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Summary: every adoptee should read
Review: Beth Kane's book is a vivid account of the emotions encountered when a birth mother reunites with her child. The best part of the book, however, is the part where she tells about the days before giving birth to her son. Anyone touched by adoption should buy and read this book.
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Summary: An emotional subject...And how it touches the ENTIRE family
Review: I did enjoy the love and understanding between Beth Kane and her son. I think almost everyone has been touched by adoption, and reading someone else's emotional journey can be helpful. It is wonderful that this is such a joyous reunion between mother and son, it makes my heart glad. There are so may people living with out the love of their parents or the child they gave up for adoption. I cannot imagine the heartache of the decision, especially when Beths sister Shirley had a child approximatly the same age, I know , that child was my mother. I commend Beth on her courage to write this book, and am very glad the "stigma" of adoption has changed for her and everyone else over the years , from secrets and shame, to a wonderful act of love and sacrifice. I am sure it was a difficult road, that does not end when your child is placed with their adopted family. I am even more elated for Beth's son, he forgave so freely and built a relationship with his mother and sister, Unfortunatly he never got to meet his other sister , Susan, as the family lost her to Cancer way too early. Unfortunatly he has not met the rest of the family either, and I think that is a shame. In her book, Beth shifted her focus too much towards blaming members of the family for the decision she made, and that is just not acceptable. Both Mother and Son accept and love each other, I think that excuses or blame for this very personal decisions of Beths was the one disappointment in the book for me. She has a rarity with the love and forgivness of her son, and the total support from family, she should share with her son and the readers, the strengths of family members no longer here. Yes, she did live in the projects in Oakland, but Alva , her mother was a strong, caring , loving woman, who would have given anyone the short off her back,and raised 6 children + , always taking care of others. Perhaps it is those genetics passed onto Beth's son that gave him the forgiving, understanding heart he obviously has. Aunt Beth, I am glad he found you, I wish it was while Nana and Gramma were still alive, they would have shared in your joy. We have not been as close of a family since their passing, I wish it could be different, as Your son deserves to know our entire family, and we would love to welcome him with open arms, because he is part of all of us. I do feel you did an unjustice to the family, and/or seem to have a lowly opinion of your family,You were an young adult at the time, you made an adult decision, and your family supported you. Your son was raised in a loving home, and grew to be very successful, you gave him that opportunity, and although you may feel regret, IT WAS THE DECISION YOU FELT WAS THE RIGHT ONE AT THE TIME IN YOUR LIFE YOU MADE IT. I know how you were supported and helped through out Susans illness, and you would have received that same unselfish , giving support with the return of your son. but, I think you know that.
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Summary: A Wonderful Story
Review: One afternoon I picked up Beth's book, THANK YOU SON FOR FINDING ME, and noticed the familiar face on the cover. What would I find in these pages? What would I get from it?
I have known Beth Kane for almost two years. Beth started a Writer's Group in our community and I found that I liked her. I often ask myself, what makes this woman tick?
Once I opened the book and entered the world between the covers, I was lost to anything else. I fininshed the book in two sittings. When I crawled out from the last page, I had an answer to a question that I have had for over a year.
As I read, I knew I was at the other end of the adoption spectrum. Where as Beth had given up her precious baby boy to adoption, I adopted a young boy. Surprisingly our feelings coincided although they were different. If you haven't been there, you might not understand, but that is not what this book report is all about.
The mystery began to unravel just a few pages into her book. There is a lot of heart-ache between the covers and it didn't take long before I realized there had been a helpless, fearful, shy and battered young woman, who emerged triumphant. At the same time my question was becoming an answer. I now know why I like her.
I wondered, had I not met Beth Kane, and gotten to know her, would I have enjoyed the book as well? I don't know, but I do think knowing her did help. As I read, I felt I was right there looking over her shoulder watching the cocoon open up and a bright colored butterfly emerge. I had the feeling that the author over-came a lot of pent-up emotions, and the reunion with her son brought her the peace she needed.
Thank you Beth for sharing this wonderful story. At the risk of plagiarism, THANK YOU BETH FOR FINDING US.Chuck Deetz
Member Mission Bay Writers
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Summary: A Wonderful Story
Review: One afternoon I picked up Beth's book, THANK YOU SON FOR FINDING ME, and noticed the familiar face on the cover. What would I find in these pages? What would I get from it?
I have known Beth Kane for almost two years. Beth started a Writer's Group in our community and I found that I liked her. I often ask myself, what makes this woman tick?
Once I opened the book and entered the world between the covers, I was lost to anything else. I fininshed the book in two sittings. When I crawled out from the last page, I had an answer to a question that I have had for over a year.
As I read, I knew I was at the other end of the adoption spectrum. Where as Beth had given up her precious baby boy to adoption, I adopted a young boy. Surprisingly our feelings coincided although they were different. If you haven't been there, you might not understand, but that is not what this book report is all about.
The mystery began to unravel just a few pages into her book. There is a lot of heart-ache between the covers and it didn't take long before I realized there had been a helpless, fearful, shy and battered young woman, who emerged triumphant. At the same time my question was becoming an answer. I now know why I like her.
I wondered, had I not met Beth Kane, and gotten to know her, would I have enjoyed the book as well? I don't know, but I do think knowing her did help. As I read, I felt I was right there looking over her shoulder watching the cocoon open up and a bright colored butterfly emerge. I had the feeling that the author over-came a lot of pent-up emotions, and the reunion with her son brought her the peace she needed.
Thank you Beth for sharing this wonderful story. At the risk of plagiarism, THANK YOU BETH FOR FINDING US. Chuck Deetz
Member Mission Bay Writers
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Summary: Gained better perspective
Review: Thank You,Son, For Finding Me - A Birthmother1s Story by BethKane. Aslan Publishing. 1999. 184 pp. Kane begins her story withher receipt in 1993 of a special-delivery letter from her son from a teenage pregnancy in 1947 whom she had put up for adoption and had not seen since then. At the time, Catholic nuns had told her, 3Forget it and get on with your life.2--and she had tried to follow their advice even though she could never completely keep thoughts of him out of her mind, especially when so many young men his age were being sent to war in Vietnam. Kane told her husband-to-be Charles about this episode in her past before they married. They had two daughters, one of whom died of cancer. This sadness in her life which intensified the author1s thoughts about the fate of her adopted son, although she never developed any intention of trying to find him. Her subsequent meeting changed her mind on the matter. She realized that it was inestimably beneficial emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually for both herself and her son to meet, and to develop a relationship they never had. And she realized that for the longest time she had been suppressing desires to have her son in her life. Kane found too that reunion with her son brought back memories of her younger years which she had to face. It was a time of anxiety, growth, and unprecedented happiness for Kane--a story she relates in an honest, plain, and deeply touching way. Henry Berry Book Reviewer Editor/Publisher, The Small Press Book Review END
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Summary: A Powerful Human Story for Everyone
Review: The author is a woman who had a baby at the age of twenty, in 1947, and gave her son up for adoption. Then, almost fifty years later, her son found her. She writes with spare elegance and unsparing honesty, and you will be hooked on the story from the first word you read. She describes with detailed frankness all of her very mixed feelings as each stage of the relationship with her son unfolds, and they gradually get to know each other. Details like, how to handle a new extended family at the holidays, are endearing to the reader. Adopted children and adoptive parents will find this book fascinating, as will birth-parents. But the quality of writing and the sheer humanness of the story make it a book that appeals to a much wider audience.
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