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Summary: For the very daring and fearless single woman
Review: I give this book five stars because I think it was well written and easy to read. I think it covers a topical issue and will be a bestseller. The writer comes across as very straight forward and sincere. She tells you up front that if you are going to follow her steps and be successful you need to put all your time, energy and money into finding a husband. She does not outline a step without giving practical tips on how to take action. There is one section with tips covering from the hair to the toenail. The questions and answers at the end were very good. She knows that the average woman is going to think these steps have elements of desperation. Which woman wants to come across as desperate? The writer spends time dealing with this issue and assuring the readers that they will not come across to friends, family, and associates as desperate. I liked the concept of developing your own personal brand. I disliked the idea of writing everyone in your address book and Rolodex and asking them to help you in the quest for a husband. I disliked the concept of an Exit Interview conducted by one of your friends. I don't think many women will follow the steps verbatim. You have to be bold and fearless to adopt these 15 steps as a way of life.
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Summary: A Guy's Perspective
Review: Hmmmmm....isn't attraction between two people the stuff 'between' the lines? Rachel has given us a book with lots of lines, but has done her readers a disservice by underplaying why two people are attracted and successfully stay together. Relationships aren't about the packaging. They are about a resonance of many things, mostly values. This isn't at the top of the agenda in an advertising agency branding brainstorm. If I can put a male perspective in here, a woman's character sparkles more brightly than her necklace, dress, or BMW. If you want to attract the right guy, read on. BE WARM, BE HAPPY
radiate warmth by BEING a warmer more compassionate person (guys want to know you can love them, as well as the kids). Smile at guys when they look at you (guys won't approach you if you throw feminazi daggers around). Simply saying "Hi" with a smile when a guy looks at you is powerful stuff. If you meet a guy who seems angry, don't condemn him; pour out the good vibes and positivity. Understand he is hurting a bit in a competitive world. BE WISE, HAVE PURPOSE
Recognise the value of time- be a good organiser and planner.
Sit down and work out what life is all about to you, what you believe in. Try and reconcile whether your values help you make sense of poverty in Africa, an innocent pedestrian being turned into a paraplegic by a drunk driver. If you find all this too confronting, then you are shallow and naive, or just timid and fragile.
Educate yourself about money and budgeting. Guys appreciate a woman who knows the difference between appreciating and depreciating assets. Guys believe retail therapy is for emotional cripples, especially if you are over 35.
Prioritise understanding human nature, knowing when to be compassionate, and when to give a guy a 'kick in the bum' reality check. BE PREDICTABLE
Yeah alright already, women are always right. Actually, guys don't believe this. They believe spoilt little daddy's girls are always right. Real women over 35 are more sensible about not letting their hormones turn their brains into mush. Emotional fickleness kills relationships. Deal with your hormones girls.
If you say you are going to do something, do it. BE HEALTHY
Contrary to the PC Brigade's PR campaign, guys prefer slim healthy women. If you are obese, you ain't dealing with your stressors. Which means you do not know what your strengths and weaknesses are.
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Summary: But why?
Review: The strategy is perhaps useful, but I think the author forgot the most important part--in order to find a spouse and have a successful relationship, the focus cannot be on yourself 100% of the time! What you have to "market" are genuine love and concern for someone else, whose interests have to be put ahead of your own, many, many times. If you cannot commit to that, you will find a partner, but you will not keep him/her.
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Summary: In my humble opinion....
Review: This book is herendous. I bought it a few weeks ago, read the first half of it in about 1/2 hour and returned it to Barnes and Noble. Maybe it didn't apply to me since I am only 34. It states the obvious, and is written in real layman terms. Just my opinion....
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Summary: Being at the right place at the right time
Review: This book is excellent because if you follow the plan, you will eventually find yourself in the right pool of people and face to face with someone who is good for you. However, if you do not make the most of it and sabotage the opportunity (which most people do) you will find yourself back at square one with a heartache. I recommend this book but in addition, I recommend Optimal Thinking: How to Be Your Best Self to show you how to eliminate self-sabotage, be your best regardless of any circumstance and make the most of any situation.
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Summary: a man's view
Review: My mother bought this for my sister (who is over 35, as am I). I thought it would be useful for me to read it since I might like to find a wife at some point (although right now, as of October 2003, I am getting over some stuff and am not ready to get married right away.) And I thought it would be useful to see if anyone is using the tactics in this book on me. I spotted at least three of Ms Greenwald's tactics being used on me, but nothing very exciting. As far as I can tell, no one is plotting to get married to me right now. First, some women do send polite refusals to my online dating emails, as recommended in the book. (Ms Greenwald's reason for actually bothering to respond to emails from unattractive men is to create the possibility of an unsuitable suitor being moved to recommend you to one of his friends who does meet your criteria--- as if any self-respecting man who cares about his friends' happiness would do such a thing!) Second, my ex did once ask me out to dinner at the last moment (while she was ex, not while she was my partner) at the last moment to test my spontaneity. She came right out and said, "I was testing you to see if you would do something spontaneous." (I do not know if she has actually read the book, but her action came right out of its pages. Ms Greenwald recommends testing a man for spontaneity and other qualities throughout the dating process. Ms Greenwald actually recommends calling the man on Thursday and demanding that he takes you on a romantic trip to a bed and breakfast that very weekend--- even though men hate staying at bed and breakfasts.) And thirdly I have noticed women waiting for me to make the first move, as recommended in the book (because making the first move would allegedly strike the man as unfeminine.) These are not very positive comments, but I will say that there are some good commonsense ideas in here. The author's basic message is that a woman has to go out into the world and make her presence known if she wants to find a mate, because that is where her future husband is--- out there in the world. That is not bad advice, and the basic outlines of her plan are sound--- even though some of the details of her plan give me the creeps, and I would be a little (maybe more than a little) frightened if any woman actually used this plan on me.
