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Summary: Did anybody stop to think ... ?
Review: I admire Steve and Fred's honesty, and I rejoice in their own success in battling sexual sin, but there method of approaching this subject I believe wasn't helpful at all.They got quite crude at times in language, and even sensuous in their discussion of their past sins, and ultimately I had to put the book away because it was just too graphic. I was extremely disappointed to have to do so, because this is a subject that must be dealt with, and truly is a struggle for teenagers and I know this personally. There were times when the book took on almost a confessional aspect to it, as though fred and Steve were confessing their past sexual sins to us the reader just so we would know them. It was nice that they saw it to be so important to let the reader know that where he or even she struggles is where they themselves have been before, but the detail was too much. There are stories of one night stands in which the author states that he slipped out of his clothes and into bed with some girl, and blatant description of certain women that he has lusted over and what the particular image was that caused him to lust. This book became a topic of prayer for me that I would read it and not begin to lust after the images they painted in my head while reading, and finally I put it away because I couldn't. Never fear though Joshua Harris has just released a book called Not Even a Hint or something like that that deals with this same subject in a "PG-rated" way. I have ordered myself a copy and expect it to be quite good as his other books have been.
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Summary: No more pretending...
Review: I have been leading a small group of about ten guys on my floor through this book. Not one of us have gone through our teenage or college years untouched by the trappings of pornography, masturbation, or other sexual temptations. It is time for the church to stop pretending that sin struggles do not exist in the lives of its young men and women and begin to address these issues on the head. Otherwise, our young people are left to find the answers in the world because no one else will talk about it with them in specific terms they can understand and relate to. This book is a candid peer-mentor discussion between the author and, in a sense, the reader. Steve and Fred hold nothing back from their own lives and, while many of their experiences were difficult, they do a great job of refraining from too graphic while not shying back from the specifics of their struggles. This makes the reader feel as he can relate with the author--dealing in generalities is not an option when it comes to this topic, even if it is often uncomfortable to discuss. The book also brings in a lot of humor which is quite helpful at breaking the tension. Arterburn and Stoeker ask tough questions, fill their readers with the Word of God, and most importantly, leave the young man with the knowledge that he is not alone in his struggle. The ten guys in my small group have really opened up with one another and are determined to see a change in thier own life as well as the lives of their peers. Parents and youth workers: buy this book for your young men and get some dialogue going with them, you may be surprised at what you find out (then again, I hope you're not as you may have also struggled with these very issues). More importantly, talk to your young men about sex--where else would you want them to be learn about it? This book is a great follow-up and will address a whole assortment of issues that you may not feel comfortable covering or may not realize are there. Young men...it's time to make a change in your life and step into the fullness that God has for you in the area of your sexuality. It is a gift from God that we must valiantly protect and uphold--our integrity is on the line. Join the thousands of young men across the country and around the world in the battle to uphold your sexual purity. Starve the sumo!
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Summary: Real and Honest - Excellent if you're young and struggling
Review: I highly recommend this book if your young and struggling. I'm a 24 year old male training to be a youth pastor, and struggling with lust is very fraustrating to me. I've tried many times to clean it up on my own...but to no avail.
Reading "Every Young Man's Battle" was very helpful in helping me understand my struggles, and gave practical specific steps on how to guard against temptation and lust. The book was CLEARLY written by someone who's "been there" before us. It's straight-shooting, blunt, and real. And when your dealing with something as spiritually disabling as lust - you want advice that's gonna get results fast. God has done a great thing through these authors - I highly recommend this book!
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Summary: The Pro's and Con's of this Book from a sex addict
Review: If you are a youth minister than this is a good book for relating with the struggles that your teenagers are going through. Now, if you are looking for a book to give to your youth, you may want to check out "Not even a hint" from Joshua Harris. That book isn't as graphic and I don't think that you will be in danger of being pulled aside by someone's parent for giving their teenager a book on sexual temptation. Both books deal with the Godly way to address the situation but EYMB tends to send your thoughts through the gutter.
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Summary: An extremely practical and powerful book!
Review: This book includes simple, yet extremely practical and powerful techniques to guard your heart and mind from sexual temptation. The most helpful tips I found were the two key scripture verses the authors recommend to be your "sword" and "shield" when your eyes begin to roam. I have begun applying the techniques for the past few days and believe me...they work! This book is great for single guys, no matter what their age. Even though the language seems to be directed toward teen singles, it is great for us guys in midlife too! I found the book much more helpful for us singles than "Every Man's Battle". This is THE BEST book on the subject I have found! Get it...now!
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Summary: The Pro's and Con's of this Book from a sex addict
Review: This book is ideal for younger teenagers, under the age of 15, as it provides a ton of information on the consequences of things often begun at that age: pornography, masturbation, lust, etc. It is very likely that a kid who has only begun to do these things or hasn't begun to will be profoundly and succesfully effected by the in-depth discussions of this book on the results of sexual impurity. If the seed of impurity has only been newly planted, "Every Young Man's Battle" will unearth it before the roots of its lustful evils can grow deeper.
The book provides many citations from the Bible that deal with sexual impurity. Although people will complain that it contains explicit themes, what do you expect? This is a book that explores the harm and damage of sexual impurity: it is to be expected that such themes will need to be brought up. In fact, the attitude that this book shouldnt be read because it talks about masturbation, etc reflects the problem of parents mentioned in the book who didnt address these issues to the people who tell their stories of becoming sexually impure. It is something that must be addressed.
The authors share many experiences of others in their struggles and shows readers that they are not alone in their sexual impurity. Some of the stories, if ending in success of becoming chaste or maritally chaste, are inspiring. Overall the book is quite helpful.
However, as with most books, it is lacking some things. The book is written from a fundamentalist Christian perspective. If you don't want to hear about people being "saved" and "accepting Jesus" you will probably be annoyed in reading it. It will be helpful to have a faith in God when you read the book, but it is not needed because the authors claim that it is not God, but you, who will have to do the work of becoming pure. The book actually says that prayers are not very effective. I would suggest that the authors consider that prayers can be effective if they are said right: instead of people praying for God to come and wipe away their problems, pray for smaller things. The authors should have suggested concentrating on the smaller things of each day when it comes to prayers: praying that God will inspire you to stop, praying each day that he will help you for just that day (and doing this again and again every day), praying that God will reveal to you your mistakes (something few people do but which is very effective), praying that God will help you to view all women as being not objects for desire but important creations of God; etc, to that effect. It is rather disheartening that they suggest that prayer is not going to be as helpful as people think it will because they are wrong to say that!
There is a lot of information describing the problem, how it starts, how it progresses, the attitudes involved, what to think and not to think, etc. But not enough is suggested in stopping the problem. Thus, whereas the book is good for "Young men" it is not going to be 100% helpful to guys already habitually addicted to masturbation or porn. The book lacks a bibliography and supportive citations for information on such things as the chemical impact of masturbation, addiction to sex, oxytocin, etc. Rarely does the book even provide references to medical things. Sexual addiction carries with it chemical complications which make it very hard to just stop masturbation: like use of a drug, if masturbation is cut the person will have withdrawal effects biologically and the book doesnt really explore these issues.
Otherwise, the book is all in all still very helpful! I would STRONGLY SUGGEST to all readers of this book to also read "If you really loved me: 101 questions on sexual purity" by Jason Evert and "Real Love" by Mary Beth Bonacci. In addition to these book all of the information provided in them is an arsenol to strengthen anyone in the battle for sexual purity.
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Summary: Every Young Man
Review: This whole series is good. If you are a young man, read this, because it WILL relate to your life.
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