Rating: Summary: Dear Mr Carnegie... Review: Dear Mr Carnegie,I appreciate the considerable time and research you have taken to complete this book (thank-you for making 15 mllion people superficial yes men). Its worldwide success is surely testament to your wisdom, perception and penmanship (according to your book i should be lavish in my praise prior to condemnation). I may be wrong, in fact i frequently am (however less so than you) but i (you) have some minor (major) reservations (character flaws) about your book (which you have so kindly propagated): 1: KNOW THE LAW OF SINCERITY-- A PERSONS LEVEL OF SINCERITY IS INVERSELY PROPORTIONAL TO THE NUMBER OF TIMES THEY ARE TOLD TO BE SINCERE. 2: IF SOMEONE IS TOLD TO SMILE MORE OFTEN, HOW CAN THEY EVER SMILE AGAIN WITH SINCERITY? 3: WHY DO YOU CONTINUALLY OFFER BAND AID SOLUTIONS TO SOCIAL PROBLEMS THAT MAY GO BEYOND ONES PUBLIC IMAGE INTO THE INNER DEPTHS OF CHARACTER AND PRINCIPLES? 4: WHAT MOTIVATED YOU TO MAKE THE WORLD A MORE FALLACIOUS PLACE? 5: WHY NOT COME UP WITH SOME ORIGINAL MATERIAL? "TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED", "DON'T JUDGE A PERSON UNTIL YOU HAVE WALKED A MILE IN THEIR MOCCASSINS" HAVE BEEN DONE FAR MORE ELOQUENTLY THAN YOU BY PEOPLE FAR MORE INTELLIGENT THAN YOU. I rather enjoyed your book (YOUR BOOK STINKED LIKE THE FART OF A THOUSAND HEIFERS) yours sincerly (and i do mean sincerely) phlegm213
Rating: Summary: A must read for EVERYBODY Review: This is the greatest book I have ever read. I have read many books on personal relations and this is by far the best. Just from reading this my self-confidence raised dramatically. It has changed the way I view the world, and has already saved at least one of my relationships. I only finished it last week, but I already know that these skills will be priceless for me, and will make me more money than any other skill. Each book is more than worth it's weight in gold. It's worth the weight of all of the books in all editions combined, I am not exaggerating.
Rating: Summary: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Review: This book is a treasure chest of advice on how to motivate people. There are many examples of strategies/approaches that have been proven to work in a multiplicity of situations at work, at home and in societal contexts. The work emphasizes important aspects of human nature that are not taught in texts. The author provides many examples including a letter written by President Abraham Lincoln to General Meade which was never sent. On reflection, the President decided against being too critical in a situation far-removed from the White House. Carnegie stresses that every person cherishes the desire to be great amongst a motley mixture of wishes. We all want health, food, sleep, money, an afterlife, sexual gratification, the well-being of family and a feeling of importance. Above else, the desire to feel important is the distinguishing characteristic between man and the animals. In addition, the author describes the importance of listening to another's viewpoint before formulating an alternative argument. This is critical for a salesperson. Too many salespeople try to sell based upon what they think people need . The art of selling is to listen to the customer's explanation of what he/she needs and wants before making a pitch. An important personal trait is to listen to other people rather than initially trying to make them like you. In addition, people like to be called by their first name. The more you find out about a person-the more you can relate to them on a personal level and gain their interest.
Another important rule is to always make the other person feel important in any type of relationship. "In a nutshell, there are six ways to make people like you: RULE 1: Become genuinely interested in others RULE 2: Smile RULE 3: Remember that a man's (person's) name is to him the sweetest and most important sound RULE 4: Be a good listener RULE 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest RULE 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely" Another important aspect of dealing with people involves calling attention to people's shortcomings and errors indirectly. The author provides a detailed analysis of how Roosevelt made appointments in consultation with the local political bosses. He asked for input. He rejected as many candidates as necessary until the bosses submitted a qualified candidate. Then he would thank the political bosses for their input. In this way, he pushed through many types of reforms which otherwise would have been impossible. Lastly, Carnegie lists 9 important ways to get people to do things without offending them: RULE 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation. RULE 2: Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly. RULE 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. RULE 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. RULE 5: Let the other man save his face. RULE 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. RULE 7: Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. RULE 8: Use encouragement. Rule 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. For wives, Carnegie advises to: 1. Give your husband complete freedom in business or career matters. 2. Make the home attractive. 3. Vary the menu 4. Have an intelligent grasp of the spouse's business to discuss it intelligently 5. Meet financial problems maturely 6. Make a special effort to get along with relatives 7. Dress with an eye to your spouse's favorite colors 8. Compromise little differences of opinion 9. Make an effort to learn games your spouse likes to play 10. Keep track of the day's news and interesting things to talk about This book will complement any formal education -no matter how extensive. It should be required reading for anyone who manages people. It is also quite helpful in managing personal and family business. This book has stood the test of time. It is as priceless today as a half century or more ago. People spend thousands of dollars on motivational seminars and courses. The essence of any motivational course is explained concisely by Carnegie in this work. It is well worth purchasing and re-reading when time affords.
