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Summary: Silly, poorly written, and full of bad advice
Review: A poor, poor choice for young men trying to find solid advice on building healthy relationships with the opposite sex. This book attempts to replace Victorian standards of gender relationships with the words of the Bible, to create what the authors deem "modern day Christian values." The authors utter lack of knowledge about the Bible leads to their pitiful interpretation of Biblical principles concerning sex and sexual conduct. This lack of knowledge is the foundation of the problems with the book's premise. (For example, the authors hack on avoiding "sexual immorality." To a first-century Jew of the Bible like Paul, the phrase "sexual immorality" would include any physical contact with a woman not a man's wife, including shaking hands, and any contact whatsoever with a woman who was menstruating, even if it was his wife.)
The badly done interpretation is only part of the failings of this book, however. While preaching total purity in regards to pornography of all kinds, the authors present some unconscious raciness of their own: when describing his "decadent past" one of the authors lovingly relates in graphic detail the Playboy centerfolds he once sinfully perused ("I can still see the nude Playboy model cloaked in a clear plastic raincoat as the shower cascaded over her...every detail, right down to the curvature of her spreading thighs are imprinted on my brain"). Imprinted indeed- perhaps a little too much. It's almost as if the author's intent is to titillate their young audience.
The recommendation that a man should ask a father's permission before proposing to his daughter is equally inane, and reflects the author's true attitudes about women echoed through the entire work: that they are property to be owned and controlled by men.
One is unlikely to find anything helpful in this book, unless the intention is to shame a young reader into the belief that his normal sexual thoughts and desires are God's little trick to send us all to hell.
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Summary: Powerful
Review: After the Bible, this book is the best thing that a young man can and should read. I am 16 years old, and this book gave me powerful ammunition against the temptations of living in an "anything goes" sexually saturated culture. I beg you, do not be swayed by those who claim that this book is "way off" or poorly written. Sadly, many Christian leaders and advisors have begun to lower their standards of sexual purity. The Bible is very clear, no hint of sexual immorality may be present. This sounds like a tall order, but believe me you will be surprised at what a few simple steps will accomplish. As for the claims that the authors don't understand the biblical meaning of sexual immorality, they are rubbish. It is sad that people would attempt to discount the book's meaning by saying that Paul's difinition of immorality included many arcane Jewish practices that have no relevance today. It was Paul himself that wrote in his many epistles about the importance of realizing the freedom from the ancient customs of the Jewish law that we now posess in Jesus Christ. Basic Bible study will yield that knowledge. Also, the claims that the authors are in fact tempting readers by recounting their past experiences are equally invalid. Whoever makes that statement must not understand the relief that goes along with knowing that you are not alone, nor are you demon posessed for having the desires that you do. Teens and ministers alike, read this book. You owe it to yourself and your relationship with Jesus Christ. God bless you in your future walk with Christ.
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Summary: Life Changing
Review: Amazing book! Though graphic at times this gets to the heart of every young man's life. I couldn't put this book down knowing and realizing how much this applied to my life. The authors provide great advice to win the war against sexual immorality. There isn't another book that makes you feel like you aren't the only one struggling with the issues in the book. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone less than High School but the earlier a teen can read this the better.
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Summary: Finally, straight talk from real people
Review: Arterburn & Stoeker do an excellent job of talking straight to the single male. Though the book is entitled Every Young Man's Battle this book deals with the very real sexual struggles of every man that is single. I would highly recommend this book to all men ages, High School on up. The book finally gives straight talk on the issues of masturbation, soft porn, the wandering eyes, and the issues of lust in our culture. In a world where sexual images and humor crowd our airwaves from radio to television this is a needed tool to stay the battle. This is not just a book on staying pure, but one that gives real resons for trying to do so. Testimonies of men who have struggled, fallen, and then regained their purity are given throughout this book. I would encourage every man to read this book, and encourage you to buy extras to share with others who may also be struggling to remain pure.
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Summary: Did anybody stop to think ... ?
