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Summary: You can be free
Review: Virtually all Christians, men and women alike, have been at a point in their lives where they feel that are just beating their heads against the wall "trying harder" to overcome sin and temptation. It is a battle. If you are in that situation you CAN be free and remove every hint of immorality from you life. You have to want it, and you have to acknowledge where it starts. As a youth minister, I have young men come to me and say "I can't stop having sex with my girlfriend. I want to, but I just can't." When I tell them to avoid being alone with them, they inform me that doing that would be too hard. It's like the rich young ruler - you don't want it bad enough to give up what you have. With men, as myself, sexual immorality doesn't start with diving into pornographic pictures (although that is certainly wrong). It starts with where your eyes look and what your mind thinks, which will lead to greater sin. I got this book around a time that I found out that someone whom I looked up to as a man of God had an affair. I was appalled. Instead of abandoning what I had learned, I took it as a warning; no one is immune from falling into temptation, and you've got to stop it before it gets that far. Telling yourself the problem doesn't exist won't help anything. The problem is there. But there IS hope, you CAN be free from sexual immorality. This is good news! The book will help you understand that temptation starts with the little things - like looking at a girl or a picture of a girl in a skimpy bathing suit - and you've got to starve your eyes of those things. Since I've read this book and talked with my wife (and she got over the initial shock that I deal with temptation in this area) our marriage has improved 100%, my relationship with God has improved, and my outlook on life has improved. If you are willing to be free, this book can help you. I think it may have saved my marriage decades before the problem would have ruined it.
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Summary: A woman's opinion
Review: As I scrolled through some of the previous reviews, I was surprised at the number of negative opinions -- even hateful-sounding opinions -- that reviewers expressed. It seems like you either love this book or hate it. Well, let me just say, I am one of those who loves it. I am a 23-year-old female grad student, and I found this book incredibly insightful. It really opened my eyes to the struggles that men deal with. I was fortunate to have honest guy friends growing up, so I was never totally in the dark about the stuff men wrestle with sexually, but this book really emphasized to me the importance of valuing and protecting the purity of my guy friends by dressing modestly and avoiding suggestive conversation.
I know many young men whose lives have been transformed by applying the principles in this book -- which are, contrary to the analysis of some of the reviewers, extremely practical, dealing with how to avoid getting blindsided by lust in everyday situations: the receptionist at your office whose top button is always unbuttoned as she bends down to hit the intercom switch; the jogger in short-shorts on your way to work; the sexy billboard ads; the late-night movies in hotel rooms, etc. The authors are specific and detailed -- some might call this graphic, but I thought that the authors did a great job of fighting fire with fire: men are bombarded with graphically sexual images on a daily basis, so they need a strong, no-holds-barred wakeup call, NOT someone who says it's ok with God to "ogle" women, as if they were objects for men's sexual gratification instead of His precious daughters, while at the same time calling people who try to strive for God's standards about sexuality "legalistic." The fact is, God DOES care how we act. No, we can't earn our salvation by being good or trying to uphold the law, but check out Romans 7:7 -- "What shall we say then? Is the law sin? May it never be! On the contrary, I would never have come to know sin except through the law!" God's laws are good, just, and right, and they show us where we fall short. But praise God, because of His grace, He sent his Son to die for us and His Holy Spirit to empower us, "that the requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit" (Rom 8:4).
Sexual sin is not something to dabble in or play around with, and I sincerely thank the authors of this excellent book for providing my Christian brothers with the ammunition they need, not to cut back on sexual sin or only indulge lust a little, but to utterly kill fleshly desires. God commands us to be pure, and the authors of this book provide practical, wholehearted, loving, empathetic advice to Every Man who struggles in this area.
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Summary: The Book Sterotypes Men As Brutes - Bad Book
Review: I read "Every Woman's Battle" first and it was full of
sterotypes,then I read this book.Bad idea!This book presents
men as sexual brutes,barely able to view a woman as anymore
than a sex object.In the same way "Every Women's Battle"
portrays women as passive til a "charmer" comes along,this book
portrays men as natural aggressors,monsters and preditors.
Has no valid information on how to controll desire and
basically states boys will be boys.Generalistic and sexist!
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Summary: Real World Advice
Review: An earlier review by a female counselor criticised this book for setting the standard of visual purity too high. (You'll have to scroll back a few pages to find the review I'm referring to, it was posted on November 17, 2003 and she simply refers to herself as "A Reader.")
She wrote:
"Many men can look at a attractive woman and say 'that's a good looking woman' without mentally undressing her, mentally fornicating with her, or masturbating in her presence. To the authors they cannot comprehend this because they had sexual problems in this area. It is again like the alcoholic not understanding how you can have ONE glass of wine with dinner and STOP."
The reason that Fred put this in the book is twofold:
1-Whether a man is lusting or not, if he is constantly looking at other women he cannot help but to compare them to his own wife. Thus as he notices other females who are more attractive, his wife may become less attractive to him. It's no different than the guy who goes out and buys a $3,000 Pentium III computer and absolutely loves it until the Pentium IIII's come out.
2-The words that Fred wrote about visual purity are straight out of the Bible in Job 31:1 it says: "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl."
Lust is defined in the dictionary as a "desire or craving." To say that a man can look at an attractive woman and not lust is like saying that someone who LOVES chocolate cake can look at a chocolate cake and not even WANT to eat it.