Rating: Summary: common senses Review: These principles mentioned in the book are just merely the basic traits of every human being. Mr. Carnegie simply pointed out these common senses that everyone possesses but often does not recognize and utilize. The world would be so much better and more peaceful if every one of us could have utilized these common senses. Why not, ehm? Thanks for your time.
Rating: Summary: I recommend it to anyone- with friends or no friends! Review: This book will make you really think about about how to treat people. I think the best advice he gave that really hit home for me is to not criticize people, and to know how to be critical without hurting other people. I personally don't have a problem making friends, but I think we all (whether popular or not) should (from time-to-time) brush up on our people skills, it doesn't hurt, it's a process of growing. He uses a lot of historical characters to make his points clear, so those who like a little history can also benefit from this book. However, I also highly recommend, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey, the combination of the two will definately be effective. Happy reading!
Rating: Summary: Great Book! Review: I love all Dale Carnegie's book but this book was especially interesting. I read the book when I was a kid and still now I love to read it over and over again! This book is a help to everybody. Those who have many friends and those who don't have any. I think this book can be a good tool for sales people too!
Rating: Summary: It can change your life! Review: This is a great companion to the book. It is great for planes and long car rides, when it's nice to sit back and passively listen. This is the oldest "self-help" book I know of, and still one of the finest, and I believe it is the best for the information it covers. However, it isn't one you can read one time and then forget. You have to read it over and over, really internalizing the information. It is well worth the effort, believe me! And the price is nothing compared to some more modern self help courses, but the results with these age-old techniques for dealing with people are nothing short of fantastic. If you do even some of the things this book suggests, you will have a more successful marriage, a more successful career, and your neighbors will like you a lot more. It is just as simple as that. This stuff is very basic, and it really works, and most people don't do it. If you find people don't like you sometimes and can't figure out why, this book will probably come in handy. If you have personality "differences" at work, a few select techniques can turn an enemy into a staunch supporter. If you are in sales, consulting, or any other profession that has you working with customers, you need this. If you want to get along better with your mate, this will help you. If you live in a makeshift shack in Montana and don't see people all that much, and your nickname is "Crazy Ted," you probably don't need this book unless you are considering a lifestyle change. My advice - get the book and the CDs. Read the book. Reread it. Use the CDs over time to listen to various chapters when you have some free time. It is amazing how following such simple advice can almost effortlessly change your life, almost overnight.
Rating: Summary: Awakening Review: October 29th, 2003 I discovered this book by Dale Canegie. I believe that was the day my fortunes turned. In the week and half that i've read this masterpiece, I sense a new me emerging. I"ve been putting into action many of the principles in human relations outlined by this book and it seems to be working miracles for me. I still find it difficult putting everything Dale says into play, but with time and perseverance it can only get easier. I find myself to be in better spirits and generally more confident around people. People really do respond to genuine kindness and go out of their way to reciprocate. I have recommended this life saver to my family and friends. Let me add, they sensed a change in me. It was too great to keep a secret. This book has been around since the 30's but for me it's tantamount to the discovery of a planet.
Rating: Summary: Free Advice Review: Dale Carnegie's "How To Win Friends And Influence People" is one of the all time best known books on the human relations aspects of leadership. As an instructor in the Dale Carnegie Course for years, I always recommend it to my present day clients who come to my consulting firm for advice on the practical how-to's of leadership. During the years, I sought an easy-to-read, easy-to-understand companion book on the philosophical basics behind leadership, in general, and, Dale Carnegie's thinking, in particular. Now, finally, I have a book that I have been recommending to clients that is probably the most little known, most extensively researched book on leadership philosophy ever written, "West Point: Character Leadership Education" by Norman Thomas Remick. Please understand that I have nothing to gain by recommending these books. My only interest is in having satisfied, successful customers.
Rating: Summary: Practical wisdom Review: This is the only book I know of that gives you step-by-step instructions on how to start ensnaring the weak with the power of your own charisma, turning your friends and loved ones into blindly obeisant sheep willing to cater to your every whim without a second thought. Still, I didn't lose any weight. I recommend "Siddhartha."
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