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Summary: Refreshingly Frank / not for men only
Review: In a world filled with books encouraging young people to lead a pure life, and then speaking in generalities that leave them with many unanswerd questions, this book is refreshingly frank, direct and realistic. I had been searching a long time for a book like this for my son. If I had had this information as a boy, I could have avoided a lot of stupid mistakes. As a male, I can say these authors speak the truth. It is a must-read for boys attempting to remain pure. It is also a must-read for mothers of boys and for girls who have reached dating age. This book provides women and girls with an invaluable window into the nature of male sexuality.
The authors are to be congratulated for addressing the "M word" in a way no one else will.
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Summary: Girls, better read this!
Review: My Dad bought this book for my younger brother (14). After my Dad read it, he realized that it would give me a chance to understand how males are challanged in their pursuit of purity. It really blew my mind to see how guys think! Unbelievable! I think all girls should read this book so they will not be in the dark. They also need to read it so they can help their boyfriend or husband seek purity.Once you read it, you will never leave your copy of Victoria's Secret or Elle laying around where your boyfriend or brother can get his hands on it! Buy it! Read it! Give copies to your friends!
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Summary: Coarse and Somewhat Disrespectful
Review: Stoeker and Arterburn want young men to have only respectful attitudes towards women. And yet they use terms like 'rack' and 'tush' when describing parts of the female anatomy. Another coarse comment is their description of the male sex organ as the 'one-eyed snake.' Is it really appropriate to inadvertently tempt young men in a book about how to overcome sexual temptations? And for some reason the authors believe adultery is the exact same thing as lusting. It's not, and I can back it up scripturally. Jesus said that if a man looks at a woman lustfully he has already committed adultery with her IN HIS HEART. By equating adultery with lusting the authors are omitting the "in his heart" segment of the verse. The reason this is important to note is because many men struggling with this problem may throw up their hands if they succumb to lust and say, "Well I've lusted in my heart, I might as well sleep with a prostitute." This isn't rocket science folks. Jesus didn't say if you lust for a woman, then you have committed adultery. Masturbation and lusting doesn't lead to pregnancy or disease, but adultery can. I hope you can all tell the difference between lusting and actual intercourse. God certainly can. I wonder if the authors also believe Jesus thinks being angry at someone is the same as killing them.
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Summary: Rename this book
Review: The book might help you get over porn addiction but it will certainly help you become a self-righteous fundamentalist. In one instance the author chastises a friend for NOT noticing the sexual innuendos in a movie. So who went home justified? The Pharisee or the Publican? He also blames women for wearing short skirts.
This book, like religion, will make your life more difficult and happiness elusive. I regret buying this book.
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Summary: Solution and not prevention
Review: This book and it's pair (Every man's battle) are both great blessings. The offer a solution for sins that seemed hopeless. Ever felt like you've fallen into sin too terrible to speak of? This is the book to help with that. However, this book is really for those who have already fallen, already lost their sexual innocence. If you havn't yet (& God bless you) this isn't the book for you. Stick to the more traditional literature, since this goes into strong graphic testimonials and such and could do more harm than good.
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Summary: An extremely practical and powerful book!
Review: This book includes simple, yet extremely practical and powerful techniques to guard your heart and mind from sexual temptation. The most helpful tips I found were the two key scripture verses the authors recommend to be your "sword" and "shield" when your eyes begin to roam. I have begun applying the techniques for the past few days and believe me...they work! This book is great for single guys, no matter what their age. Even though the language seems to be directed toward teen singles, it is great for us guys in midlife too! I found the book much more helpful for us singles than "Every Man's Battle". This is THE BEST book on the subject I have found! Get it...now!
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Summary: The Pro's and Con's of this Book from a sex addict
Review: This book is ideal for younger teenagers, under the age of 15, as it provides a ton of information on the consequences of things often begun at that age: pornography, masturbation, lust, etc. It is very likely that a kid who has only begun to do these things or hasn't begun to will be profoundly and succesfully effected by the in-depth discussions of this book on the results of sexual impurity. If the seed of impurity has only been newly planted, "Every Young Man's Battle" will unearth it before the roots of its lustful evils can grow deeper.