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Summary: A new way of thinking about dating
Review: I saw the Author, Rachel Greenwald, on The Today Show and was so impressed with her pitch about her book that I went out and bought a copy for myself right away, even though I'm married.
And after reading it, I'm glad I did. I think it's great and as a result I bought two more copies and shipped them right away to a single cousin and a single friend. I found the author's no-nonsense, but still positive approach to dating really refreshing and insightful. I think she's tackled one of the biggest challenges for single women over 35 (and I was a single women over 35 before I married at 36, so I can strongly relate to the challenges of dating after 35) - how to find potential mates. What's so innovative about Ms. Greenwald's approach is her application of sound professional strategies and tactics to the personal side of a single woman's life. I think having guidelines to work with can make such a difference and really give a single woman the confidence and framework to put effort into changing her single status. After reading the book, all I could think was "why didn't I ever try that?" and "that makes so much sense". The ideas in themselves may not be that new, but their presentation is. I'd recommend this book to all single women!
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Summary: A Romance Coach Reviews "Find A Husband After 35"
Review: I'm a CyberRomance Coach (www.KathrynBLord.com), and
wrote this review of Rachel Greenwood's book for my
enewsletter of 10/1/2003: A couple of weeks ago, I heard from a reader about this
new book by Rachel Greenwald "Find a Husband after 35."
Despite the trite (but definitely clear) title,
Greenwald has some new things to say to single people,
no matter what their age or gender. I read the book in practically one sitting -- not
because it was short or an easy read (neither), but
because Greenwald's angle was so interesting. The
author has an M. B. A. from Harvard, and uses a strict
business and marketing approach to finding a mate.
She is "no-nonsense" -- doesn't care about why one is
still single, puts up with no excuses for getting real
and getting moving. Her Program (and she calls it that
- The Program) is all about action. Greenwald's first of fifteen steps "to find a husband
in 12 to 18 months" is making finding a mate your #1 priority. And Greenwald MEANS #1. She writes that
if a woman is not married, wants to be, and is over 35,
it's an emergency and needs to be treated as such. She writes on about the importance of setting a budget
(she recommends 10 to 20 percent of your net income),
paying close attention to packaging -- "creating you
best look," "branding" -- not the painful hot iron to
skin type, advertising, online marketing (Internet
dating), on and on. Most made terrific sense. But my teeth really got set on edge with the
"Telemarketing" chapter. Ooo-eee! There's got to be
legislation coming to stop THAT one. This book does the very best in the chapter on "Market
Expansion." Greenwald does a great job in helping the
reader question going for a particular "type" when
looking for a mate. She encourages vastly expanding
the criteria one is willing to consider, telling
yourself and others merely that you are looking for
"someone wonderful," and keeping in mind that the
package may end up looking far different from what you
had fantasized. Women and men of all ages could
benefit from reading just pages 68 - 80. The clearest message from Greenwald's book is the need
for focus and action. I frankly have no doubt if you
diligently followed her marketing steps (and she even
has a way of proceeding if The Program does not seem
to be "working"), you WOULD be partnered within 18
months. What's impossible to imagine is that you would NOT be. But "The Program" is not for the faint-hearted or the
ambivalent. It's hard work, driven, and success-
oriented. Reading this book may help you assess
how really committed you are to find a mate. Greenwald's three "Priority Questions" are: 1. Is finding a husband the most important goal in
your life right now? 2. Except for something illegal or immoral, would
you do anything to find a husband? 3. Are you committed to devoting the required time, energy, and money to find your husband? So, what do you think? Is your mate search REALLY a
priority for you? If not, maybe that's part of the
problem.
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Summary: Toss aside the games & The Rules, get with The Program
Review: Many of us who have achieved tremendous success in our professional lives, have found considerable failure in our personal lives. Little did we know that the tools that have served us so well in the development of our careers, are so well suited to our achievement of success in our relationships. Mrs. Greenwald draws from her own experience as a well-educated, accomplished professional, to present The Program using the tools and language to which many of us are accustomed. Mrs. Greenwald's Program shows us how to narrow the variables that generally overwhelm us in the dating process. Through The Program, dating is much more simplified and as a result, much more enjoyable and satisfying. This book is for those of us who are ready to achieve success in our personal lives, like we have in our professional ones. This book is for those of us who are no longer interested in "boy toys" but rather in a life partner. This book is for those who are ready to put away the games, and get with The Program.
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Summary: She has a good idea but it still needs refining
Review: I am a dating coach based out of Chicago (www.americasdatingcoach.com). She is basically saying what I've been saying for years. The problem is that no one is going to take the time out of their all ready busy lives and that much money to go on a search for a husband. I basically say a lot of the same things that she does except that I tailor make programs for you that are both fun and effective. I have also suggested taking classes but I think that these things should be more interactive. I recommend this book to my clients as a primer but not as a workbook. Think about the ideas but I don't think that anyone will follow through on such a program. It's like asking a person who is not an entrepenuer to open their own business. There are easier ways to find a husband than going through a program that looks like it will take 60 hours a week and a ton of money.
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