Are You the One for Me?

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Summary: A journey from heartbreak to self-understanding
Review: Although I have read a lot of self-help books, I usually scanned them for content, assumed I had mastered them, and put them away. I possess an MSW degree, and I am a writer who specializes in mental health issues, so I always thought that I "knew it all" when it came to understanding the dynamics of relationships. I thought I had figured out how and why I messed up my marriage, and where I had gone wrong with other relationships. Boy, was I mistaken! I had not even begun to fathom the patterns and complexities that led me to make so many poor decisions about men. This book helped me to put these issues into new perspective. I did all the exercises in the book meticulously, and read it thoroughly. It opened my eyes to things about myself I was unwilling to face, or that had simply escaped my attention. I have already avoided entering into some problematic relationships because I'm now aware of the "signals" that troubled men send out, and what these signals appeal to in me. I think I'm ready for a healthy relationship, and will know how to recognize one when it comes along.

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Summary: If you want things better, read Barbara
Review: As typical of Barbara DeAngelis' work, she has an insight to guide you as you evaluate your relationships and yourself. The book presents to you questions you should be asking and knowing. Then it is up to you to decide whether to put it to good use. If you are ready to make life better, then open your mind and learn. She puts forth the very questions you don't want to ask, but need to. I have attended several of Barbara's workshops a few years back and enjoy her books and tapes as a boost to what I learned. My quality of life has turned around and I no longer view myself as a victim. In this book, she guides me when I have questions and forces me to be honest with myself about my relationship. Not about who is right or wrong, but how it can work for or against my needs. This lady has more engery and love than anyone I ever met. She deeply cares and gives 100% of herself; and the only thing she wants is that you have the love in your life you want and deserve. One thing she taught me: when what you are hearing isn't comfortable, it is probably the thing you need to listen to the most. Keep up the good work and thank you for caring and wanting to share love. Keep making love work.

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Summary: Her book is a must-read.
Review: Barbara De Angelis is the greatest. I had watched her infomercial late at night and thought that some of the things she pointed out did make some sense. I started to read some of her books during the ups and downs of my life. Those prinples that she taught in the book helped me very much in my relationships. Not only did I learn how to end a bad relationship and move on with my life, I also learned how to have a healthy relationship with someone who knows how to respect, appreciate and love me. Now I am in a great marriage with my wonderful husband, Dale. I would highly recommend her books to anyone who is searching for a healthy, loving and everlasting relationship.

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Summary: A Great Emotional Balancer Book
Review: This book came into my life when I truly needed a word of wisdom. If you seem to keep being drawn to the same personality types in a mate/partner/companion and then the relationship ends in the same pattern...your loss of respect for the person, being used emotionally and mentally, etc..Then this is the book for you. It helped me emotionally step back from an enormous hurt in my life and find balance again. De Angelis takes you thru a series of questions...you have to be competely honest to yourself in answering... you will be amazed at what you discover about why you choose the people you do. PS. I have been married 29 years. I wasn't looking for a new mate when I read this book. I was just needing some wisdom and boy oh boy did I find it in this book. This is not about having a business arrangment like relationsip, BUT how to keep a deep almost unrecognised emotion from taking you towards the type of personality that is just plain wrong for you.

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Summary: The manual on how to fall in love with the right person
Review: Very complete, great checklists. Barbara has taught me how to identify if a relationship / person has the potential to be what I want from the beginning and not fall in love with the wrong person. This has saved me a lot of time and heartache in dating. I'm so much more secure of what I want, and ready to end a relationship that isn't working, instead of hoping it will work some day. I've raised my standards on relationships so much higher now, before, I'd get stuck in relationships that had 30 - 50% of what I wanted and hope I could work out the rest. Now, after the book, I will only settle for a relationship that is at least 70 - 80% of what I want (that's a relationship where it's fun to accept the differences and work out the rest)

Most important, I've learned that falling in love with the wrong person is a waste of my time and energy.

People downgrade her for her 5 divorces, but the truth is, without them and the other failed relationships that she candily shares the learnings with us, it wouldn't have given her the knowledge to write the book. She's clearly a person who has learned from her mistakes and is teaching us not to repeat them.

Thanks, Barbara

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Summary: Insightful
Review: When I bought this book, I thought it was a book based on biblical scriptures. I quickly found that it wasn't however, the material in the book is excellent. I found myself looking at me, my past and seeing why I was getting what I was getting in past relationships. A lot of time we blame our partner but we must also look at ourselves, we need to be more selective with whom we allow to enter our lives.

This book is a good resource tool. It allows you to look at yourself and determine what to (and not to) look for in a potential mate.

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Summary: This is the cure to the "Poor Me" Syndrome!!!
Review: Wow! Finally!!! This book makes common sense look easy, but apparently it is not! I am a 25 year young single woman. Four out of five of my closest friends got married. Four out of those four ended or are ending in divorce. Not a good track record. I always end up helping to pick up the pieces. Now, I have help and wisdom beyond my words!

Barbara is not as brutal and self righteous as Dr. Laura or wordy and fluffy as John Gray. She is direct, intriguing, honest, and helpful to all--married, divorced, single, male, female, all ethnicity's, ages, and sexual orientations.

This book is great for 1. Single people looking for love. 2. People who keep making bad choices in relationships. 3. Divorced people who still don't understand why. 4. And people considering marriage.

The exercises really dig in and have you answer the really tough questions that everyone is afraid to ask you--and you are afraid to ask yourself. And it is the only self help book that does not revolve around religion and it does not condemn any lifestyles. It caters to the individual. That's something new!

The ladies that are divorcing or divorced now know why and they no longer pull the "Victim Card." The ladies looking for love now make better judgements. I, also, purchased this book for 3 of my co-workers who are all planning to marry within the next year. They have a oral contract with me and each other to complete this book with their future wives and husband as well as go through pre-marital counseling. No excuses.

I mean business and so does Barbara!!! Marriages should be built to last! There is no "Poor Me" in a marriage. Everything you need to know will come out sooner or later. Don't waste time! $5.20 is nothing compared to the cost of being a victim.

Thanks, Barbara!!!