sure it would be waste of time to read. But I'm glad I was able to read this outstanding book. Joshua Harris shows the importance of incorporating Jesus in your relationships both before and after marriage. To make your faith not just a part of your life, but as the backbone and support in your life. That God's true and real love will always be there. After reading I see many of the mistakes I have made in relationships and will be able to correct. However, I feel "not dating" is not the solution to gaining fellowship and closeness to God. For many, dating can be only a way to fall into impurity and farther from God's plan in their lives. But for others it can be a way to grow closer to God through closeness with a brother or sister in christ. After reading this book I have a whole new outlook on relationships. I would recommend this book to people like me, who think it's a book about never dating again.
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Summary: something to think about
Review: This book had a lot of good points to it. I am glad that I was able to see someone else's point of view to dating. I do not agree with the artificial environment for dating. Yes, for the beginning of a relationship the good in someone will stand out more. But if you take your time and date for a long period of time, then eventually the other person will see the not-so-good side. There is no need to rush into a relationship, because the relationship should be in God's hands, with God's timing. The way Joshua portrayed dating was that no one can date and not get physically involved with each other. Now I realize many people are crossing the line, but there are many who can resist until their wedding day. Many people do not realize the power of sex so they end up in situations that they cannot control. I believe if a person is sincere in being abstinent, then they should keep themselves from being alone with the other person in places where temptation can rise. I agree with the part where dating often skips the friendship stage of a relationship. A new guy came to my school one year and he thought I was cute, so we went on some dates. I later realized I could have saved some time if we would have become friends first; then I would have known that I would never have been interested in him. Since that experience, I have vowed to date only people that I have known for a long period of time. I did enjoy reading this book. It gave me some great insights to think about. Although, I will not "kiss dating goodbye," I wish the best for those who did.
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