The book provides many citations from the Bible that deal with sexual impurity. Although people will complain that it contains explicit themes, what do you expect? This is a book that explores the harm and damage of sexual impurity: it is to be expected that such themes will need to be brought up. In fact, the attitude that this book shouldnt be read because it talks about masturbation, etc reflects the problem of parents mentioned in the book who didnt address these issues to the people who tell their stories of becoming sexually impure. It is something that must be addressed.
The authors share many experiences of others in their struggles and shows readers that they are not alone in their sexual impurity. Some of the stories, if ending in success of becoming chaste or maritally chaste, are inspiring. Overall the book is quite helpful.
However, as with most books, it is lacking some things. The book is written from a fundamentalist Christian perspective. If you don't want to hear about people being "saved" and "accepting Jesus" you will probably be annoyed in reading it. It will be helpful to have a faith in God when you read the book, but it is not needed because the authors claim that it is not God, but you, who will have to do the work of becoming pure. The book actually says that prayers are not very effective. I would suggest that the authors consider that prayers can be effective if they are said right: instead of people praying for God to come and wipe away their problems, pray for smaller things. The authors should have suggested concentrating on the smaller things of each day when it comes to prayers: praying that God will inspire you to stop, praying each day that he will help you for just that day (and doing this again and again every day), praying that God will reveal to you your mistakes (something few people do but which is very effective), praying that God will help you to view all women as being not objects for desire but important creations of God; etc, to that effect. It is rather disheartening that they suggest that prayer is not going to be as helpful as people think it will because they are wrong to say that!
There is a lot of information describing the problem, how it starts, how it progresses, the attitudes involved, what to think and not to think, etc. But not enough is suggested in stopping the problem. Thus, whereas the book is good for "Young men" it is not going to be 100% helpful to guys already habitually addicted to masturbation or porn. The book lacks a bibliography and supportive citations for information on such things as the chemical impact of masturbation, addiction to sex, oxytocin, etc. Rarely does the book even provide references to medical things. Sexual addiction carries with it chemical complications which make it very hard to just stop masturbation: like use of a drug, if masturbation is cut the person will have withdrawal effects biologically and the book doesnt really explore these issues.
Otherwise, the book is all in all still very helpful! I would STRONGLY SUGGEST to all readers of this book to also read "If you really loved me: 101 questions on sexual purity" by Jason Evert and "Real Love" by Mary Beth Bonacci. In addition to these book all of the information provided in them is an arsenol to strengthen anyone in the battle for sexual purity.
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Summary: This book is horrible.
Review: This book is just supporting the type of mindlessness that christianity has been provocating for the past 2000 years. This book is an attempt to seperate man from his own humanity. Apparently the authors do not realize that humans have a biological need to have sex, and to supress that urge is unnatural. It is just this sort of thought control that makes christians ignorant puppets who will do whatever the man behind the pulpit tells them, or whatever they feel "god" is telling them to do. It's books like this that stunt healthy growth in young people, and I personally am glad that I don't buy into this sort of merde.
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Summary: Great Christian Gift from Father to Son!
Review: This book is the authors' extensive revision of their earlier work "Every Man's Battle." The initial book was not very helpful or accurate for older, married men. This book however, is right on target for the needs and situation of young, single men in today's sexually-charged society. The theme of this work is obviously maintaining sexual purity. The authors define authentic manhood from a biblical perspective, and then offer strategies for young men to achieve it. Substantial attention is given to the practice of self-satisfaction and sexual release, with a commendable mixture of promoting absolute abstinence while at the same time offering empathetic encouragement. The authors then present several techniques to channel visual activity and mental thought processes in a godly direction. Perhaps the best parts of this book, unique to this version, are the two final sections. The first section addresses sexual honor, giving a young man the perspective of a young woman's father. It also provides insight as to what young Christian women really seek in a man, which is far different than what most young Christian men would think. It then closes with a challenge to live a life that is sexually pure. The second section briefly addresses young men struggling with homosexual desires, encouraging them to use the same principles to achieve biblical, heterosexual purity. I recommend this book highly to Christian fathers with teenage sons, youth pastors, and young single men. If you or a young man close to you is struggling, then this volume will undoubtedly be a great help. This small investment is sure to yield huge dividends!
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Summary: Great Book
Review: This is probably one of the best books on sexual temptation. It gives practical advice of how to over come the battle. It is very straight forward and to the point. It has definitely helped me and I have now made a "convenent with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl." Job 31:1 Get this book!
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