Lusting is just wanting something, however the woman who wrote the review that I referenced lumped lust together with acting out, fornicating etc. Lust defintely leads to acting out, but they are not exactly the same thing. There is no question that most men can notice an attractive woman without having to act out somehow. But if lust is what LEADS to acting out, then why not kill sexual immorality at the source: lust.
I gave "Every Man's Battle" 5 stars becuase it is REAL advice. Other books about sexual temptation just reference a littany of Bible verses and then say "be encouraged." But Fred's book ACTUALLY TELLS YOU WHAT TO DO, specifically, in order to overcome sexual temptation. This is unlike any other book ever written about the subject and it's no suprise that Fred Stoeker, who started out as a no name author, has sold over a million books. The "average" Christian book only sells about 7,000 copies.
For people who are struggling with homosexual lust, I have written a book called "Loving Homosexuals as Jesus Would" that is also for sale on Amazon.com. The last two chapters offer strategies on how to be set free from homosexual lust and temptation. It compliments Fred's book very well.
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Summary: The best out there
Review: Simply put, this is the best book i've seen on the subject. I must heartily disagree with the previous post to this one in that this book hits it right on the money! MOST men DO struggle with these problems. Unlike what the reviewer said earlier. Although MOST do, they all struggle on different levels. This book is hard to read in that it reveals sins straight up. Sometimes it seems to be discouraging, but only becomes this subject has never been addressed so up front. Now our sins are before us and we must deal with it accordingly. yes, sin is ugly and sometimes it can be discouraging to look at. DEAL WITH IT! God demands it!
This book WILL help any and every man who is struggling with Porn/masturbation and simply every man...period. For every man must deal with the concept of "bouncing" their eyes when a scantily clad woman walks by. We have eyes that wander and thats a FACT.
Because of this book, I am now filled with hope and direction. I have strategy and I believe God is on my side 100%. This book has showed me the heart of God and where He wants me to be.
I recommend this to ALL men, no matter if their struggle is tiny...or even conquered (if I can use that word given lust is a natural tendency). For EVERY MAN can benefit from something in this book.
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Summary: Disaster
Review: This book did a lot of harm to me. It is a direct assault to a man's masculinity and sense of self-respect. The rules that it advocates: "bouncing the eyes" are as legalistic as they are unworkable. I dutifully tried to "bounce my eyes" for years until I realized that it was making me obsessed with women's bodies and neurotic. I gradually came to resent and fear women because of my attraction to them and their sexuality.
This book totally lacks all perspective of human sexuality and will present a skewed point of view. Not once does the book say that it is good and healthy for men to look at women and be attracted to them. With this attitude, what God meant as a blessing, these authors have turned into a "battle." As far as I'm concerned, the authors of the book are doing the devil's work for him.
I finally gave up on the anxiety-provoking attitudes these authors advocate. I have become a self-avowed and dedicated ogler and guess what? My relations with the women around me, and my relation to God have never been better.
Start enjoying Every Man's Blessing: The beauty of the feminine form.
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Summary: Another Guilt Trip Guide to Success Book
Review: Sexual addiction, like so many others, are all the same. This book first tells what swingers they were, then tells how the found religion, then tells you how to brainwash yourself into a worse torment than the addiction in the first place. Avoid it.
Things that DO work:
1. Find yourself.
2. What caused me to be a sex addict? Sex abuse, lousy parents, or a psychiatric problem. Most addicts have a psychiatric problem that is the key to solving their addiction.
3. Learn to look at women as art. Of course, I hottie will make your head turn.
It will take time and patience to rid yourself of the problem but "guilt trips" are not the answer. You'll fail along the road to recovery. Count on it. But, the less you are beholden to it the more you'll rid yourself of the problem. Maybe a medication will relieve the problem. It happens. If not, real therapy, not a quick fix, will with medication. Most addicts are depressed and disturbed about something in their past. If not true, how are some people able to smoke a cigarette then not for ten years? Why you ask? Sex is more serious than that. But, my point is there is more than the addiction that is the problem.
-Ravem
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Summary: A little disappointed
Review: While I thought this book had some good practical advice. It was unnecessarily graphic and seemed to lean towards a more humanistic approach. They suggest keeping your thoughts and actions pure for six weeks and then the new habits will be in place. I know from experience that it will take more than your own strength. You need the grace of Jesus Christ and the incredible power of the Holy Spirit if you are going to overcome this sin. I thought they should have emphasized that more.
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Summary: Eye-opening book!
Review: I think this book was extremely helpful. The first half of the book tells us mostly what we already know: that all men struggle with sexual temptation, and that is a bad thing. More than that, however, it caused me to look beyond what I know on the surface, and try to identify the causes of this problem and the far-reaching consequences of it. It caused me to see not only how hurtful my sexual sin was to my girlfriend, but also how it warped my view of women. The last half of the book contains more of the practical advice that I was seeking when I bought the book. The author explained in a very simple and practical way some strategies of overcoming sexual sin (which is surprisingly easy if you have a good plan for it). Do not get discouraged during the beginning chapters of the book, and do not quit reading before you reach the end. Even if you feel frustrated, discouraged, or disgusted at times, it is definitely a book worth finishing.
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Summary: Worthless
Review: During the past 10 years of reading of the books with the various subjects, this is the only one which is completly worthless. After few attempts I failed to reach page 50!!!
Worthless!!!
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