Review: Did anybody reading or writing this book stop and think: "Perhaps sex is NATURAL?" What a novel idea!
We are animal, just like everything else on this forsaken little planet, and our physical purpose is to reproduce. However, we as creative, thinking, individuals have a seperate purpose, which is happiness. But how is beating yourself for being imperfect anything BUT detrimental to your short life here on Earth? That's the real thing you need to be worried about: right now. Don't be stupid, don't get high school girls pregnant, and remember, an excess of ANYTHING (including sexual practices) is unhealthy. By everything, I mean an excess of TV, of religion, of food ... etc. But we has human being have a right to enjoy ourselves, and sexuality should be simply enjoyed and accepted ... not exploited, not surpressed.
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Summary: A Must Buy
Review: Fellas, if you're dealing with this stuff, you need to buy this book. Yes, you NEED to buy it. It has been helping me out a lot and I finally feel like I have a fighting chance against this battle. If you want Godly, biblical and personal based advice and help, this is for you. You can win, and this book helps show the way.
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Summary: At last! An honest discussion for Christian sexuality!
Review: Honest to goodness discussion regarding sexuality from a Christian man's point of view! Amazing. The authors are evangelical in nature, encouraging readers to integrate sexuality and faith in Jesus. As a youth leader, we have already used this in several discussions in an effort to help our guys feel free to discuss and be free to speak their minds. It is very readable, and could even be used for a group study. Our students need this! This is not a perfect book, sometimes it feels as though there are many broad generalizations. However, it is frank in its content, not glossing over important issues, as so many "Christian" books on sexuality seem to do. I respect the authors for thier work.
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Summary: Well... Their heart was in the right place but......
Review: I admire Steve and Fred's honesty, and I rejoice in their own success in battling sexual sin, but there method of approaching this subject I believe wasn't helpful at all. They got quite crude at times in language, and even sensuous in their discussion of their past sins, and ultimately I had to put the book away because it was just too graphic. I was extremely disappointed to have to do so, because this is a subject that must be dealt with, and truly is a struggle for teenagers and I know this personally. There were times when the book took on almost a confessional aspect to it, as though fred and Steve were confessing their past sexual sins to us the reader just so we would know them. It was nice that they saw it to be so important to let the reader know that where he or even she struggles is where they themselves have been before, but the detail was too much. There are stories of one night stands in which the author states that he slipped out of his clothes and into bed with some girl, and blatant description of certain women that he has lusted over and what the particular image was that caused him to lust. This book became a topic of prayer for me that I would read it and not begin to lust after the images they painted in my head while reading, and finally I put it away because I couldn't. Never fear though Joshua Harris has just released a book called Not Even a Hint or something like that that deals with this same subject in a "PG-rated" way. I have ordered myself a copy and expect it to be quite good as his other books have been.
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Summary: Excellent book for teenagers
Review: I bought this book for my 13 years old son in order to initiate an open discussion with him about sexuality, lust and purity. He was at first a little bit embarrased about the quiet graphic chapters dealing with masturbation, but some talking and further reading of this marvelous book with my son permitted us to pray together and find some practical solutions in order to allow him to live purely his christian teen life. The book covers all major aspects of male sexuality and is one of the few books I know that gives some realy great and useful advice to help any teen to fight his sinful sexual urges. A fantastic book for any parent (mom or dad) that want to help his teen to live a pure life.
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Summary: not for every young man
Review: I bought this book for my 14 yr. old son. I was disappointed to see that the authors use titilating language to describe their own experiences of the past. I definitely think this is inappropriate for my son. My husband (who has admittedly dealth with pornographic issues)agreed that the language used was much too strong and tempting. I would like to have seen the authors try to achieve the same goal without all the vivid descriptions of their experiences. I believe it's enough to say, "I've been there." Using alluring adjectives to describe where you've been is not always the best way to accomplish keeping others from the darkness. If you choose to get this book, take heed. My son won't be reading it by my recommendation.
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